THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2017
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Husband is a nudist at heart
Dear Annie: I’m a man in know about my desire to go to
my 30s who is a nudist at heart. more nudist events? — Free Bird
Though I enjoy doing things
Dear Free Bird: I would say
clothes-free, my wife, “Jamie,” to continue this dialogue with
does not. Jamie has gone with your wife about why you enjoy
me to a nude beach — and “par- it and what the benefits are for
ticipated” — only once, and that you as an individual. Marriage is
was as a gift for my quit-
about compromise and
DEAR
ting smoking.
seeing things from the
Jamie
reluctantly
other perspective, so it
ANNIE
does put a small damper
allows me to attend one
nudist event a year, but I
on just how free of a bird
you can be. Continue
have found myself want-
to talk to her about the
ing to do more — doing
importance of it to you,
online research about
and be grateful that she
different nudist sites in
does not object to your
my area.
Lane
annual nudist event,
I know that Jamie Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
especially because she
would not want to go to
has no interest in par-
any nudist events her-
self — though I would love it if ticipating. You can never force
she changed her mind — so I’m someone to do something she
trying to figure out how best to does not want to do, but you can
broach the topic of my wanting continue to communicate to her
about why it is so important to
to go alone.
The problem is that she, like you.
Dear Annie: My wife of 30
so many others, mistakenly
believes that naturism is a sexual years moved out of the home
thing. For me and the vast major- a year and a half ago and into
ity of nudists, it’s not. I simply our adjoining apartment. We
enjoy the freedom of being able had not been getting along for a
to be outside naked. Also, most while. I am not a bad person; I
nudists are quite a bit older than have never gone out on my wife.
But she is always angry with
I am.
How should I let my wife me, and it seems I can’t do
anything right.
Originally, our plans were to
eventually sell our house, retire
and travel. My thinking has
changed over time. I love my
wife. But it seems unrealistic to
consider selling everything to
retire with someone who doesn’t
like me and can’t even live with
me under the same roof.
I feel our relationship needs
to be fixed before there is any
discussion of retirement and sell-
ing the house. She is angry with
me for changing our plans. She
sends me emails accusing me of
being a liar. We’re seeing indi-
vidual counselors and a couples
therapist together. The couples
therapist says my wife is full of
wrath. My counselor says that
it sounds as if she has deeper
issues than the relationship and
that I need to take care of myself.
I would appreciate your perspec-
tive. — Blamed and Alone
Dear Blamed and Alone:
My perspective is the same as
your counselor’s. Your wife’s
profound unhappiness wasn’t
caused by your marriage and cer-
tainly won’t be fixed by it. She
needs to decide for herself that
she’s tired of being miserable
and really commit to treatment.
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you fear that
you’re bothering someone by reaching out, it’s
a sign that this person hasn’t made you feel
comfortable and accepted enough to relax.
Not your fault. Also, probably not a good match
for you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Friends are
blessings. You wouldn’t take that for granted.
And yet, you really should be able to feel free,
even a little bit careless around them. Shake
off the uptight energy and, hopefully, they will,
too.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Thinking ahead
will help you play your moments better. A lot of
moments won’t even happen unless you make
a plan. Just don’t get stuck there. You don’t live
inside the plan; you live inside the moment.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Even
though you can tell when someone is lying,
it’s not always wise to call the person out right
away. Going along may give you a strategic
advantage. You can watch and understand
what’s really going on today.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’re a very
responsible person. You’ll take charge of the
situation as far as it should be taken charge of,
all the while keeping in mind that some things
are better left alone.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Inspiration will
come in the form of people you may feel com-
petitive with. It’s something you’ll likely keep
hidden, and wisely so. Let it burble up in you to
be examined and turned into improvement-fuel
later.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll look back and
laugh at some of the rules you used to give
yourself. It’s a good time to ask: “Am I doing the
same thing now? Is there a rule I’m imposing
on myself that is unnecessarily holding me
back?”
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). That tough person
you admire (but wouldn’t exactly want to be ex-
actly) will help you find the courage to cut out
a piece of nonsense and get down to what’s
important to you.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your fantasies are
the celluloid that will project onto the real world
like film to the silver screen. Shift what you
think about toward a topic that makes you feel
giddy, warm and inspired.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
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ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You may feel
a little bit irritable. Do you need more excite-
ment or less excitement to get back into the
zone? Let intuition speak to you and then take
action (or inaction as the case may be).
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re ready to
admit, if only to yourself, what makes you feel
secretly superior. Then you can release the
belief and let compassion take its place. The
more equal and connected you feel to others,
the easier life will be.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Synchronicity
happens so often in your life that it’s almost de
rigueur by now. Nonetheless, it will be a delight
to learn the one you think of is also thinking of
you. You could even show up randomly at the
same place.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 4). You’ll
give your all to projects, so choose them
carefully. A brilliant solo mission will end in
satisfaction, money and a prize. Once you
know what you can handle alone, join a team.
In 2018, first safety and security will invigorate
you; then travel will ignite a new passion.
Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 30, 2, 22, 17 and 9.