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6A FEATURES Hidden infidelity revealed Dear Annie: My cousin “Jake” ity as support for her case. She’d married our mutual friend “Barb” most likely need evidence, such as over 20 years ago. He cheated on a photograph or email exchange, her often during the first 10 years of and because this was over 10 years their marriage. I knew, and so did a ago, that might pose a challenge few other people in the family. But for her. Even if she can’t use it in I couldn’t tell her because I would her case, if she’s directly asked you have been ostracized from about his infidelity, you DEAR my family members for, have a moral imperative to in their eyes, going behind tell her the truth. She may ANNIE Jake’s back. be angry that you didn’t Jake and Barb are now tell her sooner, but fear divorcing for other rea- isn’t a good excuse to con- tinue lying. sons, including his alco- Be sure that any dis- holism and abusive behav- closure you make comes ior. She has heard rumors from a place of love, not about his past cheating Lane and thinks it would help Annie vengeance. That means Creators Syndicate Inc. your motivation should be her divorce case. Should I confirm it for her? Or to help Barb, not hurt Jake, would that turn her against me for your dad or cheaters in general. not telling her 20 years ago? My Dear Annie: I wish you had mom went through something sim- directly addressed the issue of ilar with my father a few years ago. home schooling in your response The anger and hurt my mom and to “The Other Grandmother,” who I experienced over that has made was upset her grandson was being me more sympathetic to Barb, and taken out of home schooling and I’m no longer worried about being sent to a school in New York. I was pressured highly by my loyal to Jake. — I Hate Cheaters family to home-school my son. and Family Secrets Dear I Hate Cheaters and I knew I would be a bad fit, but I Family Secrets: I would encour- gave in to the pressure. I was cor- age her to speak with her attor- rect in my assessment, and my son ney about whether or not she could and I had a terrible year. It wasn’t actually use her husband’s infidel- that I disagreed with home school- ing. But I go to great lengths to give my children what is best for them, and I just knew I was not capable of giving them the best education. I’m not saying that is the reason the parents took “The Other Grand- mother’s” grandson out of home schooling, but it could be. The let- ter didn’t really give a reason. Also, home-schooling kids with difficult behavioral problems is very tricky. It may very well be that these parents are not equipped to help their son. If they’re having problems disciplining him at home, what makes this grandmother think home-schooling him could make that better? It very well might make the matter much worse. I think the parents could highly benefit from taking this year and working hard to figure out what they could do to improve, as well as hope their child gets the help he needs. — Been There Dear Been There: Thank you for sharing your experience. The decision of whether to home- school children is indeed a highly personal one. I encourage parents to think long and hard about what’s best for their children and to resist peer pressure from friends or rel- atives either way. Every family is unique. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 30, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Hansel and Gretel learned the hard way about strangers giving away treats. Maybe the element of danger is still part of the thrill. For you, the only danger will be eating too much of what’s offered in sincerely goodwill. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Doing what scares you has become more or less a regular thing for you lately, and this is just a chance to take it to the next level. Truly, you are brave in ways that others wish to be. You’ll be admired for this. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Trick-or-treating used to be an activity for the poor, who went begging this time of year. Your conscience will be pricked by the idea that there are needy you can help today. The needs might be more emotional than financial, though. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). In the days of old, door-to-door dancing was a way to earn treats. In a sense, it’s what you’ll be doing today — dancing for the approval of a tough customer. You’ll get it, though, if that’s any solace. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Whether or not you wear a costume today, you’ll be keenly aware of the role you play being different from the one you wish to assume and what it will take to remedy the condition. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). According to the lore of Samhain, the dead roam the earth today. But it’s not just the dead looming large in your memory. It’s exes and others you haven’t seen in a while, and they’ll want to get in touch with you, too. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The best opportunities will come from being around people of different generations. The older learn from those younger as much as the younger learn from the older. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Pretending has value beyond novelty and laughs. In today’s pretending you can try on a personality you don’t have, or examine a part of yourself you normally don’t get to explore. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is a chance to express your alter ego, and some- one will be extremely interested in the “you” who emerges with this opportunity. Affections deepen when people get to know multiple facets of each other’s personalities. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). For you, the fun of this day lies in the chance to lighten up and not take your identity or anyone else’s overly seriously. The more fun you witness, the more fun you’ll have. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There’s a wider range of being than the one we nor- mally experience in typical society on a daily basis. Being a monster, president or mythical creature for a time will actually change who you are when you go back to normal. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You are very intrigued by the idea that the dead have something to share with you. Indeed, they have already shared so much. All you have to do is remember or notice to have a spiritu- al experience on this day of haunting spirits. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 31). You are like a ninja this solar return — stealth and focused. Whatever is thrown in your path or directed at you, you’ll turn it to your advan- tage. The next 10 weeks will star love. You’ll help family thrive in February. Virgo and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 9, 1, 39 and 6.
