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Hidden infidelity revealed
Dear Annie: My cousin “Jake” ity as support for her case. She’d
married our mutual friend “Barb” most likely need evidence, such as
over 20 years ago. He cheated on a photograph or email exchange,
her often during the first 10 years of and because this was over 10 years
their marriage. I knew, and so did a ago, that might pose a challenge
few other people in the family. But for her. Even if she can’t use it in
I couldn’t tell her because I would her case, if she’s directly asked you
have been ostracized from
about his infidelity, you
DEAR
my family members for,
have a moral imperative to
in their eyes, going behind
tell her the truth. She may
ANNIE
Jake’s back.
be angry that you didn’t
Jake and Barb are now
tell her sooner, but fear
divorcing for other rea-
isn’t a good excuse to con-
tinue lying.
sons, including his alco-
Be sure that any dis-
holism and abusive behav-
closure you make comes
ior. She has heard rumors
from a place of love, not
about his past cheating
Lane
and thinks it would help Annie
vengeance. That means
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
your motivation should be
her divorce case. Should
I confirm it for her? Or
to help Barb, not hurt Jake,
would that turn her against me for your dad or cheaters in general.
not telling her 20 years ago? My
Dear Annie: I wish you had
mom went through something sim- directly addressed the issue of
ilar with my father a few years ago. home schooling in your response
The anger and hurt my mom and to “The Other Grandmother,” who
I experienced over that has made was upset her grandson was being
me more sympathetic to Barb, and taken out of home schooling and
I’m no longer worried about being sent to a school in New York.
I was pressured highly by my
loyal to Jake. — I Hate Cheaters
family to home-school my son.
and Family Secrets
Dear I Hate Cheaters and I knew I would be a bad fit, but I
Family Secrets: I would encour- gave in to the pressure. I was cor-
age her to speak with her attor- rect in my assessment, and my son
ney about whether or not she could and I had a terrible year. It wasn’t
actually use her husband’s infidel- that I disagreed with home school-
ing. But I go to great lengths to give
my children what is best for them,
and I just knew I was not capable
of giving them the best education.
I’m not saying that is the reason the
parents took “The Other Grand-
mother’s” grandson out of home
schooling, but it could be. The let-
ter didn’t really give a reason.
Also, home-schooling kids
with difficult behavioral problems
is very tricky. It may very well be
that these parents are not equipped
to help their son. If they’re having
problems disciplining him at home,
what makes this grandmother think
home-schooling him could make
that better? It very well might make
the matter much worse. I think the
parents could highly benefit from
taking this year and working hard
to figure out what they could do to
improve, as well as hope their child
gets the help he needs. — Been
There
Dear Been There: Thank
you for sharing your experience.
The decision of whether to home-
school children is indeed a highly
personal one. I encourage parents
to think long and hard about what’s
best for their children and to resist
peer pressure from friends or rel-
atives either way. Every family is
unique.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 30, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Hansel and
Gretel learned the hard way about strangers
giving away treats. Maybe the element of
danger is still part of the thrill. For you, the
only danger will be eating too much of what’s
offered in sincerely goodwill.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Doing what
scares you has become more or less a
regular thing for you lately, and this is just a
chance to take it to the next level. Truly, you
are brave in ways that others wish to be.
You’ll be admired for this.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Trick-or-treating
used to be an activity for the poor, who went
begging this time of year. Your conscience
will be pricked by the idea that there are
needy you can help today. The needs might
be more emotional than financial, though.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). In the
days of old, door-to-door dancing was a way
to earn treats. In a sense, it’s what you’ll be
doing today — dancing for the approval of a
tough customer. You’ll get it, though, if that’s
any solace.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Whether or not
you wear a costume today, you’ll be keenly
aware of the role you play being different
from the one you wish to assume and what it
will take to remedy the condition.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). According
to the lore of Samhain, the dead roam the
earth today. But it’s not just the dead looming
large in your memory. It’s exes and others
you haven’t seen in a while, and they’ll want
to get in touch with you, too.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The best
opportunities will come from being around
people of different generations. The older
learn from those younger as much as the
younger learn from the older.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Pretending has
value beyond novelty and laughs. In today’s
pretending you can try on a personality you
don’t have, or examine a part of yourself you
normally don’t get to explore.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is a
chance to express your alter ego, and some-
one will be extremely interested in the “you”
who emerges with this opportunity. Affections
deepen when people get to know multiple
facets of each other’s personalities.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). For you, the fun
of this day lies in the chance to lighten up
and not take your identity or anyone else’s
overly seriously. The more fun you witness,
the more fun you’ll have.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There’s a
wider range of being than the one we nor-
mally experience in typical society on a daily
basis. Being a monster, president or mythical
creature for a time will actually change who
you are when you go back to normal.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You are very
intrigued by the idea that the dead have
something to share with you. Indeed, they
have already shared so much. All you have
to do is remember or notice to have a spiritu-
al experience on this day of haunting spirits.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 31). You
are like a ninja this solar return — stealth
and focused. Whatever is thrown in your path
or directed at you, you’ll turn it to your advan-
tage. The next 10 weeks will star love. You’ll
help family thrive in February. Virgo and Libra
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 9, 1,
39 and 6.