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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 20, 2017 FEATURES No photos of me, please! Dear Annie: I use Facebook to Am I the only one who feels keep up with relatives and friends, this way? Is it now the expectation but I hardly post anything — espe- that if you attend an event, you will cially not pictures of myself. I am be on Facebook? I am to the point attractive enough, but I’m not pho- of not wanting to go to parties or togenic. These days, I find myself events because of the rudeness of having to discreetly ask people at Facebook lovers. — Don’t Shoot Dear Don’t Shoot: parties and events not to DEAR Taking and posting photos take pictures with me in has become compulsive in them. I will be going to ANNIE our society. We end up liv- a college reunion soon. I ing our own lives vicari- don’t mind being included ously, through lenses and in the big group picture, screens — documenting but I’ve asked the old everything for the future, classmate who will be totally missing the pres- serving as photographer ent. It’s a shame. to keep the camera away Lane Know that you can from me during the social Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. set preferences on Face- time. I want to enjoy our book so that people must time together without wor- rying what will show up on Face- get your permission before “tag- ging” you in a photo, but this will book the next day. Why are people so trigger-happy only prevent the photos from show- with their phones at every event? ing up on your profile; it won’t stop When I ask that photos of me not them from appearing on the inter- be put online, I often get strange net. The only way to avert that is looks, as if to say, “What is wrong by persuading friends to ask before with you?” People treat it as if it’s posting, which I think you should a personal problem I need to deal continue trying to do. Sure, they with, implying I’m overly sensi- might grouse. But if it makes them tive and ruining the fun. Well, I just pause and reflect, even just for a don’t like the idea of my picture moment, on why they feel the need being shown to so many people I to archive every second of their don’t know. Isn’t that OK? Why do lives, you’ve done them a favor. Keep fighting the good fight, even I face backlash for that? if you’re losing. Dear Annie: You recently printed a letter from “Justin F.,” who told about a neighbor who complained that he and his wife had made noise even when they were out of town. It reminded me of my experience with my next- door neighbor. To make a long story short, this elderly woman suffered from auditory hallucina- tions and believed there were peo- ple under her house playing really loud music. (There isn’t even crawl space under there.) The sounds she heard were very real for her. She was not trying to fabricate prob- lems. I am not writing to disagree with the way Justin resolved this dilemma — namely, getting a letter from a lawyer stating that she was interfering with their “legal rights of domicile.” In fact, I see no alter- native. But I wanted to offer a pos- sibility that may not have been con- sidered. — Been There Dear Been There: True, the resolution of “Justin F.’s” dispute might have been the same either way, but your point is definitely worth considering for the future. It just goes to show that you should always assume the most sympa- thetic explanation for someone’s bad behavior and go from there. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The hand you were dealt is but one of many factors that are influencing the game, some of which you can control, most of which you can’t. So you’ll dive into all that’s within your control and play daringly. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There are rea- sons to root for the underdog, choose the road less traveled or quest for impossible outcomes. Sometimes those reasons are good enough, but today not so much. Take on the battle you know you can win. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you don’t feel like making an effort to reach out, fit in, deliver the goods, etc., well, that’s telling you something, too. Maybe this situation is no longer for you, if it ever was. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t have to be merciless about getting your way. But if you’re going to be relentless at anything, be re- lentlessly charming. Why force anyone’s hand when you can cast a spell on it instead? LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). That kindly baby sitter called time, which is supposed to keep ev- erything from happening all at once, does not seem to be doing her job. It’s like she’s checked into her phone and suddenly it’s a free-for-all. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). As is usually the case, much can be accomplished through hard work and continuous improvement. It does take a long time, and it’s not the most exciting way, but it’s the best way. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s always a way to look at life that is cause for alarm. And there’s always another way of finding the sweetness and charm in it. You do the latter, and you’re so attractive because of this that you won’t know whom to choose. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You were uncertain, and now you’re an expert. You were new in the group, and now you’re a leader. You were filled with nervous anticipation, and now it’s old hat. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There are those who will go out of the way to tell you what you didn’t ask to know. They’re not to be believed, and in fact the truth is probably the opposite of what they say. Of course you know this. It’s not your first rodeo. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Question traditional gender roles and other aspects of life in which you could be automatically playing out the script. There’s a danger in slavishly fol- lowing the way things have always been done. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Pay attention to what the others don’t understand and subse- quently ignore or cast off. With your creativity you can easily make something glorious out of the items, jobs and relationships that others can’t value. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You keep putting your feelers into the situation and coming out with the same information: You’re here because it worked once. But don’t be afraid to reach out and explore other situations that could work even better. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 21). You’re onto something totally inspired. Just remember that “almost there” isn’t “there.” Keep going until you reach the goal, even if it takes the entire solar return. Your loved ones will build their lives on the rock of your steadfast care and attention. Because people trust you, you’ll be promoted and well-paid. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 27, 31, 28, 50 and 11.
