THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, OCTOBER 20, 2017
FEATURES
No photos of me, please!
Dear Annie: I use Facebook to
Am I the only one who feels
keep up with relatives and friends, this way? Is it now the expectation
but I hardly post anything — espe- that if you attend an event, you will
cially not pictures of myself. I am be on Facebook? I am to the point
attractive enough, but I’m not pho- of not wanting to go to parties or
togenic. These days, I find myself events because of the rudeness of
having to discreetly ask people at Facebook lovers. — Don’t Shoot
Dear Don’t Shoot:
parties and events not to
DEAR
Taking and posting photos
take pictures with me in
has become compulsive in
them. I will be going to
ANNIE
our society. We end up liv-
a college reunion soon. I
ing our own lives vicari-
don’t mind being included
ously, through lenses and
in the big group picture,
screens — documenting
but I’ve asked the old
everything for the future,
classmate who will be
totally missing the pres-
serving as photographer
ent. It’s a shame.
to keep the camera away
Lane
Know that you can
from me during the social Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
set preferences on Face-
time. I want to enjoy our
book so that people must
time together without wor-
rying what will show up on Face- get your permission before “tag-
ging” you in a photo, but this will
book the next day.
Why are people so trigger-happy only prevent the photos from show-
with their phones at every event? ing up on your profile; it won’t stop
When I ask that photos of me not them from appearing on the inter-
be put online, I often get strange net. The only way to avert that is
looks, as if to say, “What is wrong by persuading friends to ask before
with you?” People treat it as if it’s posting, which I think you should
a personal problem I need to deal continue trying to do. Sure, they
with, implying I’m overly sensi- might grouse. But if it makes them
tive and ruining the fun. Well, I just pause and reflect, even just for a
don’t like the idea of my picture moment, on why they feel the need
being shown to so many people I to archive every second of their
don’t know. Isn’t that OK? Why do lives, you’ve done them a favor.
Keep fighting the good fight, even
I face backlash for that?
if you’re losing.
Dear Annie: You recently
printed a letter from “Justin F.,”
who told about a neighbor who
complained that he and his wife
had made noise even when they
were out of town. It reminded me
of my experience with my next-
door neighbor. To make a long
story short, this elderly woman
suffered from auditory hallucina-
tions and believed there were peo-
ple under her house playing really
loud music. (There isn’t even crawl
space under there.) The sounds she
heard were very real for her. She
was not trying to fabricate prob-
lems. I am not writing to disagree
with the way Justin resolved this
dilemma — namely, getting a letter
from a lawyer stating that she was
interfering with their “legal rights
of domicile.” In fact, I see no alter-
native. But I wanted to offer a pos-
sibility that may not have been con-
sidered. — Been There
Dear Been There: True, the
resolution of “Justin F.’s” dispute
might have been the same either
way, but your point is definitely
worth considering for the future. It
just goes to show that you should
always assume the most sympa-
thetic explanation for someone’s
bad behavior and go from there.
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The hand you
were dealt is but one of many factors that
are influencing the game, some of which you
can control, most of which you can’t. So you’ll
dive into all that’s within your control and play
daringly.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There are rea-
sons to root for the underdog, choose the road
less traveled or quest for impossible outcomes.
Sometimes those reasons are good enough,
but today not so much. Take on the battle you
know you can win.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you don’t feel like
making an effort to reach out, fit in, deliver the
goods, etc., well, that’s telling you something,
too. Maybe this situation is no longer for you, if
it ever was.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t have
to be merciless about getting your way. But if
you’re going to be relentless at anything, be re-
lentlessly charming. Why force anyone’s hand
when you can cast a spell on it instead?
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). That kindly baby sitter
called time, which is supposed to keep ev-
erything from happening all at once, does not
seem to be doing her job. It’s like she’s checked
into her phone and suddenly it’s a free-for-all.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). As is usually the
case, much can be accomplished through hard
work and continuous improvement. It does
take a long time, and it’s not the most exciting
way, but it’s the best way.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s always
a way to look at life that is cause for alarm.
And there’s always another way of finding the
sweetness and charm in it. You do the latter,
and you’re so attractive because of this that
you won’t know whom to choose.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You were
uncertain, and now you’re an expert. You were
new in the group, and now you’re a leader. You
were filled with nervous anticipation, and now
it’s old hat.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There are
those who will go out of the way to tell you
what you didn’t ask to know. They’re not to be
believed, and in fact the truth is probably the
opposite of what they say. Of course you know
this. It’s not your first rodeo.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Question
traditional gender roles and other aspects of
life in which you could be automatically playing
out the script. There’s a danger in slavishly fol-
lowing the way things have always been done.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Pay attention to
what the others don’t understand and subse-
quently ignore or cast off. With your creativity
you can easily make something glorious out
of the items, jobs and relationships that others
can’t value.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You keep putting
your feelers into the situation and coming out
with the same information: You’re here because
it worked once. But don’t be afraid to reach out
and explore other situations that could work
even better.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 21). You’re
onto something totally inspired. Just remember
that “almost there” isn’t “there.” Keep going
until you reach the goal, even if it takes the
entire solar return. Your loved ones will build
their lives on the rock of your steadfast care
and attention. Because people trust you, you’ll
be promoted and well-paid. Capricorn and
Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
27, 31, 28, 50 and 11.