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6A FEATURES Cheating comes back around Dear Annie: My wife and I Marriage counselors aid have been together for 20 years couples grappling with these and married for four. We have issues every day, and I recom- three kids. In the beginning of mend you and your wife set up our relationship, it was bad — an appointment as soon as pos- and the bad all came from me. sible. A professional counselor I cheated on her and hurt her. can help you unpack the years of baggage you’re She stayed by my side, DEAR both carrying, lighten- and that’s when I real- ing the load so you can ized that I have a won- ANNIE finally move forward derful woman. I got in love. my act together and Dear Annie: I saw ended up marrying her. the letter in your col- This year, I have umn written by “Jeal- caught her cheating on ous in Wisconsin.” I me twice. All she does empathize with “Jeal- is say that I have done Lane ous,” because I know it to her in the past. Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. exactly how he feels. I’m stuck, because I My wife and I both don’t want to leave but I also can’t accept the cheating. met when we were just barely What do I do? — Heartbroken 20 years old. I was a very naive 20. I had only had one girl- Hubby Dear Heartbroken friend in my life, and we’d Hubby: Though you put your never even gotten physical. My wife and I married at 21 affairs behind you, your wife clearly wasn’t able to. It was after going together for a year. I wrong of you to cheat, but it was deeply in love. A few years was wrong of her to accept after we got married and had a your proposal if she wasn’t son, I found out some things going to accept the past. Now from a friend of hers. It seems she’s inflicting wounds on you my wife had quite a past with instead of healing her own. other men, including two mar- Such vengeance has no place ried men. I didn’t believe it at first, but it turned out to be true. in a marriage. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, OCTOBER 12, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. I have never looked at her the same. The love I had for her has disappeared. We’ve been married for almost 40 years now because I decided to stay with her — not out of love but out of obligation, I suppose. I haven’t been inti- mate with her for decades and won’t ever again. I suppose she doesn’t care about the inti- mate part; she already had her fun before she met me. She has been a great mom to our son, and she has been kind to me over the years, but things with us will never be as a marriage should be. You can call it wrong to act or feel that way, but I do, and no counseling will ever change that. — Sickened Dear Sickened: Shame on you. Your wife didn’t break any vows, but you did. Rather than love and cherish her, you’ve treated her like dirt, all because of some things she did as a teenager. Your petti- ness has cost this poor woman the joy of a supportive partner- ship, and I’d like you to take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself what it’s bought you. ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you find you are spending just as much time thinking about what is not happening as you are thinking about what is, know that it’s the thought-ratio of unhappiness. More time in the present moment equals more happiness. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The word am- ateur literally means “one who loves.” Those who do not exchange their work for money have the luxury of delivering the very purest personal expression. Enjoy being in the ama- teur stage for as long as it lasts. getting extremely familiar with this road that you will soon own. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). A high-intensity life can still be a happy one, but it works a lot better when you have healthy release valves built into it. Go on the search for better ways to equalize the pressure and effectively cope. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve a sense about what others want from you — not the obvious need on the surface, but the underlying craving that they wouldn’t dare ask for even if they could articulate it. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll witness some brilliant creativity and perhaps par- ticipate in it. Don’t be surprised if there’s something a little subversive about it, as that’s usually part and parcel with creative brilliance. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The joy isn’t in the other thing: It’s in you. Furthermore, joy doesn’t get stolen all that often. Usually people hand it over in a mindless or weak moment. Protect your joy. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Traditions speak to a group identity and from them can spring a sense of belonging. It’s a fine time to make some plans for these final parts of the year that will build the bond between you and the people you care about. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your alone thoughts are different from the thoughts you have when others are around. It’s time to con- sider how the physical and emotional presence of another human being changes things for better or worse. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You need attention. Everyone does. But few work at making it so worthwhile for others to give it to them. You offer a lot of fun, usefulness and loveliness in return for their focus. This is what you’ll be up to today. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You aren’t trying to make a person love you, though you wouldn’t mind if it happened naturally. You’re ready for a little more respect, friendship, atten- tion and even passion. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There’s something dangerous about having your money easily accessible to you today. The more time you take to think about your purchases, the better off you’ll be. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have passed this way before, but don’t worry: You’re not falling backward, regressing, or repeating needless and mindless patterns. You’re simply FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 13). Many times you’ve cycled through the spring of hope, the toil of summer, the autumn of reap- ing and the dormant dreams of winter. This time will not be the same. Now you gather new energies and ideas, and you’ll emerge in 2018 a transformed being. Broaden your scope in March. Travel in May. Give back in July. Aries and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 2, 33 and 14.
