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Cheating comes back around
Dear Annie: My wife and I
Marriage counselors aid
have been together for 20 years couples grappling with these
and married for four. We have issues every day, and I recom-
three kids. In the beginning of mend you and your wife set up
our relationship, it was bad — an appointment as soon as pos-
and the bad all came from me. sible. A professional counselor
I cheated on her and hurt her. can help you unpack the years
of baggage you’re
She stayed by my side,
DEAR
both carrying, lighten-
and that’s when I real-
ing the load so you can
ized that I have a won-
ANNIE
finally move forward
derful woman. I got
in love.
my act together and
Dear Annie: I saw
ended up marrying her.
the letter in your col-
This year, I have
umn written by “Jeal-
caught her cheating on
ous in Wisconsin.” I
me twice. All she does
empathize with “Jeal-
is say that I have done
Lane
ous,” because I know
it to her in the past. Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
exactly how he feels.
I’m stuck, because I
My wife and I both
don’t want to leave but
I also can’t accept the cheating. met when we were just barely
What do I do? — Heartbroken 20 years old. I was a very naive
20. I had only had one girl-
Hubby
Dear
Heartbroken friend in my life, and we’d
Hubby: Though you put your never even gotten physical.
My wife and I married at 21
affairs behind you, your wife
clearly wasn’t able to. It was after going together for a year. I
wrong of you to cheat, but it was deeply in love. A few years
was wrong of her to accept after we got married and had a
your proposal if she wasn’t son, I found out some things
going to accept the past. Now from a friend of hers. It seems
she’s inflicting wounds on you my wife had quite a past with
instead of healing her own. other men, including two mar-
Such vengeance has no place ried men. I didn’t believe it at
first, but it turned out to be true.
in a marriage.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, OCTOBER 12, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
I have never looked at her
the same. The love I had for
her has disappeared. We’ve
been married for almost 40
years now because I decided
to stay with her — not out of
love but out of obligation, I
suppose. I haven’t been inti-
mate with her for decades and
won’t ever again. I suppose
she doesn’t care about the inti-
mate part; she already had her
fun before she met me. She has
been a great mom to our son,
and she has been kind to me
over the years, but things with
us will never be as a marriage
should be.
You can call it wrong to act
or feel that way, but I do, and
no counseling will ever change
that. — Sickened
Dear Sickened: Shame on
you. Your wife didn’t break
any vows, but you did. Rather
than love and cherish her,
you’ve treated her like dirt,
all because of some things she
did as a teenager. Your petti-
ness has cost this poor woman
the joy of a supportive partner-
ship, and I’d like you to take
a long look in the mirror and
ask yourself what it’s bought
you.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you find you
are spending just as much time thinking about
what is not happening as you are thinking
about what is, know that it’s the thought-ratio
of unhappiness. More time in the present
moment equals more happiness.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The word am-
ateur literally means “one who loves.” Those
who do not exchange their work for money
have the luxury of delivering the very purest
personal expression. Enjoy being in the ama-
teur stage for as long as it lasts.
getting extremely familiar with this road that
you will soon own.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). A high-intensity
life can still be a happy one, but it works a lot
better when you have healthy release valves
built into it. Go on the search for better ways to
equalize the pressure and effectively cope.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve a
sense about what others want from you —
not the obvious need on the surface, but the
underlying craving that they wouldn’t dare ask
for even if they could articulate it.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll witness
some brilliant creativity and perhaps par-
ticipate in it. Don’t be surprised if there’s
something a little subversive about it, as that’s
usually part and parcel with creative brilliance.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The joy isn’t
in the other thing: It’s in you. Furthermore, joy
doesn’t get stolen all that often. Usually people
hand it over in a mindless or weak moment.
Protect your joy.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Traditions speak
to a group identity and from them can spring
a sense of belonging. It’s a fine time to make
some plans for these final parts of the year
that will build the bond between you and the
people you care about.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your alone
thoughts are different from the thoughts you
have when others are around. It’s time to con-
sider how the physical and emotional presence
of another human being changes things for
better or worse.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You need attention.
Everyone does. But few work at making it so
worthwhile for others to give it to them. You
offer a lot of fun, usefulness and loveliness in
return for their focus. This is what you’ll be up
to today.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You aren’t
trying to make a person love you, though you
wouldn’t mind if it happened naturally. You’re
ready for a little more respect, friendship, atten-
tion and even passion.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There’s something
dangerous about having your money easily
accessible to you today. The more time you
take to think about your purchases, the better
off you’ll be.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have passed
this way before, but don’t worry: You’re not
falling backward, regressing, or repeating
needless and mindless patterns. You’re simply
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 13). Many
times you’ve cycled through the spring of
hope, the toil of summer, the autumn of reap-
ing and the dormant dreams of winter. This
time will not be the same. Now you gather new
energies and ideas, and you’ll emerge in 2018
a transformed being. Broaden your scope in
March. Travel in May. Give back in July. Aries
and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
9, 40, 2, 33 and 14.