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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 3, 2017 FEATURES Sisters in a stalemate Dear Annie: I am having issues in small doses, but to have her stay with my sister, “Sharon.” We are with us for a few days is really out both in our early 50s and have of the question. always had a good relationship, but When I told my sister that stay- she and my husband, “Rick,” hav- ing with me would not be possi- en’t gotten along in the 26 years ble, she completely shut down. I’ve been married. I would She refuses to talk to me, DEAR describe their relation- even though I emailed her ship as “tolerant” at best. explaining my situation. I ANNIE Because of this, when- have contacted my father, my brother and Sharon’s ever she comes to town, I husband to help mediate, get together with her with- but to no avail. She wants out my husband. But he nothing to do with me. I doesn’t seem to mind. I do feel as if she is focusing have Sharon over for din- all the negative things in ner on occasion, and we Lane her life and directing them manage to get through the Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. at me, that I have become evening. her target. Do you think I The problem we’re fac- ing now: My mother is not well, should continue to reach out to her and we don’t know how much lon- or let it go? — Sisterly Stalemate Dear Sisterly Stalemate: I think ger she has to live. My parents live near my husband and me, and Sha- the first person you need to talk to ron comes into town to visit regu- is your husband. My guess is Sha- ron is fed up with your deferring to larly and usually stays with them. Sharon wanted to come into his preferences all these years. Can town last month and stay with Rick he not put their differences aside for and me instead of our parents. (She just a few days? If his fear is that it had had an argument with our dad would become a habit and she’d be on her previous visit and didn’t staying with you every month, then want to stay with them.) I knew that you can address that by setting clear staying at my house would result in terms with your sister. I understand all kinds of stress between my hus- spending time with her might not band and me. He tolerates Sharon be a walk in the park, but family is family. Unless she’s outright toxic and cruel — which doesn’t seem to be the case, because you’ve always managed to have a good relation- ship with her — there’s no need to ban her from ever staying at your home. Dear Annie: I was unhappy but not surprised to see a recent ques- tion by someone whose electricity is being stolen by a guest who owns an electric car. This is becoming a big trend. Also, I’m seeing more and more retail establishments, government buildings, etc., not only providing free charging stations but also reserving prime parking spaces to those who plug the vehicles in. It seems a parking spot reserved as a charging station is now a higher priority near the door than a hand- icapped parking space! — Glad I’m Retired Dear Glad: You may actually be noticing handicapped-accessible charging spots for electrical vehi- cles. State codes on this matter are still being written, but many busi- nesses aim to make charging spaces accessible to disabled patrons driv- ing electric vehicles. Logistically, this can end up meaning that all the EV spaces are adjacent to handi- capped spaces. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). A completely peaceful and quietly powerful frame of mind will allow you to control what you can and ignore the rest. It’s a brief and fleeting state for sure, but take these kinds of lucky breaks as they come. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You envy people who have the luxury of being able to follow their whims. It takes free time, after all, and dispos- able income. You could make more of both of those things if only you had, well, the luxury to follow your whims. Today brings a lucky break. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Be proactive as you look ahead to the weeks to come. Block out large chunks of time that you can dedicate to what you want to do. If you don’t do this now, your time will be quickly booked up with what you’re only mildly into. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The scientists suggest that the secret to science is asking the right question. Of course, this is the secret to everything else as well. Start with what’s relevant, and expand to the question that covers more than that. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The situation seems a little boring, but there’s something very im- portant happening here, and if you don’t tune in you’ll miss it and waste time going back to pick up what you missed. So tune in. Awareness now will prevent problems later. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Fear, when chan- neled well, is better than coffee at keeping you alert and focused. Fear will elasticize time for you. You’ll experience the power of nanosec- onds! Your performance will be better for it. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Coming up with a good plan means recognizing a bad one. You may blow through hours making plots that fill the wastebasket but it’s nothing compared to FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE what you’d waste following a bad plan. Back to the drawing board. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s not foresight or hindsight but insight that will serve you the best. Examine your reactions to experience — how you’re interpreting this and what meaning you’re assigning to it. Insight is the easiest kind to change. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). This is an ideal time to clear the air and balance unbal- anced relationships. Listen to what’s said: That’s a no-brainer, though it’s even more important to understand what’s not being said. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). People often believe what their friends tell them over what the expert might say. Ultimately though, people believe what they tell themselves. The truth will matter less to people than the source. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Irresistible things are not rational things. They tug at a part of the mind and spirit where logic’s never stepped — a place of magic and memories and happenings that defy the rules of economics and commerce. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There will be selfish attention-stealers out there — marketers, companies and people who want your focus but will not repay you for it in any meaningful way. Stay self-directed. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 4). Heart connections drive the action this year. Changing one habit will lead to favorable results in many areas of life. Your reach broadens through efforts of the next five weeks. You could take your work international, add many new friends to your life or touch people far away with your message. Taurus and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 12, 3, 30 and 17.
