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6A FEATURES Comments about thinness Dear Annie: Why do peo- reply, “That’s between me and ple think it is OK to say rude my doctor.” Leave it at that. things to very thin people? Also, try your best not to take Acquaintances and friends say it too personally. In my experi- such things to me all the time: ence, anyone who makes flip- “You are so skinny! You need pant comments about another to gain weight.” Would they person’s body is most likely unhappy with his or tell a heavy person DEAR her own. that she needs to lose Dear Annie: I weight because she is ANNIE have been married for so fat? I don’t think 30 years. The problem so! is my husband and his I have always had porn. He somewhat a problem keeping admits he has a prob- weight on, except for lem with it but will not a few years in my mid- stop and refuses to go dle age. Now I have a Lane to counseling. I have heart condition and Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. done a little research Type 2 diabetes, and and found that he prob- I really have to watch what I eat. It is a real struggle ably won’t stop without coun- trying to keep from being pain- seling. I have to either ignore it fully thin. I’m getting the same or get a divorce, which I don’t comments all over again. They want. Now all I do is stress over are cruel, hurtful and very dis- couraging. Why is it OK to the fact that all he wants to do insult thin people but not fat is look at these women who people? — Discouraged in KY are half my age. How can he Dear Discouraged: Soci- want me when all he does is etal bias in favor of thinness look at these girls with the leads many to think it’s fine “perfect” body? Recently, he let slip that he to tell people that they’re too thin. But it really isn’t. The has been looking at dating sites next time someone makes that have personal ads. He such a comment, feel free to states that he only reads them for fun. I think this is such a red flag. Seeing as how he lies about the porn, how do I trust him not to lie about everything else? Now I stress out every time he’s on his phone, won- dering what he’s looking at. He’s on it as soon as I leave the room. It is all just a big turnoff for me. What can I do? — Just Stressed Out Dear Stressed Out: Your husband’s addiction to pornog- raphy is about him, not you. So don’t take it as a reflection of any inadequacy on your part. You can’t control his use of porn any more than some- one can control the drinking of a spouse who has alcohol- ism. But you can, and should, express how you’re feeling — hurt, neglected and con- cerned for him and your mar- riage. You can also ask him why he’s so resistant to coun- seling, and see whether you can’t help him work past those blocks. At the end of the day, though, he is the one who must decide he wants help. Until that point, I suggest you see a counselor on your own to help you cope with the stress you’re experiencing. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 28, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). There are things you would throw away if only you were sure that no one else would pick them up and use them. Hold on there. You’re not finished with this work, just taking a break. Look at your tools and resources differently. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Looking fantastic isn’t always feeling fantastic. You’re aware of those who put on a smile even though they are in pain, because you’ve been there too. Your compassion will make all of the difference to someone today. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The characters in the story feel something, and so do you when you participate in the story in any way ... even as an innocent bystander (which will be your recommended role in today’s drama). CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll move forward with a venture that has captured your curiosity. Keep your options open as you go, though, because this isn’t what it seems. There’s a slippery slope ahead. Hold tight to the handrail. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People who are direct and clear communicators will get most of your attention and business now. Do you sense you should be taking notes? Absorbing the ways of masterful communicators will increase your good fortune later. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Be willing to put down your phone and talk to real people in real time. You’ll get into interesting (if seem- ingly pointless) conversations that will later be something you can draw from for energy and inspiration. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you live some- where that has a library, a public gym, a hiking trail, a field, a church or another feature that’s FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE public and free then it’s something to take advantage of today. People need you, and you need people. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The history of a place matters. Whether it’s a happy story or a shameful one, it’s good to know how it was so that when you change it (and you will) you can appreciate the significance of the change. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your willing- ness to listen deeply to someone’s (perhaps delusional) side of the story will help you find peace. This isn’t about forgiveness but about facilitating your own healing and passage to better times. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When you lose your cell connection it’s safe to blame outside interference. Other personal connections are the same today. Don’t take anything personally or assume any motive. Just call again. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You sense ten- sion and can head off conflict before it happens. Distraction is your best tool. You’re excellent at creating diversions that give people something useful to do. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When people are happy they bring their best selves to the party. This is what you bring out in people as you en- courage and acknowledge their better qualities. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 29). Things ramp up slowly, and then good fortune rains on your life. Yours is the lofty ambition, the unreasonable expectation and the outrageous dream that somehow comes true. Go on and be daring, but also know that it’s the grounded people around you who will help you work your practical magic. Taurus and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 45, 11, 19 and 37.
