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Comments about thinness
Dear Annie: Why do peo- reply, “That’s between me and
ple think it is OK to say rude my doctor.” Leave it at that.
things to very thin people? Also, try your best not to take
Acquaintances and friends say it too personally. In my experi-
such things to me all the time: ence, anyone who makes flip-
“You are so skinny! You need pant comments about another
to gain weight.” Would they person’s body is most likely
unhappy with his or
tell a heavy person
DEAR
her own.
that she needs to lose
Dear Annie: I
weight because she is
ANNIE
have been married for
so fat? I don’t think
30 years. The problem
so!
is my husband and his
I have always had
porn. He somewhat
a problem keeping
admits he has a prob-
weight on, except for
lem with it but will not
a few years in my mid-
stop and refuses to go
dle age. Now I have a
Lane
to counseling. I have
heart condition and Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
done a little research
Type 2 diabetes, and
and found that he prob-
I really have to watch
what I eat. It is a real struggle ably won’t stop without coun-
trying to keep from being pain- seling. I have to either ignore it
fully thin. I’m getting the same or get a divorce, which I don’t
comments all over again. They want.
Now all I do is stress over
are cruel, hurtful and very dis-
couraging. Why is it OK to the fact that all he wants to do
insult thin people but not fat is look at these women who
people? — Discouraged in KY are half my age. How can he
Dear Discouraged: Soci- want me when all he does is
etal bias in favor of thinness look at these girls with the
leads many to think it’s fine “perfect” body?
Recently, he let slip that he
to tell people that they’re too
thin. But it really isn’t. The has been looking at dating sites
next time someone makes that have personal ads. He
such a comment, feel free to states that he only reads them
for fun. I think this is such a
red flag. Seeing as how he lies
about the porn, how do I trust
him not to lie about everything
else? Now I stress out every
time he’s on his phone, won-
dering what he’s looking at.
He’s on it as soon as I leave the
room. It is all just a big turnoff
for me. What can I do? — Just
Stressed Out
Dear Stressed Out: Your
husband’s addiction to pornog-
raphy is about him, not you. So
don’t take it as a reflection of
any inadequacy on your part.
You can’t control his use of
porn any more than some-
one can control the drinking
of a spouse who has alcohol-
ism. But you can, and should,
express how you’re feeling
— hurt, neglected and con-
cerned for him and your mar-
riage. You can also ask him
why he’s so resistant to coun-
seling, and see whether you
can’t help him work past those
blocks. At the end of the day,
though, he is the one who must
decide he wants help. Until
that point, I suggest you see a
counselor on your own to help
you cope with the stress you’re
experiencing.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 28, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). There are things
you would throw away if only you were sure
that no one else would pick them up and use
them. Hold on there. You’re not finished with this
work, just taking a break. Look at your tools and
resources differently.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Looking fantastic
isn’t always feeling fantastic. You’re aware of
those who put on a smile even though they are
in pain, because you’ve been there too. Your
compassion will make all of the difference to
someone today.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The characters in
the story feel something, and so do you when
you participate in the story in any way ... even
as an innocent bystander (which will be your
recommended role in today’s drama).
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll move
forward with a venture that has captured your
curiosity. Keep your options open as you go,
though, because this isn’t what it seems.
There’s a slippery slope ahead. Hold tight to the
handrail.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People who are direct
and clear communicators will get most of your
attention and business now. Do you sense you
should be taking notes? Absorbing the ways
of masterful communicators will increase your
good fortune later.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Be willing to put
down your phone and talk to real people in
real time. You’ll get into interesting (if seem-
ingly pointless) conversations that will later be
something you can draw from for energy and
inspiration.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If you live some-
where that has a library, a public gym, a hiking
trail, a field, a church or another feature that’s
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public and free then it’s something to take
advantage of today. People need you, and you
need people.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The history of a
place matters. Whether it’s a happy story or a
shameful one, it’s good to know how it was so
that when you change it (and you will) you can
appreciate the significance of the change.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your willing-
ness to listen deeply to someone’s (perhaps
delusional) side of the story will help you find
peace. This isn’t about forgiveness but about
facilitating your own healing and passage to
better times.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When you lose
your cell connection it’s safe to blame outside
interference. Other personal connections are
the same today. Don’t take anything personally
or assume any motive. Just call again.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You sense ten-
sion and can head off conflict before it happens.
Distraction is your best tool. You’re excellent at
creating diversions that give people something
useful to do.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When people are
happy they bring their best selves to the party.
This is what you bring out in people as you en-
courage and acknowledge their better qualities.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 29). Things
ramp up slowly, and then good fortune rains
on your life. Yours is the lofty ambition, the
unreasonable expectation and the outrageous
dream that somehow comes true. Go on and
be daring, but also know that it’s the grounded
people around you who will help you work your
practical magic. Taurus and Capricorn adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 45, 11, 19 and
37.