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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 2017 FEATURES Wife’s past is upsetting Dear Annie: My wife and I and if she knew you now look at have been together since we were her differently because of things just out of high school. We’ve she did 20 years ago, she would been married for 18 years, and be heartbroken. So don’t tell her. we have three glorious children. Though I generally champion We have a great relationship, but the importance of talking every I recently discovered she was problem out with a romantic partner, unfounded jeal- extremely promiscuous DEAR ousy is the exception. If in high school and found you aired your feelings, out she slept with many ANNIE they’d grow like fanned of our friends, some of flames. You’d most whom are still in our likely make your wife social circle. I have feel defensive, and her always had a jealous defensiveness would in nature, and now the jeal- turn make you feel less ousy is overwhelming secure about the mar- my daily thoughts, espe- Lane riage. Deprive these cially when we see these Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. fiery feelings of oxy- other guys. Although the gen and they’ll eventu- encounters happened before my time with her, I still ally die out. It’s also not worth talking feel cheated on and don’t look at her the way I once did. I have not about it with her because this is brought it up with her, because I about you, not your relationship. know she will get super defen- Do some digging and try to get sive, and I know she will not to the root of your insecurity. go to counseling because of the Use positive self-talk to encour- nature of the topic. Any insight age rational thinking. And if the into getting over this would be obsessive thoughts won’t stop appreciated, as I do love her and nagging you, consider therapy. Dear Annie: I recently vis- want to be with her. — Jealous ited a small deli-type restaurant in Wisconsin Dear Jealous: Your wife is and ordered a takeout square of still looking at you with the same lasagna. There was a big glass love in her eyes she always has, tip jar of cash right next to the 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. credit card screen. I waited for my order, and when I received it, I placed several bucks in the tip jar — overly generous, as my tab was only $6 — and walked back to my camper. When I opened my bag, I found that my lasagna was a very small edge slice, and it was burned black — not even close to being edible. I am mildly disabled, enough that a stroll back to the restaurant was too much for my bad knees. I would like to know when a tip went from being a reward for exemplary service to a ran- som for basic decency. I sure wish I had my tip money back for that lasagna. Alert to owners: Do you know how your employ- ees are treating your customers? I’ll surely never return, nor will many of the people I related my experience to. Alert to service personnel: What are you going to do when the business where you work folds because customers don’t come back? — Lost Cus- tomer in Wilmington Dear Customer: It sounds as if you didn’t give this server a chance to earn her tip. Next time, speak up. If a restaurant wants to stay in business, it’ll do what it can to keep customers happy. ARIES (March 21-April 19). In today’s case, the question might be a lot more complicated than the answer. This is great news. Hop off that question as soon as possible. Grab a good thing. Apply the simple fix, and get on with it. some other sides. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Some say hon- esty is interesting, and others say it’s boring. Much depends on the context, of course, but maybe what matters is not the level of truth in the words but the level of truth in your intention. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Many of your impulses will be spot on today. This is a day to get the ideas out fast; act on them; and be done with it. Don’t agonize. Don’t ruminate. Don’t second-guess your notions or doubt yourself. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You already know not to base your self-worth on people’s reactions to you. Still, sometimes it’s hard not to take the various moods of your loved ones a little too personally. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re bold in ways that others wish they were. The peo- ple around you may not understand exactly what it is you do, but they appreciate that you do it. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Today you will make a stellar impression, partly because of your careful attention to your appearance, and mostly because you are the best listener around. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As a rule, it’s usually better to go than to stay, to meet people than to not and to learn than to remain ignorant. Of course, rules don’t always apply. There are some interactions you’d be better off not having. Go with your gut. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When do you make the sensible choice? When it makes sense to you! Going against your heart or swallowing your passion makes no sense at all to you, and neither does the option that will cause you to wonder “What if?” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The circumstance of the day may have you feeling like a new adult, entering the workforce astounded at the drudgery of some jobs, wanting to be free like a child again. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just because you devote a large portion of your life to one thing, that doesn’t mean you’re defined by it. You’re not one thing. No one is. To defy strict categorization today, you will show the world FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). This mission you’re considering will be a long one, much longer than you initially thought. The African proverb suggests, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The younger a person is, the more likely he or she is to think in terms of all or nothing. Experienced people aren’t as afraid to deal in subtleties and com- plications. They aren’t as afraid to negotiate. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 20). You’ll get better at delegating as you focus on what’s going to challenge and inspire you. Supporters will leap to assist you: Just say the word. Travel leads to money and money leads to travel in 2018. The more you see of the world (including via relationships with new people) the richer you get (in more ways than one.) Leo and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 2, 19, 35, 11.