THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, SEPTEMBER 19, 2017
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Wife’s past is upsetting
Dear Annie: My wife and I and if she knew you now look at
have been together since we were her differently because of things
just out of high school. We’ve she did 20 years ago, she would
been married for 18 years, and be heartbroken. So don’t tell her.
we have three glorious children. Though I generally champion
We have a great relationship, but the importance of talking every
I recently discovered she was problem out with a romantic
partner, unfounded jeal-
extremely promiscuous
DEAR
ousy is the exception. If
in high school and found
you aired your feelings,
out she slept with many
ANNIE
they’d grow like fanned
of our friends, some of
flames. You’d most
whom are still in our
likely make your wife
social circle. I have
feel defensive, and her
always had a jealous
defensiveness would in
nature, and now the jeal-
turn make you feel less
ousy is overwhelming
secure about the mar-
my daily thoughts, espe-
Lane
riage. Deprive these
cially when we see these Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
fiery feelings of oxy-
other guys. Although the
gen and they’ll eventu-
encounters happened
before my time with her, I still ally die out.
It’s also not worth talking
feel cheated on and don’t look at
her the way I once did. I have not about it with her because this is
brought it up with her, because I about you, not your relationship.
know she will get super defen- Do some digging and try to get
sive, and I know she will not to the root of your insecurity.
go to counseling because of the Use positive self-talk to encour-
nature of the topic. Any insight age rational thinking. And if the
into getting over this would be obsessive thoughts won’t stop
appreciated, as I do love her and nagging you, consider therapy.
Dear Annie: I recently vis-
want to be with her. — Jealous
ited a small deli-type restaurant
in Wisconsin
Dear Jealous: Your wife is and ordered a takeout square of
still looking at you with the same lasagna. There was a big glass
love in her eyes she always has, tip jar of cash right next to the
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
credit card screen. I waited for
my order, and when I received it,
I placed several bucks in the tip
jar — overly generous, as my tab
was only $6 — and walked back
to my camper. When I opened
my bag, I found that my lasagna
was a very small edge slice, and
it was burned black — not even
close to being edible. I am mildly
disabled, enough that a stroll
back to the restaurant was too
much for my bad knees.
I would like to know when
a tip went from being a reward
for exemplary service to a ran-
som for basic decency. I sure
wish I had my tip money back
for that lasagna. Alert to owners:
Do you know how your employ-
ees are treating your customers?
I’ll surely never return, nor will
many of the people I related my
experience to. Alert to service
personnel: What are you going to
do when the business where you
work folds because customers
don’t come back? — Lost Cus-
tomer in Wilmington
Dear Customer: It sounds
as if you didn’t give this server a
chance to earn her tip. Next time,
speak up. If a restaurant wants to
stay in business, it’ll do what it
can to keep customers happy.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). In today’s case,
the question might be a lot more complicated
than the answer. This is great news. Hop off
that question as soon as possible. Grab a
good thing. Apply the simple fix, and get on
with it.
some other sides.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Some say hon-
esty is interesting, and others say it’s boring.
Much depends on the context, of course, but
maybe what matters is not the level of truth
in the words but the level of truth in your
intention.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Many of
your impulses will be spot on today. This is a
day to get the ideas out fast; act on them; and
be done with it. Don’t agonize. Don’t ruminate.
Don’t second-guess your notions or doubt
yourself.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You already
know not to base your self-worth on people’s
reactions to you. Still, sometimes it’s hard not
to take the various moods of your loved ones
a little too personally.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re bold
in ways that others wish they were. The peo-
ple around you may not understand exactly
what it is you do, but they appreciate that you
do it.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Today you will
make a stellar impression, partly because of
your careful attention to your appearance,
and mostly because you are the best listener
around.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As a rule,
it’s usually better to go than to stay, to meet
people than to not and to learn than to remain
ignorant. Of course, rules don’t always apply.
There are some interactions you’d be better
off not having. Go with your gut.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When do you make
the sensible choice? When it makes sense to
you! Going against your heart or swallowing
your passion makes no sense at all to you,
and neither does the option that will cause
you to wonder “What if?”
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The circumstance
of the day may have you feeling like a new
adult, entering the workforce astounded at
the drudgery of some jobs, wanting to be free
like a child again.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just because
you devote a large portion of your life to one
thing, that doesn’t mean you’re defined by it.
You’re not one thing. No one is. To defy strict
categorization today, you will show the world
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). This mission
you’re considering will be a long one, much
longer than you initially thought. The African
proverb suggests, “If you want to go fast, go
alone. If you want to go far, go together.”
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The younger a
person is, the more likely he or she is to think
in terms of all or nothing. Experienced people
aren’t as afraid to deal in subtleties and com-
plications. They aren’t as afraid to negotiate.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 20). You’ll
get better at delegating as you focus on
what’s going to challenge and inspire you.
Supporters will leap to assist you: Just say
the word. Travel leads to money and money
leads to travel in 2018. The more you see of
the world (including via relationships with new
people) the richer you get (in more ways than
one.) Leo and Aries adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 3, 2, 19, 35, 11.