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6A FEATURES He’s not happy with dull sex Dear Annie: My wife and I assisted living facility nearby sev- have been married for close to 40 eral years ago. I am in very good years. Though the sex was never shape for a man in his early 60s, great, it at least used to be enjoy- and I always stay well-groomed. able. Now it is getting pretty dis- I maintain the yard and do at appointing. We have sex about least half the household chores. twice a month. The frequency is When the kids were growing up, I did the majority not great enough for me, DEAR of the chores and tak- but the bigger issue is ing care of them, as my the way we do it: with- ANNIE wife’s job required her out much intimacy. That to work long hours. We seems to be the way she get along great, with the likes it. There is no pas- only complaint being in sion in our kissing and the bed. We are still too hasn’t been for at least young to have such a 20 years. Every couple mundane sex life. She of weeks, we have sex Lane knows I want more inti- in the same exact rou- Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. macy, but she has no tine fashion. I want to desire to provide it and give her pleasure, but she seems to just want to get it says she’s content with the way over with. I really miss the inti- things are. — Unsatisfied Dear Unsatisfied: One thing mate part of sex, as I love kiss- ing and caressing and appreciat- that stuck out in your letter is that you get together with your ing her body. I also want to state that I have friends only once or twice a year. tried to be a model partner to her. Being the “model partner” does I have always worked, and I am not mean losing your identity the main breadwinner. It is rare outside of the relationship. Focus when I have more than one beer, a bit more on yourself and doing and I only get together with the things you find fun. Perhaps giv- guys once or twice a year. I am ing your wife a little space will pretty much a homebody, but I create the room for a desire to do go with my wife to visit her grow. Another thing: Routine in parents, whom we moved to an general life patterns can lead to routine in intimacy. You’ve got to change course now and then to switch out of autopilot. Take a trip somewhere you’ve never been. Pick up a new hobby together. Rediscover excitement together outside the bedroom and it might follow you into it. Dear Annie: Could I sug- gest some more advice for “Lou- ise,” the 81-year-old woman depressed by aging? First, write! Transcribe your favorite child- hood memories. Describe other family members. Recollect the sweetest times with your chil- dren. Commit to paper all the experiences you’d like to relive. If you do, you will never be just a faded photograph a genera- tion from now. To anyone who reads your journals, you will be unforgettable! Second, don’t settle for any more mindless TV. Look up the Great Courses programs. You can tour almost any culture, past or present, virtually. — Learning More Every Day Dear Learning More: Thank you for this recommendation. A passion for learning can light a fire that illuminates all areas of life. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Unsure which way to go, the temptation will be to fit into a group and march on. Don’t be so quick to fall in line today. There’s more for you! Dare to slow down (and stick out) for a minute to observe less obvious options. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). When someone near seems a little blue, you hope to overturn the trend with your compassion and maybe a little levity. Hopefully you’ll do this without setting up an expectation of becoming this person’s 24/7 emotional babysitter. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You believe that what’s worth having is worth working for. But what about when the ones who are doing the work are not the same ones doing the having? Try to set the unfair situation right. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Maybe there are times when it’s appropriate to make a sacrifice, but not now. Rest assured there will be abso- lutely no benefit to sacrificing your plans for the sake of entwining your life with someone else’s today. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s like your mind’s eye is wearing a bifocal. You’ll slant your head one way to view the big picture and another to catch the small (perhaps bothersome) details. All in all you’ll get an accurate view of the emotional landscape. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). For you it’s rather easy to see the difference between bravado and bravery, between the poseurs and the perform- ers. More naive souls around you will be blind to the signals. Your role: wise protector. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). In order to stay inside your own power zone today you’ll need to be aware of the subtle forms of control that people may try to assert. Good news: If they FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE don’t work on you, they won’t be reasserted anytime soon. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Lately you’re con- scious of trying to be extremely laid-back about relationships. You don’t put others in a position of having to choose between you and the other important things in life, and this will be much appreciated now. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Filmmakers aren’t the only ones who benefit from knowing when to go close and when to back up for the wide angle. When you’re setting something up, it’s important to focus close. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In the name of wholeness, you’ll be pulling together polari- ties within you — strengths and weaknesses, attractions and repulsions, the private and the public parts of your personality. There’s power in accepting it all. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You realize that any business you get into is going to have a cer- tain outlay that you’ll have to recoup before you make a profit. Go for the sweat-based instead of the cash-based investment. You’ll learn more. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your tolerance for boredom is low now and getting lower by the hour. This will work in your favor, as you’ll go out of your way to create fun and excitement. Just keep it positively focused! TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 14). There’s a rebelliousness that accompanies this solar return, and you’ll overturn the status quo to get more control over your destiny. A flight of fancy will turn into something lucrative at year’s end. You’ll form a tight team for a victory that serves all in January. Something you lost will return to you in 2018. Leo and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 18, 45, 22 and 37.
