6A
FEATURES
He’s not happy with dull sex
Dear Annie: My wife and I assisted living facility nearby sev-
have been married for close to 40 eral years ago. I am in very good
years. Though the sex was never shape for a man in his early 60s,
great, it at least used to be enjoy- and I always stay well-groomed.
able. Now it is getting pretty dis- I maintain the yard and do at
appointing. We have sex about least half the household chores.
twice a month. The frequency is When the kids were growing
up, I did the majority
not great enough for me,
DEAR
of the chores and tak-
but the bigger issue is
ing care of them, as my
the way we do it: with-
ANNIE
wife’s job required her
out much intimacy. That
to work long hours. We
seems to be the way she
get along great, with the
likes it. There is no pas-
only complaint being in
sion in our kissing and
the bed. We are still too
hasn’t been for at least
young to have such a
20 years. Every couple
mundane sex life. She
of weeks, we have sex
Lane
knows I want more inti-
in the same exact rou- Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
macy, but she has no
tine fashion. I want to
desire to provide it and
give her pleasure, but
she seems to just want to get it says she’s content with the way
over with. I really miss the inti- things are. — Unsatisfied
Dear Unsatisfied: One thing
mate part of sex, as I love kiss-
ing and caressing and appreciat- that stuck out in your letter is
that you get together with your
ing her body.
I also want to state that I have friends only once or twice a year.
tried to be a model partner to her. Being the “model partner” does
I have always worked, and I am not mean losing your identity
the main breadwinner. It is rare outside of the relationship. Focus
when I have more than one beer, a bit more on yourself and doing
and I only get together with the things you find fun. Perhaps giv-
guys once or twice a year. I am ing your wife a little space will
pretty much a homebody, but I create the room for a desire to
do go with my wife to visit her grow.
Another thing: Routine in
parents, whom we moved to an
general life patterns can lead
to routine in intimacy. You’ve
got to change course now and
then to switch out of autopilot.
Take a trip somewhere you’ve
never been. Pick up a new hobby
together. Rediscover excitement
together outside the bedroom and
it might follow you into it.
Dear Annie: Could I sug-
gest some more advice for “Lou-
ise,” the 81-year-old woman
depressed by aging? First, write!
Transcribe your favorite child-
hood memories. Describe other
family members. Recollect the
sweetest times with your chil-
dren. Commit to paper all the
experiences you’d like to relive.
If you do, you will never be just
a faded photograph a genera-
tion from now. To anyone who
reads your journals, you will be
unforgettable!
Second, don’t settle for any
more mindless TV. Look up the
Great Courses programs. You
can tour almost any culture, past
or present, virtually. — Learning
More Every Day
Dear Learning More: Thank
you for this recommendation. A
passion for learning can light a
fire that illuminates all areas of
life.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, SEPTEMBER 13, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Unsure which way
to go, the temptation will be to fit into a group
and march on. Don’t be so quick to fall in line
today. There’s more for you! Dare to slow down
(and stick out) for a minute to observe less
obvious options.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). When someone
near seems a little blue, you hope to overturn
the trend with your compassion and maybe a
little levity. Hopefully you’ll do this without setting
up an expectation of becoming this person’s
24/7 emotional babysitter.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You believe that
what’s worth having is worth working for. But
what about when the ones who are doing the
work are not the same ones doing the having?
Try to set the unfair situation right.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Maybe there are
times when it’s appropriate to make a sacrifice,
but not now. Rest assured there will be abso-
lutely no benefit to sacrificing your plans for the
sake of entwining your life with someone else’s
today.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s like your mind’s eye
is wearing a bifocal. You’ll slant your head one
way to view the big picture and another to catch
the small (perhaps bothersome) details. All in
all you’ll get an accurate view of the emotional
landscape.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). For you it’s rather
easy to see the difference between bravado and
bravery, between the poseurs and the perform-
ers. More naive souls around you will be blind to
the signals. Your role: wise protector.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). In order to stay
inside your own power zone today you’ll need
to be aware of the subtle forms of control that
people may try to assert. Good news: If they
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
don’t work on you, they won’t be reasserted
anytime soon.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Lately you’re con-
scious of trying to be extremely laid-back about
relationships. You don’t put others in a position
of having to choose between you and the other
important things in life, and this will be much
appreciated now.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Filmmakers
aren’t the only ones who benefit from knowing
when to go close and when to back up for the
wide angle. When you’re setting something up,
it’s important to focus close.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In the name of
wholeness, you’ll be pulling together polari-
ties within you — strengths and weaknesses,
attractions and repulsions, the private and the
public parts of your personality. There’s power in
accepting it all.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You realize that
any business you get into is going to have a cer-
tain outlay that you’ll have to recoup before you
make a profit. Go for the sweat-based instead of
the cash-based investment. You’ll learn more.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your tolerance for
boredom is low now and getting lower by the
hour. This will work in your favor, as you’ll go out
of your way to create fun and excitement. Just
keep it positively focused!
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 14). There’s
a rebelliousness that accompanies this solar
return, and you’ll overturn the status quo to get
more control over your destiny. A flight of fancy
will turn into something lucrative at year’s end.
You’ll form a tight team for a victory that serves
all in January. Something you lost will return to
you in 2018. Leo and Gemini adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 9, 18, 45, 22 and 37.