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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JULY 28, 2017 FEATURES Who’s paying for wedding? Dear Annie: We belong to a to 230 invitees. Because of the private club. The club policy allows change in circumstances as to who a member to sponsor a nonmember would be paying and the size of the so that the nonmember can have an event, we asked Bob and Deborah event at the club. However, in the to sign a promissory note to guar- event payment is not received from antee they would pay for this event the nonmember for any reason, if the couple were not to pay. To the member must pay the our surprise, Bob and Deb DEAR bill in full. Last year, our refused to sign any guaran- longtime friends “Bob” tee agreement, saying that ANNIE and “Deborah” asked us they are on a fixed income to sponsor a baby shower and that we should trust for their daughter at our the newlyweds to pay. club. Bob and Deb stated We then contacted the that they would pay for the daughter and asked that event in full. We agreed. At the couple either obtain the end of the event, they a letter of credit from Annie Lane paid as promised. their bank or prepay for Creators Syndicate Inc. the reception. She and Bob and Deb have her fiance declined to do since moved to Florida. But this year, they asked us to host the either. Bob and Deborah now say wedding reception for their daugh- that we are insulting and rude for ter at our club. Bob initially said not trusting their daughter and her it would be handled just like the fiance to pay and that we “are put- baby shower. We agreed. Later, we ting money over friendship.” Are learned that Bob and Deborah were we being insulting and rude to not going to pay for the reception our friends and their daughter? — — that it was up to their daugh- Looking for an Answer in Illinois Dear Looking: Your friends ter and future son-in-law to figure that out. We have no idea about are declining to sign a promissory the income, debt or finances of this note. With an expense as large as young couple and don’t know how a 230-person wedding, that would realistic it is that they’ll be able to cause anyone’s eyebrows to rise. I find it highly suspect that Bob afford all of this. Meanwhile, the reception grew and Deborah rebuffed your request with the excuse that they’re on a fixed income — as if you and your wife are Mr. and Mrs. Moneybags and shouldn’t worry so much about being stuck with the bill. To be fair to the young couple, talk to them directly about your concerns. Perhaps the young man’s family would be willing to sign the promissory note. If not, no prob- lem; there are thousands of other venues they can choose from for their wedding reception. Dear Annie: I just read the letter from “Tossing and Turning,” who was concerned about downsizing her possessions as she gets older, and I want to share an invaluable resource for every senior. No matter where the senior lives in the USA, he or she has a local Area Agency on Aging. Visit the National Asso- ciation of Area Agencies on Aging website (https://www.n4a.org) and enter your ZIP code. The infor- mation and assistance team at the AAA will have answers to many questions and will guide seniors and caregivers through the pro- grams and resources available in the community. — Sherri Dear Sherri: I’ve just visited the website, and it seems to be a fantastic resource. Thanks for pro- viding this information. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you’re willing to subject yourself to it for a few hours (most aren’t), boredom has something to teach you. It can be a kind of meditation in that you do not seek a sense of space and nothingness; rather, it seeks you. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Before you discount your offering as not enough, con- sider that you might be giving it to the wrong person. For someone who knows how to use and value your contribution, it will be more than they dreamed of having. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). One impulsive person will have unpredictable results; two people acting on impulse will be a disaster. You’ll be the grounded force, the voice of rea- son and the hand of authority if necessary. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You look forward to the worry-free moments you’ll have to yourself once you’ve handled a big job. Ask for help. Speed up the process. You owe it to yourself to finish this one quick. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve got a laundry list of desires for the day, but what re- ally matter are safety, health and love. Make those your priority and you can’t lose. Ignore those priorities and you can’t win. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Pause to sort out what another person needs and wants. Make no assumptions! Listen more than you talk. This will be easy to mess up. Getting it right will be easy, too (and profit- able), but require better listening skills. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The big picture will be hard to see. The best vantage is still around a few bends and up a hill. No matter. The thing to do now is make the next move, and the next move after that. It will be enough. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You don’t usually need a lot of outside motivation, but today it will make all the difference. A good coach or cheerleader will energize you to reach the goal. It’s even worth paying for if necessary. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll be asked crazy questions and presented with people’s problems as if you were some kind of magic fairy whose job it is to make everyone happy. That’s leadership for you! LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just as being upset leads to an overabundance of negative thoughts, bliss brings on more positive thoughts than are warranted. Both states of mind are untrue, but in the latter case, who cares? FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As an air sign, it’s no fun for you to be grounded when you’d rather be flying. But being grounded is essential to some things. There are many kinds of growth that are only possible through a process of laying down roots. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ve done quite a lot, and yet, one of the most remark- able things about you is that you don’t let your experience level make you jaded. Today you’ll follow an interest all around the Internet, library or city. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (JULY 29). The jewel of your year is an energizing relationship that allows you the freedom to explore who you are. You’re an excellent manager of life and work, adept at compartmentalizing and keeping an empowering perspective. You’ll be awarded and promoted for the zest you bring to work. Libra and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 2, 12, 50 and 38.
