THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JULY 28, 2017
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Who’s paying for wedding?
Dear Annie: We belong to a to 230 invitees. Because of the
private club. The club policy allows change in circumstances as to who
a member to sponsor a nonmember would be paying and the size of the
so that the nonmember can have an event, we asked Bob and Deborah
event at the club. However, in the to sign a promissory note to guar-
event payment is not received from antee they would pay for this event
the nonmember for any reason, if the couple were not to pay. To
the member must pay the
our surprise, Bob and Deb
DEAR
bill in full. Last year, our
refused to sign any guaran-
longtime friends “Bob”
tee agreement, saying that
ANNIE
and “Deborah” asked us
they are on a fixed income
to sponsor a baby shower
and that we should trust
for their daughter at our
the newlyweds to pay.
club. Bob and Deb stated
We then contacted the
that they would pay for the
daughter and asked that
event in full. We agreed. At
the couple either obtain
the end of the event, they
a letter of credit from
Annie Lane
paid as promised.
their bank or prepay for
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
the reception. She and
Bob and Deb have
her fiance declined to do
since moved to Florida. But
this year, they asked us to host the either. Bob and Deborah now say
wedding reception for their daugh- that we are insulting and rude for
ter at our club. Bob initially said not trusting their daughter and her
it would be handled just like the fiance to pay and that we “are put-
baby shower. We agreed. Later, we ting money over friendship.” Are
learned that Bob and Deborah were we being insulting and rude to
not going to pay for the reception our friends and their daughter? —
— that it was up to their daugh- Looking for an Answer in Illinois
Dear Looking: Your friends
ter and future son-in-law to figure
that out. We have no idea about are declining to sign a promissory
the income, debt or finances of this note. With an expense as large as
young couple and don’t know how a 230-person wedding, that would
realistic it is that they’ll be able to cause anyone’s eyebrows to rise.
I find it highly suspect that Bob
afford all of this.
Meanwhile, the reception grew and Deborah rebuffed your request
with the excuse that they’re on a
fixed income — as if you and your
wife are Mr. and Mrs. Moneybags
and shouldn’t worry so much about
being stuck with the bill.
To be fair to the young couple,
talk to them directly about your
concerns. Perhaps the young man’s
family would be willing to sign the
promissory note. If not, no prob-
lem; there are thousands of other
venues they can choose from for
their wedding reception.
Dear Annie: I just read the letter
from “Tossing and Turning,” who
was concerned about downsizing
her possessions as she gets older,
and I want to share an invaluable
resource for every senior. No matter
where the senior lives in the USA,
he or she has a local Area Agency
on Aging. Visit the National Asso-
ciation of Area Agencies on Aging
website (https://www.n4a.org) and
enter your ZIP code. The infor-
mation and assistance team at the
AAA will have answers to many
questions and will guide seniors
and caregivers through the pro-
grams and resources available in
the community. — Sherri
Dear Sherri: I’ve just visited
the website, and it seems to be a
fantastic resource. Thanks for pro-
viding this information.
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you’re willing
to subject yourself to it for a few hours (most
aren’t), boredom has something to teach you.
It can be a kind of meditation in that you do
not seek a sense of space and nothingness;
rather, it seeks you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Before you
discount your offering as not enough, con-
sider that you might be giving it to the wrong
person. For someone who knows how to use
and value your contribution, it will be more
than they dreamed of having.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). One impulsive
person will have unpredictable results; two
people acting on impulse will be a disaster.
You’ll be the grounded force, the voice of rea-
son and the hand of authority if necessary.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You look
forward to the worry-free moments you’ll have
to yourself once you’ve handled a big job. Ask
for help. Speed up the process. You owe it to
yourself to finish this one quick.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve got a
laundry list of desires for the day, but what re-
ally matter are safety, health and love. Make
those your priority and you can’t lose. Ignore
those priorities and you can’t win.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Pause to
sort out what another person needs and
wants. Make no assumptions! Listen more
than you talk. This will be easy to mess up.
Getting it right will be easy, too (and profit-
able), but require better listening skills.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The big picture
will be hard to see. The best vantage is
still around a few bends and up a hill. No
matter. The thing to do now is make the next
move, and the next move after that. It will be
enough.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You don’t usually
need a lot of outside motivation, but today it
will make all the difference. A good coach or
cheerleader will energize you to reach the
goal. It’s even worth paying for if necessary.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll be asked
crazy questions and presented with people’s
problems as if you were some kind of magic
fairy whose job it is to make everyone happy.
That’s leadership for you!
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just as being
upset leads to an overabundance of negative
thoughts, bliss brings on more positive
thoughts than are warranted. Both states of
mind are untrue, but in the latter case, who
cares?
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As an air
sign, it’s no fun for you to be grounded when
you’d rather be flying. But being grounded
is essential to some things. There are many
kinds of growth that are only possible through
a process of laying down roots.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ve done
quite a lot, and yet, one of the most remark-
able things about you is that you don’t let
your experience level make you jaded. Today
you’ll follow an interest all around the Internet,
library or city.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (JULY 29). The
jewel of your year is an energizing relationship
that allows you the freedom to explore who
you are. You’re an excellent manager of life
and work, adept at compartmentalizing and
keeping an empowering perspective. You’ll be
awarded and promoted for the zest you bring
to work. Libra and Scorpio adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 10, 2, 12, 50 and 38.