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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 6, 2017 FEATURES Getting past a double life Dear Annie: I am a to bear that. 29-year-old intensive care I’m an adult now. My mom nurse. I have been blessed put it in my head to never with what many people would depend on a man and to always want, an amazing husband and be independent. My dad now daughter. But inside I am at a is living his life with his girl- loss for words when it comes friend, who is not even half to facing how I can help the woman my DEAR my mother or surpass this mom is, yet my hardship that my family parents are still ANNIE has dealt with for so many married. I have years. To make this story tried to reach out short, my dad ended up to him and have having a double life and a relationship had two other kids while with him, but he he was married to my always assumes mom. My half brother is I am against him Lane two years older than I am. Annie because of my Creators Syndicate Inc. I didn’t find out until I was mom. Now that I 15. am an adult, I see There was one night that the person he is. I have been blessed with still haunts me to this day, and it makes sense now that a man who will do anything I’m older. I was 5 at the time for my daughter and is always and still remember it as if it there for us. Annie, how do I were yesterday. We were at help my mom to understand my uncle’s. My elder brother it’s OK to move on? How can grabbed my twin brother and I show her that she deserves me and rushed us out the door. happiness and should move He told us, through sobs, what on with her life? My mom is he had just overheard our everything to me, and I want dad saying to his mistress. her to be happy and to under- To see how much my mom stand it’s OK to let go of my cried that night and in the years dad, just as I have done. I will afterward — I wish no one always love him, but it’s best to love from a distance and pray that everything will work out. — Wanting to Help Mom Heal Dear Wanting: You are a wonderful daughter and very sweet to be concerned about your mom. What your fam- ily went through was trau- matic for all of you, and it was no doubt hurtful to your mom on many levels — as a mother wanting the father of her chil- dren to be there but also as a spouse whose love and trust were betrayed. Sometimes when people go through intense traumas, they freeze, stuck in the moment of pain, paralyzed with fear. They never want to risk something terrible happening again. From what you’ve described, coun- seling is your mom’s best bet at working past this. I would also recommend “Waking the Tiger,” a book on trauma by Peter Levine. You are wise not just beyond your years; you seem to have more emotional matu- rity than many people ever manage to develop. Your mother is blessed to have you in her life. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). As for the thing that’s preventing you from giving your best effort, how about you just get rid of it? Once you identify the specific problem, it will be much easier to ask for what you need. You might be directing the question to yourself. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your memory is excellent these days. This works against anyone who owes you money or has offended you. It works well for those who have helped you or charmed you. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll take good fortune when it comes, but you won’t shy away from hardship. In a weird way, you’re glad for the trials that have made you a deeper and abler person. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Contribution is the order of the day, if not the ultimate goal. There is always a place in the world for the givers. Furthermore, the help you give to others will inspire you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your need for order will have you creating it in every environment you enter today. Whether or not this is really your responsibility or not will be irrelevant to you. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Shared tedium, inconveniences and all-around weird experienc- es are cause for bonding. Today’s events could turn into the story that cements a very special relationship. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll be asking yourself a lot of questions today, and you can make the most of this surge in curiosity by directing the questions in a joyful direction. What are you excited about? What about it is exciting? SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll shy away FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE from unpredictable people. You’ve had enough high drama in your life, and it’s rather lost its appeal. Not everything has to be monumental. Pleasant is good, too. Even-tempered folks attract you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). To create lasting value in this world, you need to be two things: determined and consistent. Dig deeper for it today. The project won’t create momentum on its own — but this is not a sign to give up. Stay the course. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Beauty in your soul becomes beauty in your face. Loving thoughts become warmth. Healthy thoughts become vitality. Honest thoughts become trustworthiness. It’s a day to work on your inner game. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve devel- oped skills and grown in confidence (as well in your ability to defend, love and entertain yourself), and so your options have become more numerous and varied than they ever were. Enjoy it. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s the teachers of this world who most touch the future. You’re such a person, whether or not “teaching” is your official role. Your influence will be especially strong tonight. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 7). “Un- breakable human” is an oxymoron. You under- stand that the powerful are not invincible, and this year you’ll assist those who act like they don’t need it. You’ll become indispensable and you’ll be able to bank on this ranking. The next 10 weeks will pad your bank account; reinvest for excellent results in November. Libra and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 11, 40, 23, 16 and 9.
