THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 6, 2017
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Getting past a double life
Dear Annie: I am a to bear that.
29-year-old intensive care
I’m an adult now. My mom
nurse. I have been blessed put it in my head to never
with what many people would depend on a man and to always
want, an amazing husband and be independent. My dad now
daughter. But inside I am at a is living his life with his girl-
loss for words when it comes friend, who is not even half
to facing how I can help
the woman my
DEAR
my mother or surpass this
mom is, yet my
hardship that my family
parents are still
ANNIE
has dealt with for so many
married. I have
years. To make this story
tried to reach out
short, my dad ended up
to him and have
having a double life and
a
relationship
had two other kids while
with him, but he
he was married to my
always assumes
mom. My half brother is
I am against him
Lane
two years older than I am. Annie
because of my
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
I didn’t find out until I was
mom. Now that I
15.
am an adult, I see
There was one night that the person he is.
I have been blessed with
still haunts me to this day,
and it makes sense now that a man who will do anything
I’m older. I was 5 at the time for my daughter and is always
and still remember it as if it there for us. Annie, how do I
were yesterday. We were at help my mom to understand
my uncle’s. My elder brother it’s OK to move on? How can
grabbed my twin brother and I show her that she deserves
me and rushed us out the door. happiness and should move
He told us, through sobs, what on with her life? My mom is
he had just overheard our everything to me, and I want
dad saying to his mistress. her to be happy and to under-
To see how much my mom stand it’s OK to let go of my
cried that night and in the years dad, just as I have done. I will
afterward — I wish no one always love him, but it’s best
to love from a distance and
pray that everything will work
out. — Wanting to Help Mom
Heal
Dear Wanting: You are a
wonderful daughter and very
sweet to be concerned about
your mom. What your fam-
ily went through was trau-
matic for all of you, and it was
no doubt hurtful to your mom
on many levels — as a mother
wanting the father of her chil-
dren to be there but also as a
spouse whose love and trust
were betrayed.
Sometimes when people go
through intense traumas, they
freeze, stuck in the moment of
pain, paralyzed with fear. They
never want to risk something
terrible happening again. From
what you’ve described, coun-
seling is your mom’s best bet
at working past this. I would
also recommend “Waking the
Tiger,” a book on trauma by
Peter Levine.
You are wise not just
beyond your years; you seem
to have more emotional matu-
rity than many people ever
manage to develop. Your
mother is blessed to have you
in her life.
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As for the thing
that’s preventing you from giving your best
effort, how about you just get rid of it? Once
you identify the specific problem, it will be much
easier to ask for what you need. You might be
directing the question to yourself.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your memory is
excellent these days. This works against anyone
who owes you money or has offended you. It
works well for those who have helped you or
charmed you.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll take good
fortune when it comes, but you won’t shy away
from hardship. In a weird way, you’re glad for
the trials that have made you a deeper and
abler person.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Contribution is the
order of the day, if not the ultimate goal. There
is always a place in the world for the givers.
Furthermore, the help you give to others will
inspire you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your need for order will
have you creating it in every environment you
enter today. Whether or not this is really your
responsibility or not will be irrelevant to you.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Shared tedium,
inconveniences and all-around weird experienc-
es are cause for bonding. Today’s events could
turn into the story that cements a very special
relationship.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll be asking
yourself a lot of questions today, and you can
make the most of this surge in curiosity by
directing the questions in a joyful direction.
What are you excited about? What about it is
exciting?
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll shy away
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PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
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LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
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BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
from unpredictable people. You’ve had enough
high drama in your life, and it’s rather lost its
appeal. Not everything has to be monumental.
Pleasant is good, too. Even-tempered folks
attract you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). To create
lasting value in this world, you need to be two
things: determined and consistent. Dig deeper
for it today. The project won’t create momentum
on its own — but this is not a sign to give up.
Stay the course.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Beauty in
your soul becomes beauty in your face. Loving
thoughts become warmth. Healthy thoughts
become vitality. Honest thoughts become
trustworthiness. It’s a day to work on your inner
game.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve devel-
oped skills and grown in confidence (as well
in your ability to defend, love and entertain
yourself), and so your options have become
more numerous and varied than they ever were.
Enjoy it.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s the teachers
of this world who most touch the future. You’re
such a person, whether or not “teaching” is your
official role. Your influence will be especially
strong tonight.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 7). “Un-
breakable human” is an oxymoron. You under-
stand that the powerful are not invincible, and
this year you’ll assist those who act like they
don’t need it. You’ll become indispensable and
you’ll be able to bank on this ranking. The next
10 weeks will pad your bank account; reinvest
for excellent results in November. Libra and
Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 11,
40, 23, 16 and 9.