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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MAY 23, 2017 FEATURES You’re wrong about my life Dear Annie: I have read should send them a column your advice column off and on about meddlesome in-laws for a while and am excited to see straining a marriage. All kidding you have a Facebook page that aside, of course their not-so- subtle hints are annoying. The you post things to. I’d like your advice, as I have phrase “too many cooks” comes in-laws who have sent me var- to mind. Your husband needs to be the one to intervene ious columns of yours DEAR by speaking with his that feature letters from parents. He should tell people whose situa- ANNIE them that this marriage tions they think mirror is just between you and my situation. Though I him and that it is up to appreciate their want- the two of you — and ing to offer your recom- no one else — to find mendations, their per- the right recipe. spective on what my Dear Annie: This is husband and I are fac- Lane in response to the recent ing is rarely accurate. Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. letter from “Sad Nana They’re almost always With So Much to Be off base when it comes to knowing what is really going Thankful For.” Her husband is on. What ends up happening is dying, and her children are help- that I become irritated that they ing with hospice care. Under Medicare, she may are meddling in our lives, and it causes hurt feelings, as well be entitled to the hospice bene- as more problems between my fit, which entails more than just husband and me. What is your a weekly hospice nursing visit. advice to in-laws who want to She needs help from a home offer advice, and what is your health aide, and she may be able advice to me on how to han- to get one through this benefit. dle them and prevent them from The aide would bathe him, dress him, help him get up or down, interfering in the future? — J. Dear J.: Unsolicited advice make his bed, clean his room, is unheeded at best and offen- throw in a load of his laundry, sive at worst. Perhaps you etc. She also may be entitled to a social worker for assistance with other community resources and emotional support for her and her children. Hospice volunteers can come during certain time windows, so “Sad Nana” would know they are coming and could get out of the house for her own appoint- ments, go for a walk or just take a nap (as she is probably sleep-deprived). Many families benefit from a hospice chaplain, someone who is used to dealing with the spir- itual issues surrounding death and dying, which your own clergy may be uncomfortable discussing. I am sad to hear that the needs of “Sad Nana” and her family are not being met by hos- pice. Hospice care is a wonder- ful benefit that Medicare and most insurance providers offer at the end of life. It supports patients and families. — Retired Hospice Nurse Manager Dear Retired: I’m printing your letter in case anyone in a similar situation has not consid- ered or looked into the possibil- ity of home hospice care. Thank you, nurse. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You can either order your tasks by priority or sit back and watch them order themselves. Either way, you’ll get it all finished eventually, so there’s no need to worry or fret. Breathe, and take it one task at a time. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Momentum is working in your favor. You are busy, and you’ll get busier, but it’s all a great pleasure because of the people you get to interact with and the way this job brings out the best in you. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You don’t need an excuse to follow your whims and dreams, but the people who don’t understand will make you feel as though you must have one. Ridiculous! It makes you happy; that is reason enough to do it. CANCER (June 22-July 22). There are moments when you really do feel at one with it all. To be peaceful is to be nothing and everything at the same time — made of the same stuff as the star, the planet and the space in between. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You don’t want to trust that you’re being told the truth. Neither do you want to merely believe it’s true. You want to experience it, to feel it in your bones and live it. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Don’t worry; it’s not really up to you to define yourself. People will come up with their own thoughts and feel- ings about the experience of you. You’re more loved than you could possibly know. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You appreciate your many freedoms, but none is so cher- ished today as the freedom to escape to your imagination and continue to build a heavenly FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE playground there of your very own. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are those who look up to you. You wish they wouldn’t put you on a high pedestal. You strive for humility and relatability. (And yet, to the ones you idolize, you want to be seen as interesting and remarkable.) SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Creating order puts you at ease. Things aren’t even that messy, but you’ll still benefit from taking them to the next level of organization. You’ll get a disproportionate boost of cheerful energy from the task. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You accept who you’ve been. The new you, the deeper you, the you that includes ideas to stretch and challenge the old definition — this person is harder to accept, but when you do you’ll be more powerful. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Seeing the path before you clearly is typically the way you prefer to roll. But today you might actually get quite bored of knowing where you’re headed. The path will wind, and you’ll enjoy the adventure in this. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Loving another person profoundly is its own wondrous adven- ture. “The personal life deeply lived always ex- pands into truths beyond itself.” — Anais Nin TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 24). You approach your work with great attention to detail. The next 10 weeks represent a surge in the usefulness, popularity and demand for what you do. Inside you may be your own worst critic, but outside you’re your own best PR person. Enjoy love lavished on you in November, too. Leo and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 50, 11, 28 and 36.
