THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MAY 23, 2017
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You’re wrong about my life
Dear Annie: I have read should send them a column
your advice column off and on about meddlesome in-laws
for a while and am excited to see straining a marriage. All kidding
you have a Facebook page that aside, of course their not-so-
subtle hints are annoying. The
you post things to.
I’d like your advice, as I have phrase “too many cooks” comes
in-laws who have sent me var- to mind. Your husband needs to
be the one to intervene
ious columns of yours
DEAR
by speaking with his
that feature letters from
parents. He should tell
people whose situa-
ANNIE
them that this marriage
tions they think mirror
is just between you and
my situation. Though I
him and that it is up to
appreciate their want-
the two of you — and
ing to offer your recom-
no one else — to find
mendations, their per-
the right recipe.
spective on what my
Dear Annie: This is
husband and I are fac-
Lane
in
response
to the recent
ing is rarely accurate. Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
letter from “Sad Nana
They’re almost always
With So Much to Be
off base when it comes
to knowing what is really going Thankful For.” Her husband is
on. What ends up happening is dying, and her children are help-
that I become irritated that they ing with hospice care.
Under Medicare, she may
are meddling in our lives, and
it causes hurt feelings, as well be entitled to the hospice bene-
as more problems between my fit, which entails more than just
husband and me. What is your a weekly hospice nursing visit.
advice to in-laws who want to She needs help from a home
offer advice, and what is your health aide, and she may be able
advice to me on how to han- to get one through this benefit.
dle them and prevent them from The aide would bathe him, dress
him, help him get up or down,
interfering in the future? — J.
Dear J.: Unsolicited advice make his bed, clean his room,
is unheeded at best and offen- throw in a load of his laundry,
sive at worst. Perhaps you etc.
She also may be entitled to
a social worker for assistance
with other community resources
and emotional support for her
and her children.
Hospice volunteers can come
during certain time windows, so
“Sad Nana” would know they
are coming and could get out of
the house for her own appoint-
ments, go for a walk or just
take a nap (as she is probably
sleep-deprived).
Many families benefit from a
hospice chaplain, someone who
is used to dealing with the spir-
itual issues surrounding death
and dying, which your own
clergy may be uncomfortable
discussing.
I am sad to hear that the
needs of “Sad Nana” and her
family are not being met by hos-
pice. Hospice care is a wonder-
ful benefit that Medicare and
most insurance providers offer
at the end of life. It supports
patients and families. — Retired
Hospice Nurse Manager
Dear Retired: I’m printing
your letter in case anyone in a
similar situation has not consid-
ered or looked into the possibil-
ity of home hospice care. Thank
you, nurse.
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You can either
order your tasks by priority or sit back and
watch them order themselves. Either way,
you’ll get it all finished eventually, so there’s
no need to worry or fret. Breathe, and take it
one task at a time.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Momentum
is working in your favor. You are busy, and
you’ll get busier, but it’s all a great pleasure
because of the people you get to interact with
and the way this job brings out the best in
you.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You don’t need
an excuse to follow your whims and dreams,
but the people who don’t understand will
make you feel as though you must have one.
Ridiculous! It makes you happy; that is reason
enough to do it.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There are
moments when you really do feel at one with
it all. To be peaceful is to be nothing and
everything at the same time — made of the
same stuff as the star, the planet and the
space in between.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You don’t want to
trust that you’re being told the truth. Neither
do you want to merely believe it’s true. You
want to experience it, to feel it in your bones
and live it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Don’t worry; it’s
not really up to you to define yourself. People
will come up with their own thoughts and feel-
ings about the experience of you. You’re more
loved than you could possibly know.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You appreciate
your many freedoms, but none is so cher-
ished today as the freedom to escape to your
imagination and continue to build a heavenly
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
playground there of your very own.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are those
who look up to you. You wish they wouldn’t
put you on a high pedestal. You strive for
humility and relatability. (And yet, to the ones
you idolize, you want to be seen as interesting
and remarkable.)
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Creating
order puts you at ease. Things aren’t even that
messy, but you’ll still benefit from taking them
to the next level of organization. You’ll get a
disproportionate boost of cheerful energy
from the task.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You accept
who you’ve been. The new you, the deeper
you, the you that includes ideas to stretch and
challenge the old definition — this person is
harder to accept, but when you do you’ll be
more powerful.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Seeing the
path before you clearly is typically the way
you prefer to roll. But today you might actually
get quite bored of knowing where you’re
headed. The path will wind, and you’ll enjoy
the adventure in this.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Loving another
person profoundly is its own wondrous adven-
ture. “The personal life deeply lived always ex-
pands into truths beyond itself.” — Anais Nin
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 24). You
approach your work with great attention to
detail. The next 10 weeks represent a surge
in the usefulness, popularity and demand
for what you do. Inside you may be your own
worst critic, but outside you’re your own best
PR person. Enjoy love lavished on you in
November, too. Leo and Aquarius adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 9, 50, 11, 28 and 36.