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6A FEATURES Politics pulls family apart Dear Annie: We have a sit- Dear Must: Your daugh- uation in our family, and it may ter is still speaking to you, and be a problem in other families. she isn’t broaching the subject Maybe you have an answer to of politics. To me, that sounds an awful lot like agreeing to dis- help us all. I voted my conscience in the agree. So I’m not sure where most recent presidential elec- your uneasiness is coming from here. Perhaps you feel tion, but I feel I am DEAR that she’s silently judg- being punished by my ing you for your beliefs. daughter and her family, ANNIE She’s probably not, but who didn’t agree with even if she is, so what? me. She had an excep- She still loves you. Par- tional education, which ents and children need I believe should have not share the same vot- included consideration ing record to share the of others’ opinions. same values. Focus on Not too much has Lane fertilizing the common been said directly, as Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. ground between you we both know that too two. Let her know how much damage would be done should we broach the sub- much she and your grandchil- ject of the current political sit- dren mean to you. With love and uation. Indeed, I have told her time, any coldness will thaw. Dear Annie: I’d like to offer that I will not argue with her and that I hope we can “agree to one more suggestion in regard to the letter from “Sad Nana With disagree.” I am afraid her lack of respect So Much to Be Thankful For,” for my opinion will cause last- who wrote to express the things ing damage to my relationship she’d like her adult children to with my grandchildren. I love do around the house while she’s them all so much and am not taking care of her terminally ill sure what to do except to hope husband. Please, everyone — friends, that time will heal. Do you have any suggestions? — Must Be family, casual acquaintances — when you see someone who Anon. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 22, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. is serving as a caregiver, ask the caregiver how he or she is doing, as opposed to asking about the person who is under his or her care. This makes the caregiver feel acknowledged, allows the caregiver to give an update on the ill person’s sta- tus if he or she wishes, avoids an uncomfortable response if the ill person is dying, and is a caring way to express concern for the ill person and the whole family. Terminal illness drains everyone, and constant inquiries about how the ill person is when there is no possibility of change or hope for the better are hard blows to the heart. Yes, “John,” the loved one I’m caring for, is dying. But how am I doing? I’m trying to keep myself together for him and trying to do everything I can. I’m dealing with my future loss and a lot of problems with finances, self-care and an over- all feeling of discouragement. Bring some cheer to my life; ask how I’m doing. — Aurora Dear Aurora: What a valuable insight. Thank you for reminding us of the importance of caring for the caregivers. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Pain is easier to prevent than it is to manage. Keep this in mind as you navigate today’s choices. If you make them without thinking, you could land in an uncomfortable spot. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). What’s import- ant isn’t reaching any particular measure of accomplishment (including age or salary or position); rather, the most important thing is growth itself. You’ll happily move forward. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You put so much energy into your work that you lose yourself completely and become one with the task. The result is masterful, even though you’re no longer thinking critically about how you’re doing. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You like to be around people who show initiative, even if it’s not exactly in the way you would prefer. It will be easier to guide those who have the confi- dence to act than inspire those who don’t. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Accept your mind, even when thoughts are unhelpful or unruly. When you patiently let it wander wherever it wants, you’ll find your mind will get bored of certain tracts and finally settle into being your friend and assistant. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Friends will treat you like family, and family will treat you with the admiration they usually reserve for the most abstract idea of their personal heroes. Enjoy the extra attention. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Try and see your home with fresh eyes, the way you might before guests arrive. From this vantage you’ll note what’s not working for the logistical flow of your life, and/or what’s not meeting your need for beauty and inspiration. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It won’t count as an adventure today unless you muster up the courage to be a beginner. If you’re afraid of being awkward or foolish, that’s OK: It will only add to the satisfaction you feel on the other side of saying “Yes.” SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve a willing crew, though they won’t know automat- ically how to please you. They have to be led. Prompt them in the manner of a comedian gesturing to indicate when to laugh. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The mun- dane tasks of the day will feel much more significant than just taking care of yourself or serving others. Small acts of kindness may very well be our most important purpose for being. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sometimes the most essential thing also happens to be the easiest thing. A simple task taken at a relaxed pace will show you in an extremely attractive light. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The next person who comes to you with a need is your path to changing the world. If no one is coming to you with a need these days, you may have to get the ball rolling by reminding people how you can help. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 23). You’ll totally immerse yourself in your driving pas- sion this year and learn so much more than you thought there was to know about it! This makes you more attractive to certain people, although it also affords you less time to spend with them. The travel you do in July and De- cember will lead to new work in 2018. Cancer and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 22, 28 and 13.
