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Politics pulls family apart
Dear Annie: We have a sit-
Dear Must: Your daugh-
uation in our family, and it may ter is still speaking to you, and
be a problem in other families. she isn’t broaching the subject
Maybe you have an answer to of politics. To me, that sounds
an awful lot like agreeing to dis-
help us all.
I voted my conscience in the agree. So I’m not sure where
most recent presidential elec- your uneasiness is coming from
here. Perhaps you feel
tion, but I feel I am
DEAR
that she’s silently judg-
being punished by my
ing you for your beliefs.
daughter and her family,
ANNIE
She’s probably not, but
who didn’t agree with
even if she is, so what?
me. She had an excep-
She still loves you. Par-
tional education, which
ents and children need
I believe should have
not share the same vot-
included consideration
ing record to share the
of others’ opinions.
same values. Focus on
Not too much has
Lane
fertilizing the common
been said directly, as Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
ground between you
we both know that too
two. Let her know how
much damage would be
done should we broach the sub- much she and your grandchil-
ject of the current political sit- dren mean to you. With love and
uation. Indeed, I have told her time, any coldness will thaw.
Dear Annie: I’d like to offer
that I will not argue with her
and that I hope we can “agree to one more suggestion in regard to
the letter from “Sad Nana With
disagree.”
I am afraid her lack of respect So Much to Be Thankful For,”
for my opinion will cause last- who wrote to express the things
ing damage to my relationship she’d like her adult children to
with my grandchildren. I love do around the house while she’s
them all so much and am not taking care of her terminally ill
sure what to do except to hope husband.
Please, everyone — friends,
that time will heal. Do you have
any suggestions? — Must Be family, casual acquaintances
— when you see someone who
Anon.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 22, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
is serving as a caregiver, ask
the caregiver how he or she is
doing, as opposed to asking
about the person who is under
his or her care. This makes the
caregiver feel acknowledged,
allows the caregiver to give an
update on the ill person’s sta-
tus if he or she wishes, avoids
an uncomfortable response if
the ill person is dying, and is a
caring way to express concern
for the ill person and the whole
family. Terminal illness drains
everyone, and constant inquiries
about how the ill person is when
there is no possibility of change
or hope for the better are hard
blows to the heart.
Yes, “John,” the loved one
I’m caring for, is dying. But
how am I doing? I’m trying to
keep myself together for him
and trying to do everything I
can. I’m dealing with my future
loss and a lot of problems with
finances, self-care and an over-
all feeling of discouragement.
Bring some cheer to my life; ask
how I’m doing. — Aurora
Dear Aurora: What a
valuable insight. Thank you
for reminding us of the
importance of caring for the
caregivers.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Pain is easier to
prevent than it is to manage. Keep this in mind
as you navigate today’s choices. If you make
them without thinking, you could land in an
uncomfortable spot.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). What’s import-
ant isn’t reaching any particular measure of
accomplishment (including age or salary or
position); rather, the most important thing is
growth itself. You’ll happily move forward.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You put so much
energy into your work that you lose yourself
completely and become one with the task.
The result is masterful, even though you’re
no longer thinking critically about how you’re
doing.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You like to be
around people who show initiative, even if it’s
not exactly in the way you would prefer. It will
be easier to guide those who have the confi-
dence to act than inspire those who don’t.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Accept your mind,
even when thoughts are unhelpful or unruly.
When you patiently let it wander wherever it
wants, you’ll find your mind will get bored of
certain tracts and finally settle into being your
friend and assistant.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Friends will treat
you like family, and family will treat you with
the admiration they usually reserve for the
most abstract idea of their personal heroes.
Enjoy the extra attention.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Try and see your
home with fresh eyes, the way you might
before guests arrive. From this vantage you’ll
note what’s not working for the logistical flow
of your life, and/or what’s not meeting your
need for beauty and inspiration.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It won’t count as
an adventure today unless you muster up the
courage to be a beginner. If you’re afraid of
being awkward or foolish, that’s OK: It will only
add to the satisfaction you feel on the other
side of saying “Yes.”
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve a
willing crew, though they won’t know automat-
ically how to please you. They have to be led.
Prompt them in the manner of a comedian
gesturing to indicate when to laugh.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The mun-
dane tasks of the day will feel much more
significant than just taking care of yourself or
serving others. Small acts of kindness may
very well be our most important purpose for
being.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sometimes the
most essential thing also happens to be the
easiest thing. A simple task taken at a relaxed
pace will show you in an extremely attractive
light.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The next person
who comes to you with a need is your path to
changing the world. If no one is coming to you
with a need these days, you may have to get
the ball rolling by reminding people how you
can help.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 23). You’ll
totally immerse yourself in your driving pas-
sion this year and learn so much more than
you thought there was to know about it! This
makes you more attractive to certain people,
although it also affords you less time to spend
with them. The travel you do in July and De-
cember will lead to new work in 2018. Cancer
and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 9, 40, 22, 28 and 13.