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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 10, 2017 FEATURES Searching for the way Dear Annie: I am a 63-year-old and pets and a so-called life, but I retired librarian. I divorced when am not a wealthy woman and can- my children were very young (4 and not just snap my fingers and manu- 6) and never remarried. I attempted facture a lovely house with a white a bit of dating, but for a variety of picket fence. She won’t even speak to me! It’s reasons, things never worked out. My daughter, now 29, has hurtful, and she is selfish. Her tun- nel vision is so bad that she recently completely alien- DEAR can’t see that I am dissatis- ated me because I can’t find fied and not joyous about my “own way.” Our often- ANNIE my present state. Both of prickly relationship took a my children seem to think turn for the worse when we I chose this solitary life. both decided to relocate to Believe me, if I could again Colorado in the upcoming snap my fingers, I would year. I have lived in Colo- choose a far different life. rado and New Mexico sev- What in the heck should eral times but have always Lane I say or do? Thanks in come back (reluctantly) to Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. advance for any advice you the East Coast to address can provide. — Befuddled crises with both my daugh- Dear Befuddled: If you’ve ever ter and my son (addictions, boy- friend problems, college gradua- been on an airplane, then you’ve tions, etc.). In addition, my aging heard a flight attendant announce parents in Michigan have needed that in the event that oxygen masks drop down, secure your own mask help in recent years. I’ll admit I seem to be living out before assisting the person next of my car, as I have given up sev- to you, even if that person is your eral residences to travel to where child. It’s a tried-and-true metaphor I’ve been needed. I am not happy for the importance of self-care. For about this situation and am trying to now, forget (as best you can) the extricate myself from all of my fam- problems with your daughter. Focus ily’s messes. But why is my daugh- on getting your own life in order. Put roots down where you feel ter so furious with me? She has her own life and is engaged to be mar- you could flourish in your golden ried. I firmly intend to have a house years. If you like Colorado, stay 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. there. If you’d rather be closer to your parents, move to Michigan. After decades of hard work, you shouldn’t have to live out of your car. Perhaps you could find part- time work as a librarian. (There are several job search websites tai- lored specifically to the needs of retired people looking for part-time work. Try Retired Brains or Matu- rity Works.) I have a feeling that your relationship with your daugh- ter will improve once you improve your relationship with yourself. Dear Annie: I believe that you meant well, but your advice to “Tea Party Planners,” who wanted to note the charge for the tea party in their invitation, was way off. You do not charge to entertain your friends! If they cannot afford to host the tea party, they should find other ways to gather with friends. Please rethink your position. — Tea’d Off Dear Tea’d: Their question was whether to give notice about the fee in the invitation, not whether they should ask for payment in the first place. So I stand by my reply that it’s better that the invitees know ahead of time — better than sur- prising them with a bill. That said, I hear your point. Charging friends for a luncheon is not my cup of tea, either. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Don’t ask other people for answers today because the an- swers are not in other people. Seek solitude. Be a monk for a few hours. “A monk is a man who is separated from all and who is in harmony with all.” — Evagrius Ponticus SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). An emotion is like a sound: It’s an internal interpretation of an external vibration. The vibration is not the feeling. Feelings don’t exist around us. They are made inside us and can be remade their, too. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Learn the histo- ry and you’ll understand the factors affecting the present situation a lot better. Also, the ones who are in the know will be impressed and perhaps flattered by your curiosity. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Time to refer to your role models. If you are not moved to do so, it’s a sign that you may need to add a new role model. Search high and low for inspiration. P.S.: Your role model does not have to accessible or even alive. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll use your freewheeling spontaneity to capture the attention and interest of your intended. After that, though, self-discipline and organiza- tion are needed. Relationships thrive with structure. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It’s good to know that change is coming, as you dislike having change sprung on you at the last second. The excellent communicators who let you know what to expect will win your loyalty. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Maybe you’re the universal favorite child of the day. People around you will seem to be working just for you. Or maybe it’s just that your needs are in alignment with what others want most to give. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re not waiting for another person to make the situation better. You sense that most of the changes that matter will come from you. You roll up your sleeves and get busy. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The concerns of humans may be an infinitesimal point in the immensity of the universe, but that doesn’t keep them from feeling like a large weight to one person. Bottom line, if it’s a big deal to you, it’s a big deal. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Like a laptop featuring an on-screen spinning ball, informa- tion overload could have you feeling hot and confused. What helps is a way of categorizing and processing this. Use these two catego- ries to start: “Actionable” or “Not actionable.” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Since you know that when you say yes your hyper-vigilance will kick in and you’ll give your very all to the thing, you’re very careful about what you say yes to today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 11). Don’t worry about labeling your pursuits of the next 10 weeks. Your interest may seem scattered and random, but something remarkable is coming together here. In June you’ll get a clear plan and your project will grow to the perfect beautiful size. The same love affair will take many forms this solar return. Leo and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 20, 33, 28 and 15. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It will be rather easy to see the dim shadows of life this morning. Once you change the channel, everywhere you look you today you’ll see life happening in a kind of glad, rejoicing action. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
