THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 10, 2017
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Searching for the way
Dear Annie: I am a 63-year-old and pets and a so-called life, but I
retired librarian. I divorced when am not a wealthy woman and can-
my children were very young (4 and not just snap my fingers and manu-
6) and never remarried. I attempted facture a lovely house with a white
a bit of dating, but for a variety of picket fence.
She won’t even speak to me! It’s
reasons, things never worked out.
My daughter, now 29, has hurtful, and she is selfish. Her tun-
nel vision is so bad that she
recently completely alien-
DEAR
can’t see that I am dissatis-
ated me because I can’t find
fied and not joyous about
my “own way.” Our often-
ANNIE
my present state. Both of
prickly relationship took a
my children seem to think
turn for the worse when we
I chose this solitary life.
both decided to relocate to
Believe me, if I could again
Colorado in the upcoming
snap my fingers, I would
year. I have lived in Colo-
choose a far different life.
rado and New Mexico sev-
What in the heck should
eral times but have always
Lane
I say or do? Thanks in
come back (reluctantly) to Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
advance for any advice you
the East Coast to address
can provide. — Befuddled
crises with both my daugh-
Dear Befuddled: If you’ve ever
ter and my son (addictions, boy-
friend problems, college gradua- been on an airplane, then you’ve
tions, etc.). In addition, my aging heard a flight attendant announce
parents in Michigan have needed that in the event that oxygen masks
drop down, secure your own mask
help in recent years.
I’ll admit I seem to be living out before assisting the person next
of my car, as I have given up sev- to you, even if that person is your
eral residences to travel to where child. It’s a tried-and-true metaphor
I’ve been needed. I am not happy for the importance of self-care. For
about this situation and am trying to now, forget (as best you can) the
extricate myself from all of my fam- problems with your daughter. Focus
ily’s messes. But why is my daugh- on getting your own life in order.
Put roots down where you feel
ter so furious with me? She has her
own life and is engaged to be mar- you could flourish in your golden
ried. I firmly intend to have a house years. If you like Colorado, stay
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
there. If you’d rather be closer to
your parents, move to Michigan.
After decades of hard work, you
shouldn’t have to live out of your
car. Perhaps you could find part-
time work as a librarian. (There
are several job search websites tai-
lored specifically to the needs of
retired people looking for part-time
work. Try Retired Brains or Matu-
rity Works.) I have a feeling that
your relationship with your daugh-
ter will improve once you improve
your relationship with yourself.
Dear Annie: I believe that you
meant well, but your advice to “Tea
Party Planners,” who wanted to note
the charge for the tea party in their
invitation, was way off. You do not
charge to entertain your friends! If
they cannot afford to host the tea
party, they should find other ways to
gather with friends. Please rethink
your position. — Tea’d Off
Dear Tea’d: Their question was
whether to give notice about the fee
in the invitation, not whether they
should ask for payment in the first
place. So I stand by my reply that
it’s better that the invitees know
ahead of time — better than sur-
prising them with a bill. That said,
I hear your point. Charging friends
for a luncheon is not my cup of tea,
either.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Don’t ask other
people for answers today because the an-
swers are not in other people. Seek solitude.
Be a monk for a few hours. “A monk is a
man who is separated from all and who is in
harmony with all.” — Evagrius Ponticus
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). An emotion is
like a sound: It’s an internal interpretation of
an external vibration. The vibration is not the
feeling. Feelings don’t exist around us. They
are made inside us and can be remade their,
too.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Learn the histo-
ry and you’ll understand the factors affecting
the present situation a lot better. Also, the
ones who are in the know will be impressed
and perhaps flattered by your curiosity.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Time
to refer to your role models. If you are not
moved to do so, it’s a sign that you may need
to add a new role model. Search high and
low for inspiration. P.S.: Your role model does
not have to accessible or even alive.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll use your
freewheeling spontaneity to capture the
attention and interest of your intended. After
that, though, self-discipline and organiza-
tion are needed. Relationships thrive with
structure.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It’s good to
know that change is coming, as you dislike
having change sprung on you at the last
second. The excellent communicators who let
you know what to expect will win your loyalty.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Maybe you’re
the universal favorite child of the day. People
around you will seem to be working just for
you. Or maybe it’s just that your needs are in
alignment with what others want most to give.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re not
waiting for another person to make the
situation better. You sense that most of the
changes that matter will come from you. You
roll up your sleeves and get busy.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The concerns of
humans may be an infinitesimal point in the
immensity of the universe, but that doesn’t
keep them from feeling like a large weight to
one person. Bottom line, if it’s a big deal to
you, it’s a big deal.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Like a laptop
featuring an on-screen spinning ball, informa-
tion overload could have you feeling hot and
confused. What helps is a way of categorizing
and processing this. Use these two catego-
ries to start: “Actionable” or “Not actionable.”
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Since you know
that when you say yes your hyper-vigilance
will kick in and you’ll give your very all to the
thing, you’re very careful about what you say
yes to today.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 11). Don’t
worry about labeling your pursuits of the next
10 weeks. Your interest may seem scattered
and random, but something remarkable is
coming together here. In June you’ll get a
clear plan and your project will grow to the
perfect beautiful size. The same love affair will
take many forms this solar return. Leo and
Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
6, 20, 33, 28 and 15.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It will be rather
easy to see the dim shadows of life this
morning. Once you change the channel,
everywhere you look you today you’ll see life
happening in a kind of glad, rejoicing action.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE