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6A FEATURES Daddy’s ‘little girl’ problem Dear Annie: I am abso- everything and runs to her. In my lutely at my wits’ end and seri- opinion, she chose to get mar- ously thinking of divorcing my ried and have a husband. She needs to rely on him for things husband. My husband and I have been and cut the apron strings with married for 11 years. My step- Daddy some and be an adult. I daughter is 26. She married three am not begrudging visits; in fact, I encourage them. But years ago after living DEAR I refuse to change our with her boyfriend for plans simply because a year. The problem is ANNIE she decides, spur of the that she still places her moment, to make an dad over her husband. appearance. He always Her poor husband takes takes her side that we it because he is very should let her come and meek and does what- change our plans. This ever she wants. She defi- makes me the monster nitely wears the pants in Lane if I dare say no. I think the family. She wants to Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. plans should be made be married, but she still accordingly. We should wants to be Daddy’s lit- tle girl. It goes beyond that. She all four do things together. We still has him so high on a pedestal could do a dinner out, a day out, that it is ridiculous for a suppos- etc. My pleas fall on deaf ears. How do you deal with a edly grown woman. She is driving a definite wedge 26-year-old who thinks the world between us, and it is serious. revolves around her? I don’t see They live about two hours away. where she and her husband make She and her husband both have any attempt to create their own jobs. Yet she calls and cries tears friendships and have their own that she misses her dad. They still life. These are supposed to be have date nights; he has offered the happy years when we can go to go places with her if she does out and do as we please, but it is not want to go alone. If she calls far from that. I am about to give and has a problem or something up and start taking vacations by that needs to be fixed, he drops myself. — Desperate in Montana Dear Desperate: You can take a vacation, but these prob- lems will be waiting for you when you get back. So before you get out the suitcase, try get- ting in your husband’s head. He seems to have a guilt complex that makes him feel the need to bend over backward to make his daughter happy. His fuzzy-head- edness on the subject means that you end up having to be the voice of reason — a voice unwel- come to his daughter and there- fore unwelcome to him. (He has the overwhelming need to keep her happy, remember.) If you keep fighting the battle this way, you’re destined to lose. Instead, you need to get him on your side of the issue, whether by going to therapy together or just by putting on your own ther- apist cap and talking it out. Why does he feel compelled to help his daughter all the time? How does he think this will impact her and her marriage in the long run? With some clarity, he should see that this codependent behavior is unhealthy and does his daugh- ter a disservice. She needs to learn how to rely not on her dad or even on her husband but on herself. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 9, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It is common among the superstitious to, when on a lucky streak, disallow any change of behavior. And even if you’re not superstitious, it’s logical to take this approach: Whatever worked, keeping working it. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Don’t plan the minutiae; plan the broad strokes so you’re free to improvise between the lines. This will keep you from boxing yourself into a future that is smaller than it could have been — or, worse, overly influenced by others. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Love isn’t always magical and exciting. Furthermore, a partner doesn’t have to be perfect to be perfect for you. You’ll gladly trade the lightning bolts and fireworks for mutual support that you can trust for the long haul. CANCER (June 22-July 22). People acting out of a sense of duty do not expect to be appreci- ated as you appreciate them, but this will be a nice perk to their jobs and one of the many ways you make the world better by just being you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). This day is for practic- ing and getting good at your craft. It starts with you, alone in a room, repeating the motions, honing your skill. Then you get to summon your courage and test what you know by sharing it more widely. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll set out with the best of intentions and very little control over environmental factors and other circumstances. There will be something awesome about abso- lutely any place you wind up. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Just because you think it, hear it, see it or feel it doesn’t make it true. Use doubt as an instrument to question your own thoughts, and you will save yourself FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE from the inconvenience and drama that comes from making incorrect assumptions. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll have more confidence going into an endeavor if you allow for every possible outcome in your mind, includ- ing dismal failure or wild success. Deem it all acceptable and, suddenly, you’re fearless. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Before the high-pressure situation of the day (and there will be one), go be alone; breathe; get centered; calm your mind to as close to nothingness as you can get. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Get the tedious stuff over and done as soon as possible. The work may stay at a fun level of zero, but the freedom you’ll feel when it’s complete is the first ingredient for the level-10 fun that follows. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Even when you’re not trying to reach out and connect with people, you accidentally start up excellent relationships. It’s a function of your curious mind and unassuming charm. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Should you invest your attention and money in tiny details (like you want to)? There’s no reason not to yield to the temptation. Your belief that the beauty of life is in little things mirrors the beliefs of many artists before you. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 10). To sum it up in three words: You got this. When you think you don’t, it’s like looking for glasses that are on your head. Stop; adjust; see. Follow through with the ideas you have in April: There is a destiny to be released inside one. The people you meet in June will enhance existing relationships. Get training in October. Leo and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 10, 44, 11 and 36.
