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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 27, 2017 FEATURES The fruit of an affair long ago Dear Annie: Last month, my I love him very much and don’t wife of 60 years admitted to a five- want him to think I was involved year affair that occurred 55 years in wife swapping or a party to the ago. I would call it a tryst — with affair. It is bad enough to know sex the same time and the same that he is the product of a cheating place almost every day in a five- mother. My wife tells me she has day workweek. Count ’em! About no remorse, guilt or shame, but she cares about what our son 1,000 encounters, taking would think of her. Tell time out for the birth of DEAR him? Your opinion, please. three babies, vacations, etc. ANNIE — It Was “Only” Sex The hurt has been inde- Dear Only: Should scribable. I think about it you tell your son? I’m constantly. Fortunately, I inclined to say no. There’s have found a psychologist no point in upsetting the I can vent to. I keep telling balance and making him myself it was 55 years ago, feel more like an outsider. but it seems like yesterday. Lane Besides, he already knows I still have my unfaithful Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. who his real dad is: you. wife; she has no place to But if his biological go, and alas, I still love her. During that five-year period, father suffered from any condi- three boys were born. The last one tions of which genetics are a good I am sure is not mine. He is aware predictor, then your son should be that he is different from his siblings aware of that medical history. Raise and has asked me whether he could that concern with your wife. She have been switched at birth. The should want him to be equipped biological father is dead. I think with all the best information to lead our son should know who he was, a long, healthy life. I can’t imagine the range of but his mother does not. We are 80 years old, and time is running out to emotions you must be cycling tell him. With doctors using DNA through on a daily basis. I’m happy information and with Ancestry. that you’ve found a therapist who com, etc., it is only a matter of time can help you process things. Keep before he finds out he has different going. The sting of your wife’s rev- elation will lessen with time. genes than his siblings. Dear Annie: I just read the let- ter from “Inbox Infinity,” who was stressed out by having nearly 7,000 unread emails. I understand com- pletely. I procrastinate, have gen- eralized anxiety and attention defi- cit disorder, and am a perfectionist. Please suggest to “Inbox” that he or she can start the culling pro- cess painlessly by signing up for Unroll.Me, which was suggested to me by a website for adults with ADD. It is an amazing, simple pro- gram that will compile your incom- ing emails into a “daily digest” and make it easy to unsubscribe from what you don’t want. Unroll.Me will not do anything about the emails already archived in your inbox, however. It only organizes incoming mail. For those 7,000 pesky emails, I would sug- gest some tough love. Delete them. Simple as that. If they haven’t been looked at in a week, a month or a year, they most likely are not important or have expired. Don’t even look at them. Just delete them! As for family members, con- sider emailing them after the purge, explaining that you want to recon- nect but recently deleted a whole bunch of emails. They will under- stand, as they probably have sev- eral thousand archived emails also! 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Not where you want to be? Your progress is good enough. It’s meaningful; it’s on time. Reinforce it time and again until you believe it. Any other belief will rob you of the opportunities of the current moment. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Is socializing a pain? An escape? A mystical art? You won’t know until you get out and start talking to people. Helpful and necessary ingredi- ents for the endeavor will include emotional courage, empathy and patience. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Hiding your true feelings will only intensify them. Howev- er, when you look back on this day, you may be very happy that you kept some things to yourself. Timing is everything. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). One way to drive yourself to absolute frustration is to focus on what they “should” be doing. Obviously, there’s a disagreement of terms or intentions there. Instead, focus on you. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If the fight inside your head is making you tired, get out of your head. Do something different. Get away. Travel. See something new. Let the world engage you and you’ll stop engaging yourself. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Where you want to be can’t be mapped with a longitude and latitude. Your destination is feeling, a state of mind, an attitude. Though you’ll never be able to run it on Google Earth, you’ll certainly arrive there. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It can’t be to- tally comfortable and new at the same time. New requires leaving the old; that’s a risk, and risk is inherently uncomfortable. Agree to be inconvenienced by life. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You chased it, and it got away from you. That was a long time ago. You’ve really grown since then. Try again. This time you’ll be quicker, smarter and luckier. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Don’t worry about the whole night, the whole trip, the whole month/year/life. Just worry about the next thing. Make the next right choice; then make it again and again. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Because you’re a disciplined person, it’s not about picking and choosing the tasks that most appeal to you but about doing what you know needs to be done to get where you want to go. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is like throwing a party. There’s that moment before people start coming when you’re worried that no one will. Then there’s the equally anxious moment when everyone is there at once. You’ll look back on both with fondness. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s a danger in thinking too large today. Break it all down into smaller chunks of time, effort and emo- tional investment. The future is made just like the past is made: one moment at a time. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 28). Your experience and talent will be acknowl- edged. In February you’ll be chosen for a job. After that you can make the leap you’ve been considering for years. Training will be necessary in May, and it will be worth the expense. There will be a financial bonus in June and October. Pisces and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 14, 37, 10 and 20.
