THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 27, 2017
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The fruit of an affair long ago
Dear Annie: Last month, my
I love him very much and don’t
wife of 60 years admitted to a five- want him to think I was involved
year affair that occurred 55 years in wife swapping or a party to the
ago. I would call it a tryst — with affair. It is bad enough to know
sex the same time and the same that he is the product of a cheating
place almost every day in a five- mother. My wife tells me she has
day workweek. Count ’em! About no remorse, guilt or shame, but she
cares about what our son
1,000 encounters, taking
would think of her. Tell
time out for the birth of
DEAR
him? Your opinion, please.
three babies, vacations, etc.
ANNIE
— It Was “Only” Sex
The hurt has been inde-
Dear Only: Should
scribable. I think about it
you tell your son? I’m
constantly. Fortunately, I
inclined to say no. There’s
have found a psychologist
no point in upsetting the
I can vent to. I keep telling
balance and making him
myself it was 55 years ago,
feel more like an outsider.
but it seems like yesterday.
Lane
Besides, he already knows
I still have my unfaithful Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
who his real dad is: you.
wife; she has no place to
But if his biological
go, and alas, I still love her.
During that five-year period, father suffered from any condi-
three boys were born. The last one tions of which genetics are a good
I am sure is not mine. He is aware predictor, then your son should be
that he is different from his siblings aware of that medical history. Raise
and has asked me whether he could that concern with your wife. She
have been switched at birth. The should want him to be equipped
biological father is dead. I think with all the best information to lead
our son should know who he was, a long, healthy life.
I can’t imagine the range of
but his mother does not. We are 80
years old, and time is running out to emotions you must be cycling
tell him. With doctors using DNA through on a daily basis. I’m happy
information and with Ancestry. that you’ve found a therapist who
com, etc., it is only a matter of time can help you process things. Keep
before he finds out he has different going. The sting of your wife’s rev-
elation will lessen with time.
genes than his siblings.
Dear Annie: I just read the let-
ter from “Inbox Infinity,” who was
stressed out by having nearly 7,000
unread emails. I understand com-
pletely. I procrastinate, have gen-
eralized anxiety and attention defi-
cit disorder, and am a perfectionist.
Please suggest to “Inbox” that
he or she can start the culling pro-
cess painlessly by signing up for
Unroll.Me, which was suggested
to me by a website for adults with
ADD. It is an amazing, simple pro-
gram that will compile your incom-
ing emails into a “daily digest” and
make it easy to unsubscribe from
what you don’t want.
Unroll.Me will not do anything
about the emails already archived
in your inbox, however. It only
organizes incoming mail. For those
7,000 pesky emails, I would sug-
gest some tough love. Delete them.
Simple as that. If they haven’t
been looked at in a week, a month
or a year, they most likely are not
important or have expired. Don’t
even look at them. Just delete them!
As for family members, con-
sider emailing them after the purge,
explaining that you want to recon-
nect but recently deleted a whole
bunch of emails. They will under-
stand, as they probably have sev-
eral thousand archived emails also!
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Not where you
want to be? Your progress is good enough.
It’s meaningful; it’s on time. Reinforce it time
and again until you believe it. Any other
belief will rob you of the opportunities of the
current moment.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Is socializing
a pain? An escape? A mystical art? You
won’t know until you get out and start talking
to people. Helpful and necessary ingredi-
ents for the endeavor will include emotional
courage, empathy and patience.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Hiding your
true feelings will only intensify them. Howev-
er, when you look back on this day, you may
be very happy that you kept some things to
yourself. Timing is everything.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). One
way to drive yourself to absolute frustration
is to focus on what they “should” be doing.
Obviously, there’s a disagreement of terms
or intentions there. Instead, focus on you.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If the fight inside
your head is making you tired, get out of
your head. Do something different. Get
away. Travel. See something new. Let the
world engage you and you’ll stop engaging
yourself.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Where
you want to be can’t be mapped with a
longitude and latitude. Your destination is
feeling, a state of mind, an attitude. Though
you’ll never be able to run it on Google
Earth, you’ll certainly arrive there.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). It can’t be to-
tally comfortable and new at the same time.
New requires leaving the old; that’s a risk,
and risk is inherently uncomfortable. Agree
to be inconvenienced by life.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You chased
it, and it got away from you. That was a long
time ago. You’ve really grown since then. Try
again. This time you’ll be quicker, smarter
and luckier.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Don’t worry about
the whole night, the whole trip, the whole
month/year/life. Just worry about the next
thing. Make the next right choice; then make
it again and again.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Because
you’re a disciplined person, it’s not about
picking and choosing the tasks that most
appeal to you but about doing what you
know needs to be done to get where you
want to go.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Today is like
throwing a party. There’s that moment before
people start coming when you’re worried
that no one will. Then there’s the equally
anxious moment when everyone is there at
once. You’ll look back on both with fondness.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s a danger
in thinking too large today. Break it all down
into smaller chunks of time, effort and emo-
tional investment. The future is made just
like the past is made: one moment at a time.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 28).
Your experience and talent will be acknowl-
edged. In February you’ll be chosen for a
job. After that you can make the leap you’ve
been considering for years. Training will be
necessary in May, and it will be worth the
expense. There will be a financial bonus in
June and October. Pisces and Gemini adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 14, 37, 10
and 20.