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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, DECEMBER 30, 2016 FEATURES She’s just a little too close Dear Annie: A woman recently people, but I was not able to see started to get close with my hus- that nice person my husband band at work. She always finds described to me at all. I found excuses to ask him to do things her behavior toward me rude with her alone. From what I heard and aggressive. If her only inten- before meeting her, she sounded tion were to be a good friend of smart and fun. My husband said my husband’s and she truly had that she often asked about wanted to meet me, she DEAR me and said she wanted to wouldn’t have acted so meet me. hostilely. I think she is ANNIE just manipulative. I know my husband and trust him. We love When I shared my passionately. So I wasn’t thoughts with my hus- bothered by it at the band, as expected, he beginning and was happy didn’t want to believe for him to have another me. Instead, he said I friend at work. But when am paranoid and jealous. Lane I invited her to our home Annie Of course. She had suc- Creators Syndicate Inc. with other friends, she ceeded in presenting this always couldn’t come for perfect image of herself to a funny reason. him. Now the more I say against Then one day, my husband her the more she’ll be the innocent and I ran into her on the street. I victim. It’s a trick that all women was excited to finally meet this know, but very few men are capa- amazing woman, but she barely ble of understanding the complex- talked to me, looked at me or used ity of women’s nature. I can’t stand this disrespect, my name. She kept seeking eye contact with my husband, say- and I don’t want my husband to be ing his name and walking next around a fake person. How can I to him closely so that I had to be get him to realize that she is not squeezed out from the middle and what he thinks? I look forward to walk behind them. She acted as if reading your advice. It will be eas- she were the wife and I were the ier for my husband to get the mes- sage when it comes from an inde- third person. I like to see the good side of pendent voice. — Frustrated Dear Frustrated: This lady has two faces, and neither one is pretty. With one, she is trying to manipulate a married man into believing she is a sweet pal; with the other, she’s grimacing while all but elbowing his wife into the gutter. Trust your gut, and ask your husband to trust it, too. Dear Annie: You printed a let- ter from “Sick of It,” who related that an acquaintance is “crazy,” “ridiculous,” “filled with hate” and “acting like a spoiled brat.” As a clinical social worker, I would like to suggest that this acquain- tance may, in fact, be mentally ill. In both the letter and the response, the word “crazy” was used in a pejorative manner, as if it were an acceptable bad name to call some- one. If this acquaintance is, in fact, suffering from bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder, she may not be able to control these behaviors. This wouldn’t mean you have to put up with them; some distance might still be the best idea. However, within our culture, “crazy” remains one of the labels we casually damn peo- ple with. Mental illness strikes 1 in 4 Americans. Isn’t it time to be more sensitive and aware of this? — Edwin Cole 7C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Wanting is an affirmation that you lack something, and it only creates more of the same. Instead of wanting, feed the seed that already exists in your life, in the spirit of practical nurturing. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). This tug on your heart is just part of the fun. Enjoy the push-and-pull game of romance. You have to admit: It would be boring if all attractions were mutual and perfectly timed. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your responsi- bilities sometimes get in the way of relation- ships, but they enhance your relationships, too. Your loved ones appreciate the ways the rest of the world appreciates you. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you’re wondering whether or not to telegraph your many mood changes, just don’t. You have a sympathetic core of supporters, but why would you want to wear them out? Stoicism will serve you well. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your love will be felt even in silence. Cooking is another quiet way you express your passion. You’ll be inspired by new ingredients. You’ll be motivated by people who need your kind of food. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You imprint yourself on others, even when merely passing in the street. It’s an interesting thing to think about, your casual impression. To understand the effect you create is no small matter of mind. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Any daily activity can be a path to peace. True — any activity at all! Slow down. Breathe. Be mindful. Your attention to experiences will involve all of your senses as you completely join with the FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE moments of your life. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Value. It’s different for every person. He wants a thing and sees a thing as valuable. She wants and sees it, too, only with a different style of energetic placement. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can’t rest on your good looks these days. Your good acts will make up the difference. If you keep going in this direction, you may just make it to social superstardom! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Head- lines, as a rule, have to be juicy. But you, as a rule, can bite into whatever you want. Choose carefully. There may be a lot of big words around you stacked up to provoke anxiety. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your patience will be tested again and again. Sweeties will press your buttons — an un- derstatement, to be sure. They will actually dance on your buttons or stomp them into bits. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re smiling because you love what just happened. To- morrow will bring more of the same. Today is a resting bit: a time to process, organize and relax. TOMORROW’SBIRTHDAY (Dec. 31). It’s your year to live like it’s heaven on earth. State your wishes; make your preferenc- es known. This is your moment to sate yourself and let the rest of the world adjust. February will bring an interesting alliance. In March is an investment opportunity. April will meld your ideas with the karma of your family. Cancer and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 6, 44, 43 and 28.
