THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, DECEMBER 30, 2016
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She’s just a little too close
Dear Annie: A woman recently people, but I was not able to see
started to get close with my hus- that nice person my husband
band at work. She always finds described to me at all. I found
excuses to ask him to do things her behavior toward me rude
with her alone. From what I heard and aggressive. If her only inten-
before meeting her, she sounded tion were to be a good friend of
smart and fun. My husband said my husband’s and she truly had
that she often asked about
wanted to meet me, she
DEAR
me and said she wanted to
wouldn’t have acted so
meet me.
hostilely. I think she is
ANNIE
just manipulative.
I know my husband
and trust him. We love
When I shared my
passionately. So I wasn’t
thoughts with my hus-
bothered by it at the
band, as expected, he
beginning and was happy
didn’t want to believe
for him to have another
me. Instead, he said I
friend at work. But when
am paranoid and jealous.
Lane
I invited her to our home Annie
Of course. She had suc-
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
with other friends, she
ceeded in presenting this
always couldn’t come for
perfect image of herself to
a funny reason.
him. Now the more I say against
Then one day, my husband her the more she’ll be the innocent
and I ran into her on the street. I victim. It’s a trick that all women
was excited to finally meet this know, but very few men are capa-
amazing woman, but she barely ble of understanding the complex-
talked to me, looked at me or used ity of women’s nature.
I can’t stand this disrespect,
my name. She kept seeking eye
contact with my husband, say- and I don’t want my husband to be
ing his name and walking next around a fake person. How can I
to him closely so that I had to be get him to realize that she is not
squeezed out from the middle and what he thinks? I look forward to
walk behind them. She acted as if reading your advice. It will be eas-
she were the wife and I were the ier for my husband to get the mes-
sage when it comes from an inde-
third person.
I like to see the good side of pendent voice. — Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: This lady
has two faces, and neither one is
pretty. With one, she is trying to
manipulate a married man into
believing she is a sweet pal; with
the other, she’s grimacing while
all but elbowing his wife into the
gutter. Trust your gut, and ask
your husband to trust it, too.
Dear Annie: You printed a let-
ter from “Sick of It,” who related
that an acquaintance is “crazy,”
“ridiculous,” “filled with hate”
and “acting like a spoiled brat.” As
a clinical social worker, I would
like to suggest that this acquain-
tance may, in fact, be mentally ill.
In both the letter and the response,
the word “crazy” was used in a
pejorative manner, as if it were an
acceptable bad name to call some-
one. If this acquaintance is, in fact,
suffering from bipolar disorder or
borderline personality disorder,
she may not be able to control
these behaviors. This wouldn’t
mean you have to put up with
them; some distance might still be
the best idea. However, within our
culture, “crazy” remains one of
the labels we casually damn peo-
ple with. Mental illness strikes 1
in 4 Americans. Isn’t it time to be
more sensitive and aware of this?
— Edwin Cole
7C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Wanting is an
affirmation that you lack something, and it
only creates more of the same. Instead of
wanting, feed the seed that already exists
in your life, in the spirit of practical nurturing.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). This tug on
your heart is just part of the fun. Enjoy the
push-and-pull game of romance. You have
to admit: It would be boring if all attractions
were mutual and perfectly timed.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your responsi-
bilities sometimes get in the way of relation-
ships, but they enhance your relationships,
too. Your loved ones appreciate the ways
the rest of the world appreciates you.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you’re
wondering whether or not to telegraph your
many mood changes, just don’t. You have
a sympathetic core of supporters, but why
would you want to wear them out? Stoicism
will serve you well.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your love will be
felt even in silence. Cooking is another
quiet way you express your passion. You’ll
be inspired by new ingredients. You’ll be
motivated by people who need your kind
of food.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You imprint
yourself on others, even when merely
passing in the street. It’s an interesting thing
to think about, your casual impression. To
understand the effect you create is no small
matter of mind.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Any daily activity
can be a path to peace. True — any activity
at all! Slow down. Breathe. Be mindful. Your
attention to experiences will involve all of
your senses as you completely join with the
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
moments of your life.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Value. It’s
different for every person. He wants a thing
and sees a thing as valuable. She wants
and sees it, too, only with a different style of
energetic placement.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can’t
rest on your good looks these days. Your
good acts will make up the difference. If you
keep going in this direction, you may just
make it to social superstardom!
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Head-
lines, as a rule, have to be juicy. But you,
as a rule, can bite into whatever you want.
Choose carefully. There may be a lot of big
words around you stacked up to provoke
anxiety.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your
patience will be tested again and again.
Sweeties will press your buttons — an un-
derstatement, to be sure. They will actually
dance on your buttons or stomp them into
bits.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re smiling
because you love what just happened. To-
morrow will bring more of the same. Today
is a resting bit: a time to process, organize
and relax.
TOMORROW’SBIRTHDAY (Dec. 31). It’s
your year to live like it’s heaven on earth.
State your wishes; make your preferenc-
es known. This is your moment to sate
yourself and let the rest of the world adjust.
February will bring an interesting alliance.
In March is an investment opportunity. April
will meld your ideas with the karma of your
family. Cancer and Pisces adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 4, 6, 44, 43 and 28.