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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Man tired of cheating wife Dear Annie: I married my high school sweetheart 39 years ago. She is the only woman I have ever slept with, although I am not her only man. When our second daugh- ter was born, her new employer paid the hospital bill. I never suspected anything then, but she started working late and going out for drinks while I stayed home and took care of the kids. I became suspicious and one night found her embracing her boss in the parking lot of their ofice building. I now regret staying with her. I wanted to honor my marriage vows and see that my children were raised with two parents. It hasn’t been worth it. A year ago, my wife convinced me to sign a separate property agree- ment where she got all of the hard assets and the house, and I got to keep personal items along with my business. She then took all of our joint funds and placed them in new accounts and pur- chased property with her boss. I now pay her $2,000 a month for household expenses. I am now 60. I have worked hard, but am no longer moti- vated to support my wife in Annie’s Mailbox Creators Syndicate Inc. Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar any way. I went to counsel- ing because I was so angry. She went for one session and wouldn’t talk about it. I will not cheat on her, but I truly believe that if I were to die, she would move into her boss’ house with- out hesitation. I could get a divorce and move far away, but I could not leave my girls and grandchild. I know my wife would spin the situation to make it seem that I am a failure and she is giving them everything. I don’t want to play her game anymore, but I’m stuck trying to igure out what to do next. — Finally See the Light, But It’s Not Brighter Dear Finally: Being a lov- ing spouse does not mean being a doormat. You have allowed your wife to walk all over you and that includes signing over THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, APRIL 29, 2016 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. property to someone you don’t trust. Your children are grown, and we can assure you that they know more about your marriage than you think. Talk to a law- yer, a good therapist and both of your daughters, and then get out of this mess. Your wife cannot “spin” the situation if you don’t permit it. Dear Annie: I read the letter from “A Mother,” who worried about her 36-year-old son’s vio- lent Facebook posts. Please suggest that she lag these posts on Facebook. On the top right hand corner is a little arrow. When clicked, you can choose “report” and then select a reason why. This will inform Facebook that something inap- propriate has been posted and they can review it. The person who posted it will get a notii- cation from Facebook that their post might be taken down. The complaint is anonymous, the son will get the message and maybe stop posting these things, and Mom won’t be the bad guy. — Facebook Friend Dear Friend: Thanks for the suggestion. Hopefully, Mom (or her son’s wife) will report these posts to Facebook. ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you’re not totally sure whether or not the one you love shares your feelings, the question to ask is: Why are you not sure? You deserve clear com- munication from someone with a strong inten- tion of loving you. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). They’ll think of you as an angel, dropped from the empyre- an to give miraculous help and healing to the mortals. Sure, you usually prefer a down-to- earth assessment, but don’t shut it down too fast. It might be a nice change. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You do like it when they voice their support and approval, but do you need it? Not in the least. Would you proceed in exactly the same way regardless of external support? Absolutely! CANCER (June 22-July 22). Don’t let a rela- tionship get bogged down in material exchang- es. Fairness, justice, mutuality, reciprocity — it all matters, but none of it is exciting or passion- ate. Fiery love doesn’t squabble over pettiness. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). While the goody two-shoes types are busy writing in their dia- ries, the fun people are out making a life wor- thy of those entries. You’ll be a little of both this weekend. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You can be fine with another person’s choices even when those choices do not resemble yours in the least. You deserve the same tolerance from others. Get away from the judgers. Who needs them? LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). While others as- sess your accomplishments to try to under- stand you, you know that you’re much more than what you’ve done. You assess yourself by what you believe you are capable of. Your assessment is closer to truth. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The qualities that are alive in a special relationship happen to be the same qualities you look for in any en- vironment, including your home, work — even your clothing. Comfort, utility and beauty are the values to seek and uphold. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You and your crew are developing a language together. Maybe it’s mostly the same words you use with outsiders but to the inside group they have special, secret meaning, as well as bonding power. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In the pro- cess of giving, you’ll wind up giving even more, perhaps until you feel the pang that tells you “too much!” On the bright side, you’ll never look back and wonder if you loved enough. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). None of the items you come across will have inherent val- ue. You’ll have to assign it. Though strongly in- fluenced by society, you still have free choice in the matter. Declare value for a piece of cher- ished rubbish. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). While you have a viscerally negative reaction to a sink full of dishes or a random paperwork pile, these problems are your chance to straighten up a corner of the world, thus making it a better place. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (APRIL 30). Name three destinations you’d like to reach by your next solar return because a declaration as such holds magic for you now. Next month brings the passing of a test and/or an award. July stitches your heart to the heart of anoth- er. There’s a substantial sale in September. This helps you to see your potential. Virgo and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 13, 20, 5, 25 and 11.