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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Wife feels like piece of meat Dear Annie: My husband, “Derek” and I have been married for 18 years and we have four chil- dren. Lately, I feel like a piece of meat. Derek wants sex every day and grabs my breasts constantly. If I refuse, he pouts. Derek recently lost his job and we were evicted, so we moved in with my mom. The longest Derek has ever held a job is four years. He looks for work, but then sits and plays games on the computer while my mom and I do chores and help the kids with their home- work. I was raised with a strong work ethic, and have been the pri- mary breadwinner for most of our marriage. I resent Derek for not respect- ing me when I say no to his con- stant demands for sex. Even in the midst of a kidney infection, he still wanted me to mess around. I am ready to leave him over these issues. Please help. — Indiana Sex Object Dear Indiana: We think Derek feels inadequate as a provider, DQGLQVWHDGRI¿[LQJWKDWKHXVHV sex as a way to control the rela- tionship and keep you in what he sees as a subservient position. But lest we be accused of practic- ing psychiatry without a license, of women by allowing this calen- dar to hang for all the other boys to ogle in the bathroom. This is sleazy. Creators If a woman has any class or Syndicate Inc. values, this would bother her, as it goes against everything women Kathy KDYHEHHQ¿JKWLQJIRU²QRWWREH Mitchell and looked at as sexual objects and to Marcy Sugar be taken seriously. It’s offensive at any workplace, whether women we strongly urge you to get into are present or not. FRXQVHOLQJ DQG ¿JXUH WKLV RXW If it were my husband, this Derek may have adult ADD or would be a huge character issue. some other problem that inter- For women like you to say this is feres with his ability to hold onto OK is shocking! — K. a job. Obviously, it would be best Dear K.: Please read more if Derek would go with you for carefully. We did not say this was counseling, but if not, go on your OK. In fact, we agree with every- own. Check to see if your work- thing you say about it being sleazy place has an employee assistance and exploitative. Here is where we program that can help. There also differ: She should not be telling her are low-cost counseling options KXVEDQGKRZWRUXQKLVRI¿FH:H available through your clergyper- would say the same if her husband son, United Way, Catholic Chari- objected to something at his wife’s ties and the Department of Chil- RI¿FH²LW¶VQRQHRIKLVEXVLQHVV dren and Family Services. She has registered her complaint Dear Annie: Wow, I was so with him, but how he deals with it surprised by your comment to is entirely his decision, not hers. If “Outraged in Pennsylvania,” that VKH¿QGVKLVUHVSRQVHWREHLQDGH- her husband’s girlie calendar was quate or offensive, and it changes none of her business. how she feels about him, that is Most women I know would a different matter and should be be upset if their husband will- taken up with the nearest marriage ingly encouraged the exploitation counselor. Annie’s Mailbox THE DAILY ASTORIAN FRIDAY, MARCH 18, 2016 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Humor is magic. If you don’t have enough laughter in your life, you don’t have enough magic. The funny people you know are golden treasures, and you will treat them as such because you’re an emotional genius. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Social graces are so much more important than they seem. Reach out to that shy person. It’s not that big of a deal for you, but it will be huge in the other person’s lens. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Go ahead and orient yourself to your own needs. This isn’t the least bit selfish, you know. It’s actually smart, and you’re doing someone else a favor by providing for yourself. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you didn’t make the kind of impression you wanted to make on someone, you’ll get a second chance. So think about it this time — exactly what are you going for? LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The talkers will annoy you. It’s because this isn’t your na- ture. You can’t see the point in talking a good game. In fact, you prefer not to talk at all as you get down to whatever it is you need to do to produce your deliverables. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The other person clearly isn’t asking what can be done to help you out. Maybe it’s because you’re so self-sufficient. Anyway, if you want help, you’re going to have to ask di- rectly for exactly what you need. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have the best ideas, and perhaps you’ll have more of these ideas than others know what to do with. Keep track. Write things down and you can figure out your presentation later. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Have you FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE gotten away from the basics? Food, wa- ter, rest, warmth — and, of course, love. Check each box. You’ll be surprised how much better things go when you are, for instance, properly hydrated. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Stress isn’t attractive or interesting to oth- ers. That’s why you never lead with how “stressed out” you are, even if it happens to be true. Being fun is harder than being anxious, but you make the effort and get the payoff, too. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Don’t accept the pressure someone is putting on you. For the pressure to be real, you both have to agree to it. Don’t agree and it goes away. It’s really as simple as that. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The one who says sorry is actually testing the wa- ters. Listen between the lines. Is this an apology or a way to find out where the boundaries are? PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Romance, for all its beauty, also has the effect of threatening your comfort zone. You’re grappling with this in your mind, trying to figure out how far you’re willing to stray from the pleasantness you’re used to. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 19). You don’t have to take physical risks to prove that you’re brave. Yours is a different sort of courage. You’re willing to let some- one know you. You’re willing to be vulner- able, and to be bad at things for the sake of your own learning and development. Passionate love and popularity are part of your cosmic birthday gift. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 16, 27, 38 and 44.
