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Wife feels like piece of meat
Dear Annie: My husband,
“Derek” and I have been married
for 18 years and we have four chil-
dren. Lately, I feel like a piece of
meat. Derek wants sex every day
and grabs my breasts constantly. If
I refuse, he pouts.
Derek recently lost his job and
we were evicted, so we moved in
with my mom. The longest Derek
has ever held a job is four years.
He looks for work, but then sits
and plays games on the computer
while my mom and I do chores
and help the kids with their home-
work. I was raised with a strong
work ethic, and have been the pri-
mary breadwinner for most of our
marriage.
I resent Derek for not respect-
ing me when I say no to his con-
stant demands for sex. Even in the
midst of a kidney infection, he
still wanted me to mess around. I
am ready to leave him over these
issues. Please help. — Indiana Sex
Object
Dear Indiana: We think Derek
feels inadequate as a provider,
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sex as a way to control the rela-
tionship and keep you in what
he sees as a subservient position.
But lest we be accused of practic-
ing psychiatry without a license,
of women by allowing this calen-
dar to hang for all the other boys
to ogle in the bathroom. This is
sleazy.
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values, this would bother her, as
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If it were my husband, this
Derek may have adult ADD or would be a huge character issue.
some other problem that inter- For women like you to say this is
feres with his ability to hold onto OK is shocking! — K.
a job. Obviously, it would be best
Dear K.: Please read more
if Derek would go with you for carefully. We did not say this was
counseling, but if not, go on your OK. In fact, we agree with every-
own. Check to see if your work- thing you say about it being sleazy
place has an employee assistance and exploitative. Here is where we
program that can help. There also differ: She should not be telling her
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available through your clergyper- would say the same if her husband
son, United Way, Catholic Chari- objected to something at his wife’s
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dren and Family Services.
She has registered her complaint
Dear Annie: Wow, I was so with him, but how he deals with it
surprised by your comment to is entirely his decision, not hers. If
“Outraged in Pennsylvania,” that VKH¿QGVKLVUHVSRQVHWREHLQDGH-
her husband’s girlie calendar was quate or offensive, and it changes
none of her business.
how she feels about him, that is
Most women I know would a different matter and should be
be upset if their husband will- taken up with the nearest marriage
ingly encouraged the exploitation counselor.
Annie’s
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THE DAILY ASTORIAN FRIDAY, MARCH 18, 2016
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Humor is
magic. If you don’t have enough laughter
in your life, you don’t have enough magic.
The funny people you know are golden
treasures, and you will treat them as such
because you’re an emotional genius.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Social
graces are so much more important than
they seem. Reach out to that shy person.
It’s not that big of a deal for you, but it will
be huge in the other person’s lens.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Go ahead
and orient yourself to your own needs.
This isn’t the least bit selfish, you know. It’s
actually smart, and you’re doing someone
else a favor by providing for yourself.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you
didn’t make the kind of impression you
wanted to make on someone, you’ll get a
second chance. So think about it this time
— exactly what are you going for?
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The talkers will
annoy you. It’s because this isn’t your na-
ture. You can’t see the point in talking a
good game. In fact, you prefer not to talk
at all as you get down to whatever it is you
need to do to produce your deliverables.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The other
person clearly isn’t asking what can be
done to help you out. Maybe it’s because
you’re so self-sufficient. Anyway, if you
want help, you’re going to have to ask di-
rectly for exactly what you need.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You have the
best ideas, and perhaps you’ll have more
of these ideas than others know what to
do with. Keep track. Write things down and
you can figure out your presentation later.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Have you
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THATABABY
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PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
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BABY BLUES
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ROSE IS ROSE
gotten away from the basics? Food, wa-
ter, rest, warmth — and, of course, love.
Check each box. You’ll be surprised how
much better things go when you are, for
instance, properly hydrated.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21).
Stress isn’t attractive or interesting to oth-
ers. That’s why you never lead with how
“stressed out” you are, even if it happens
to be true. Being fun is harder than being
anxious, but you make the effort and get
the payoff, too.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Don’t
accept the pressure someone is putting
on you. For the pressure to be real, you
both have to agree to it. Don’t agree and
it goes away. It’s really as simple as that.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The one
who says sorry is actually testing the wa-
ters. Listen between the lines. Is this an
apology or a way to find out where the
boundaries are?
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Romance,
for all its beauty, also has the effect of
threatening your comfort zone. You’re
grappling with this in your mind, trying to
figure out how far you’re willing to stray
from the pleasantness you’re used to.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 19).
You don’t have to take physical risks to
prove that you’re brave. Yours is a different
sort of courage. You’re willing to let some-
one know you. You’re willing to be vulner-
able, and to be bad at things for the sake
of your own learning and development.
Passionate love and popularity are part of
your cosmic birthday gift. Capricorn and
Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 40, 16, 27, 38 and 44.