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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, DECEMBER 1, 2015 FEATURES Tomorrow’s horoscope Man pushes for threesome Dear Annie: I am a 51-year-old attractive professional, divorced twice and currently engaged to a 58-year-old man who also is twice divorced. We met online and hit it off pretty quickly. He has a mag- netic personality, and sex is great between us. He moved in, and I am VXSSRUWLQJKLP¿QDQFLDOO\XQWLOKH gets his businesses in order. He has had four DUIs and recently spent some time in jail. I have stood by him through this. He has always been upfront that he likes to view porn a lot and wants to experiment sexual- ly. This doesn’t bother me. But he posted an ad online asking another woman to join us for sex. While we may fantasize about this in the bedroom, he wants to make it real and this makes me uncomfortable. But he gets angry if I say so. (He also doesn’t like when I mention the money issues between us.) I have been through a lot over the past few years, including get- ting out of an abusive marriage. I also have a young daughter at home. Am I being unreasonable about a threesome or should I re- think this situation? — Confused Dear Confused: This guy is XQUHOLDEOH ¿QDQFLDOO\ DQG HPR- tionally. He wants you to support I, too, had social anxiety for most of my life. In my 30s, I de- cided I just couldn’t continue that way. I started off simply by walk- Creators ing down the hall at work, look- Syndicate Inc. ing people in the eyes and saying, ³*RRGPRUQLQJ´,WZDVYHU\GLI¿- Kathy Mitchell cult in the beginning, but became and easier. Then I took further small Marcy Sugar steps in making social contact with others. him while he indulges himself. His It took a number of years to sexual interests do not coincide reach an acceptable (to me) level with yours. He is manipulating of comfort in social situations. I and pushing you to do something am in my 60s now and have been you don’t want to do. Worse, when WHDFKLQJ IRU D QRQSUR¿W IRU WKH you express yourself, he becomes past 20 years. Who would have angry. thought I would ever be comfort- Based on your history, you able standing up in front of others might not recognize an unhealthy and teaching? I have even spoken relationship, so please allow us to at a national conference. point it out: This guy is not partner “Lonely for Life” should take material. He is not going to be a slow steps and try to get outside KHOSIXO LQÀXHQFH RQ \RX RU \RXU her comfort zone a little each day. daughter and there is great po- It doesn’t happen overnight, but if tential for abuse. The sex may be it can happen for me, then I think great, but it’s not enough to make “Lonely” can do it, too. — No up for his shortcomings. We urge /RQJHUD:DOOÀRZHU you to get away from this guy al- Dear No Longer: Thank you together. for your words of encouragement. Dear Annie: I am writing in We cannot remake the world so response to “Lonely for Life,” the it suits us. Each of us must make teenager who had few friends and the incremental adjustments to was concerned about being “anti- ourselves that will make our lives social.” better. Annie’s Mailbox 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). In the day’s competition, the prize won’t go to the one who is more naturally skilled. Rather, it will go to the one who chooses to develop her skill to the best of her ability. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). For all the times you’ve wondered if a relationship has more potential than you’ve already mined, this is the day to find out. Business relation- ships will be especially lucky for investigat- ing. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You are one of the most flexible signs of the zodiac, and one of the reasons why is that you regularly stretch yourself into unknown territory. Like a dancer, this keeps you emotionally lithe and limber. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The next three days are for setting a precedent, so make sure you’re doing something you’d like to repeat. If it’s not moving the way you want, turn it around now while things are still fresh. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Closure is more important than you think. So is the ritu- al of de-cluttering, which is not just about possessions; it extends to your emotional world, too. Nothing new can come in until you make more room. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Conversa- tion, investigation, research — it’s all part of moving a relationship forward. It’s good to know more about a person before you de- cide what role he or she will play in your life. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Let others handle the technical problems today, be- cause your talent is best applied to helping people feel better on an emotional level. The human-interest angle is wide open and FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE you’re the one best suited to take it on. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You want to do your part. Don’t do more than that. You could, easily. In fact, you’d prefer to step in and take over, but you know that it won’t help things. The team will be stronger when everyone learns to participate. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There is something you’ve been a little afraid to talk about even though you know that the conversation needs to happen. It can’t be put off any longer. Pass on the message. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Today you’ll wear your confidence smooth and tucked away. You don’t need to tell people about your accomplishments, because your attitude will say it all. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It was hard to get up to speed but finally you’re no longer a novice. Now that you know what you’re doing it will take a lot less effort to get results. This leaves you with extra reserves of energy to apply to something new. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s a fine art to ignoring what you can’t do any- thing about. It starts with recognizing the things that fall into that category. You may have made a few errors as you were cate- gorizing. Reassess. WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 2). Your solar return has put your social sav- vy in overdrive. The next three months will feature exciting, nuanced interactions and quiet attention from one who finds you at- tractive. January shows you learning about a different culture. Act quickly to make the most of a financial opportunity in February. Virgo and Aries adore you. Your lucky num- bers are: 9, 5, 20, 15 and 32.
