THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, DECEMBER 1, 2015
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Man pushes for threesome
Dear Annie: I am a 51-year-old
attractive professional, divorced
twice and currently engaged to a
58-year-old man who also is twice
divorced. We met online and hit it
off pretty quickly. He has a mag-
netic personality, and sex is great
between us. He moved in, and I am
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gets his businesses in order. He has
had four DUIs and recently spent
some time in jail. I have stood by
him through this.
He has always been upfront
that he likes to view porn a lot
and wants to experiment sexual-
ly. This doesn’t bother me. But he
posted an ad online asking another
woman to join us for sex. While
we may fantasize about this in the
bedroom, he wants to make it real
and this makes me uncomfortable.
But he gets angry if I say so. (He
also doesn’t like when I mention
the money issues between us.)
I have been through a lot over
the past few years, including get-
ting out of an abusive marriage.
I also have a young daughter at
home. Am I being unreasonable
about a threesome or should I re-
think this situation? — Confused
Dear Confused: This guy is
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I, too, had social anxiety for
most of my life. In my 30s, I de-
cided I just couldn’t continue that
way. I started off simply by walk-
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and
easier. Then I took further small
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steps in making social contact with
others.
him while he indulges himself. His
It took a number of years to
sexual interests do not coincide reach an acceptable (to me) level
with yours. He is manipulating of comfort in social situations. I
and pushing you to do something am in my 60s now and have been
you don’t want to do. Worse, when WHDFKLQJ IRU D QRQSUR¿W IRU WKH
you express yourself, he becomes past 20 years. Who would have
angry.
thought I would ever be comfort-
Based on your history, you able standing up in front of others
might not recognize an unhealthy and teaching? I have even spoken
relationship, so please allow us to at a national conference.
point it out: This guy is not partner
“Lonely for Life” should take
material. He is not going to be a slow steps and try to get outside
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daughter and there is great po- It doesn’t happen overnight, but if
tential for abuse. The sex may be it can happen for me, then I think
great, but it’s not enough to make “Lonely” can do it, too. — No
up for his shortcomings. We urge /RQJHUD:DOOÀRZHU
you to get away from this guy al-
Dear No Longer: Thank you
together.
for your words of encouragement.
Dear Annie: I am writing in We cannot remake the world so
response to “Lonely for Life,” the it suits us. Each of us must make
teenager who had few friends and the incremental adjustments to
was concerned about being “anti- ourselves that will make our lives
social.”
better.
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By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). In the day’s
competition, the prize won’t go to the one
who is more naturally skilled. Rather, it will
go to the one who chooses to develop her
skill to the best of her ability.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). For all the
times you’ve wondered if a relationship has
more potential than you’ve already mined,
this is the day to find out. Business relation-
ships will be especially lucky for investigat-
ing.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You are one
of the most flexible signs of the zodiac, and
one of the reasons why is that you regularly
stretch yourself into unknown territory. Like
a dancer, this keeps you emotionally lithe
and limber.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The next
three days are for setting a precedent, so
make sure you’re doing something you’d
like to repeat. If it’s not moving the way you
want, turn it around now while things are
still fresh.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Closure is more
important than you think. So is the ritu-
al of de-cluttering, which is not just about
possessions; it extends to your emotional
world, too. Nothing new can come in until
you make more room.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Conversa-
tion, investigation, research — it’s all part of
moving a relationship forward. It’s good to
know more about a person before you de-
cide what role he or she will play in your life.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Let others
handle the technical problems today, be-
cause your talent is best applied to helping
people feel better on an emotional level.
The human-interest angle is wide open and
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
you’re the one best suited to take it on.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You want to
do your part. Don’t do more than that. You
could, easily. In fact, you’d prefer to step in
and take over, but you know that it won’t
help things. The team will be stronger when
everyone learns to participate.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There
is something you’ve been a little afraid to
talk about even though you know that the
conversation needs to happen. It can’t be
put off any longer. Pass on the message.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Today
you’ll wear your confidence smooth and
tucked away. You don’t need to tell people
about your accomplishments, because
your attitude will say it all.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It was
hard to get up to speed but finally you’re no
longer a novice. Now that you know what
you’re doing it will take a lot less effort to get
results. This leaves you with extra reserves
of energy to apply to something new.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s a
fine art to ignoring what you can’t do any-
thing about. It starts with recognizing the
things that fall into that category. You may
have made a few errors as you were cate-
gorizing. Reassess.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 2).
Your solar return has put your social sav-
vy in overdrive. The next three months will
feature exciting, nuanced interactions and
quiet attention from one who finds you at-
tractive. January shows you learning about
a different culture. Act quickly to make the
most of a financial opportunity in February.
Virgo and Aries adore you. Your lucky num-
bers are: 9, 5, 20, 15 and 32.