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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2015 FEATURES Tomorrow’s horoscope Husband needs to cut ties Dear Annie: About four years ago, after 17 years of marriage (no children), working full time, hav- ing a part-time cleaning job, doing 90 percent of the housework and doing 80 percent of the yardwork, I asked my husband whether I could quit my full-time job. I was 42 and in good shape but was having painful back problems from the type of work I did. My husband had a good job, and with a little bit of corner cutting, we didn’t need the money from my job. He agreed, but after a while, he began to seem distant and start- ed talking constantly about a girl at work — how amazing she was because she worked full time and went to school while caring for her two children. After months of this, I thought a second part-time job might make him treat me with more respect. Then my mother broke her arm, and my father needed treatment for prostate cancer. So I helped them, along with working two part-time jobs and doing the housework and yardwork. It didn’t help. My hus- band hung out with that “amazing” girl. He also spent a lot of time with a guy who convinced him that I was a freeloader. After a horrible vacation where charms. In order for your marriage to survive, he needs to stop all con- tact with this woman, not only for your sake but for his. Get counsel- Creators ing, with or without him, so you Syndicate Inc. can move forward one way or the other. Kathy Mitchell Dear Annie: This is about and the letter from “Miffed,” whose Marcy Sugar 10-year-old grandson doesn’t like to be touched. I was the same. From age 9 he bought earrings for Ms. Amazing and presents for her sons, I found through my teenage years, I hated emails between them. He admitted it when people touched me, even he was in love with her but said my parents. Hugs and kisses were nothing had happened. He eventual- hard to tolerate. I think some of it O\PRYHGRXWDQG¿OHGIRUGLYRUFH was from being bullied so much at but when he heard that I had moved school, but mostly, it was just the to Hawaii, he tried to woo me back. way I was. Touching is extremely per- After six months of promises that he sonal, and I show my affection in had changed, I returned home. I recently found a text from this other ways. In my family, we com- same girl, asking when he’ll be promised by my greeting close rel- working with her again so they can atives with a short hug and a peck go to lunch. I left the house. He on the cheek, and then they would says the girl has a boyfriend and leave me alone for the rest of the I’m overreacting. Am I? — Ha- day. I wasn’t crazy about doing it, but my mother insisted. I managed waii-Bound Dear Hawaii: You never ac- to buy my peace with a kiss. — tually resolved the issue with Ms. Didn’t Like It, Either Dear Didn’t: We’re glad that Amazing, so any contact your hus- band has with her is going to set you and your mother reached a off all of your alarms. The fact that compromise that was OK with he wooed you back doesn’t mean you. But no parent should insist he is no longer vulnerable to her that a child hug or kiss anyone. Annie’s Mailbox 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Sometimes you’re the star; sometimes you’re the ex- tra. Today will bring another scene that re- quires respectful normalcy and blending in. After the director yells “Cut!” you can go back to being yourself. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There’s nothing shocking about today’s events ex- cept that you know how most of them will turn up and turn out before they happen. Are you getting more psychic, or is your life getting too predictably routine? GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Many Gem- ini people are after success in business today. It’s a matter of finding out where your customers are and going after them there. It’s not so hard. In fact, it’s a lot eas- ier than trying to make them come to you! CANCER (June 22-July 22). The best action is the one that has you feeling so powerful, engaged and interested along the way that it doesn’t matter to you what the result of all this effort will be. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Truth: This en- deavor you’ve taken on is not for the faint of heart. False starts, mistakes, long periods of recovery, more mistakes — so what? The only way to truly fail at this is not to try at all. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s becom- ing evident that you don’t have an excel- lent plan. It seemed like a good idea, but if the efforts aren’t paying off as expected, it’s time to change your tactics. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Everyone has to start somewhere. Remind your- self of this as you look at those who have what you’d like to have. It may seem very far away at this point, but if you keep go- ing, your day will come. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The best idea isn’t always the one that gets impli- cated. Who has authority? Who’s pop- ular? It’s that person’s idea that is more likely to get traction. Think about this be- fore you propose your idea. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The passersby appreciate what you add to the ambiance of a place, though most won’t say it. So it’s nice when a certain some- one likes the song of your gypsy spirit and puts spare change in your tambourine. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some talk in words strung together. You’ve heard enough of that. Today someone talks to you in meanings and feelings that move you to do something different from what you would have before the conversation. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Just be- cause another person has cast you in a cer- tain role in his or her life doesn’t mean you have to take that appointment. You’re A-list. You can pick and choose your projects. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll save yourself money and trouble by thinking for- ward as to what’s coming up between now and the end of the year. There are certain events coming up that you will not be able to attend unless you make plans now-ish. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 20). Your amazing power to overcome adversity has gotten you where you are, and this year you’ll use those skills to build a life very dif- ferent from the one you knew. Wealth, status, advantage — you’re not driven to possess them, and yet they’ll freely be given because of the value you are able to offer others. Virgo and Sagittarius people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 22, 38, 1 and 18.