THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2015
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Husband needs to cut ties
Dear Annie: About four years
ago, after 17 years of marriage (no
children), working full time, hav-
ing a part-time cleaning job, doing
90 percent of the housework and
doing 80 percent of the yardwork,
I asked my husband whether I
could quit my full-time job.
I was 42 and in good shape but
was having painful back problems
from the type of work I did. My
husband had a good job, and with
a little bit of corner cutting, we
didn’t need the money from my
job. He agreed, but after a while,
he began to seem distant and start-
ed talking constantly about a girl
at work — how amazing she was
because she worked full time and
went to school while caring for her
two children.
After months of this, I thought
a second part-time job might make
him treat me with more respect.
Then my mother broke her arm,
and my father needed treatment for
prostate cancer. So I helped them,
along with working two part-time
jobs and doing the housework and
yardwork. It didn’t help. My hus-
band hung out with that “amazing”
girl. He also spent a lot of time
with a guy who convinced him that
I was a freeloader.
After a horrible vacation where
charms. In order for your marriage
to survive, he needs to stop all con-
tact with this woman, not only for
your sake but for his. Get counsel-
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Dear Annie: This is about
and
the letter from “Miffed,” whose
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10-year-old grandson doesn’t like
to be touched.
I was the same. From age 9
he bought earrings for Ms. Amazing
and presents for her sons, I found through my teenage years, I hated
emails between them. He admitted it when people touched me, even
he was in love with her but said my parents. Hugs and kisses were
nothing had happened. He eventual- hard to tolerate. I think some of it
O\PRYHGRXWDQG¿OHGIRUGLYRUFH was from being bullied so much at
but when he heard that I had moved school, but mostly, it was just the
to Hawaii, he tried to woo me back. way I was.
Touching is extremely per-
After six months of promises that he
sonal, and I show my affection in
had changed, I returned home.
I recently found a text from this other ways. In my family, we com-
same girl, asking when he’ll be promised by my greeting close rel-
working with her again so they can atives with a short hug and a peck
go to lunch. I left the house. He on the cheek, and then they would
says the girl has a boyfriend and leave me alone for the rest of the
I’m overreacting. Am I? — Ha- day. I wasn’t crazy about doing it,
but my mother insisted. I managed
waii-Bound
Dear Hawaii: You never ac- to buy my peace with a kiss. —
tually resolved the issue with Ms. Didn’t Like It, Either
Dear Didn’t: We’re glad that
Amazing, so any contact your hus-
band has with her is going to set you and your mother reached a
off all of your alarms. The fact that compromise that was OK with
he wooed you back doesn’t mean you. But no parent should insist
he is no longer vulnerable to her that a child hug or kiss anyone.
Annie’s
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By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Sometimes
you’re the star; sometimes you’re the ex-
tra. Today will bring another scene that re-
quires respectful normalcy and blending
in. After the director yells “Cut!” you can go
back to being yourself.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There’s
nothing shocking about today’s events ex-
cept that you know how most of them will
turn up and turn out before they happen.
Are you getting more psychic, or is your
life getting too predictably routine?
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Many Gem-
ini people are after success in business
today. It’s a matter of finding out where
your customers are and going after them
there. It’s not so hard. In fact, it’s a lot eas-
ier than trying to make them come to you!
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The best
action is the one that has you feeling so
powerful, engaged and interested along
the way that it doesn’t matter to you what
the result of all this effort will be.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Truth: This en-
deavor you’ve taken on is not for the faint of
heart. False starts, mistakes, long periods
of recovery, more mistakes — so what? The
only way to truly fail at this is not to try at all.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s becom-
ing evident that you don’t have an excel-
lent plan. It seemed like a good idea, but
if the efforts aren’t paying off as expected,
it’s time to change your tactics.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Everyone
has to start somewhere. Remind your-
self of this as you look at those who have
what you’d like to have. It may seem very
far away at this point, but if you keep go-
ing, your day will come.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The best
idea isn’t always the one that gets impli-
cated. Who has authority? Who’s pop-
ular? It’s that person’s idea that is more
likely to get traction. Think about this be-
fore you propose your idea.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
passersby appreciate what you add to the
ambiance of a place, though most won’t
say it. So it’s nice when a certain some-
one likes the song of your gypsy spirit and
puts spare change in your tambourine.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some
talk in words strung together. You’ve heard
enough of that. Today someone talks to
you in meanings and feelings that move
you to do something different from what
you would have before the conversation.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Just be-
cause another person has cast you in a cer-
tain role in his or her life doesn’t mean you
have to take that appointment. You’re A-list.
You can pick and choose your projects.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll save
yourself money and trouble by thinking for-
ward as to what’s coming up between now
and the end of the year. There are certain
events coming up that you will not be able
to attend unless you make plans now-ish.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 20). Your
amazing power to overcome adversity has
gotten you where you are, and this year
you’ll use those skills to build a life very dif-
ferent from the one you knew. Wealth, status,
advantage — you’re not driven to possess
them, and yet they’ll freely be given because
of the value you are able to offer others. Virgo
and Sagittarius people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 4, 22, 38, 1 and 18.