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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 14, 2015 FEATURES Who pays for wedding? Dear Annie: Our 22-year-old son recently asked his girlfriend to marry him. They have been dating for two years. Now he wants us to meet with her parents to talk about the wedding. The big topic of con- YHUVDWLRQZLOOOLNHO\EH¿QDQFHV What is the proper way to dis- cuss who pays for what in regards to the wedding? I am not sure how things work these days, and I as- sume the etiquette has changed over the years. He is our oldest son, and WKLVLVRXU¿UVWZHGGLQJ²Parents in Pittsburgh Dear Parents: You are right that things have changed, and generally for the better. It is no longer the rule that the bride’s parents pay for near- ly everything. Adult children with decent incomes should be encour- aged to pay for their own weddings, perhaps with help from both sets of parents. Some parents give the chil- GUHQDVSHFL¿FDPRXQWDQGOHWWKHP plan from there. Decide how much you are willing to spend (and can afford). Tradition says that the bride pays for such things as the invitations, ÀRZHUV SKRWRJUDSKHU DQG UHFHS- tion costs, while the groom covers the rings, the rehearsal dinner, the RI¿FLDQW¶V IHH DQG WKH OLFHQVH %XW we don’t believe you must stick to the employee has extensive knowl- edge of the place and was planning to start a similar business when the current owner retires, it is time for Creators “Concerned” to step up and offer to Syndicate Inc. take over while there is still some- thing left. Kathy Mitchell “Concerned” should discuss it and with the owner in the kindest of Marcy Sugar WHUPV²QRWDVDKRVWLOHWDNHRYHU but rather a compassionate one, that. Some families now split the and take measures to make sure the costs right down the middle. Others family is on board. It might be pos- split expenses entirely differently, sible to work out a schedule of pay- but equitably, e.g., the bride’s fam- ment that allows the owner to retire ily covers the venue and the food with dignity. DQGWKHJURRP¶VFRYHUVWKHÀRZHUV I worked for a wonderful boss photographer, liquor and orchestra. who promised to pass the business The bride’s family may have their down to me when he retired. That own ideas about the size and lavish- ZDVDOO¿QHXQWLOKHGLHGLQKLVVOHHS ness of the affair, so we urge you to from a heart attack, and I found that be as agreeable as possible without there was no plan in place. So the going into debt. You can start this business was closed and I found conversation by saying, “We are so myself unemployed, with no health happy the kids are getting married. insurance or retirement plan, at an What sort of event did you have in DJH ZKHUH ¿QGLQJ D MRE ZLWK WKH mind?” VDPH EHQH¿WV DQG SD\ ZDV QHDUO\ Dear Annie: I read the let- impossible. “Concerned” should ter from “Concerned Employee,” WDNHFDUHRIKLVKHURZQIXWXUH² whose boss is grieving over his wife Learned My Lesson and is drinking to excess, bringing Dear Learned: You’ve made the small business to ruin. I have a an interesting suggestion. We hope different suggestion. the family is willing to consider al- “Concerned” must be practical- lowing “Concerned” to buy out the ly running the business. Given that owner. Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Maybe you’re watching to see what happens, and that is not the same, never the same, as just waiting around. Observa- tion is the art of confident people. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Each person has a way of expressing and in- terpreting love that is unique to his or her own processing system. Today, you feel love in the warmth of physical touch. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You have something fresh to add to the mix and shouldn’t hesitate for a moment to add it. Be confident. The world needs your input. Vitality will sweep over you the moment you put your two cents in. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you shrink from doing what’s already been done, you’ll shrink from everything. So don’t back off. Seek a spot in what’s been done, and do it better (or more you-like), and you’ll be a hit. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). No, this will not happen all in one day. You have to piece it out. Plan to do a little chunk of this thing today, tomorrow, the next day and the next. Be in it for the long haul. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Often you do what you’re supposed to do and then don’t give yourself credit for the win. In your mind, it’s all in a day’s work. Well, that’s not everybody’s day. Give yourself the win! LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Accidental success is a rare occasion, but this is one of those. You’ll land in it. Even bet- ter, you’ll recognize that you’ve landed in it! These are the good ol’ days. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The guru suggests that if you were to release your beliefs about being solid, you could walk through walls. Bruises prove otherwise. Today you’ll have one foot in the ether, one firmly planted on the ground. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). No one, not even the actors who have played James Bond, is actually James Bond. And yet, with your current sophis- tication, class and international spy-like reflexes, you’ll come close. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your adventurous side will be prevalent. Whatever negative feelings or disap- pointments you experience are immedi- ately routed into daring action. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You had a natural talent for your work, and over time, you’ve become quite the ex- pert. You’ll command a high fee for what you do, which will help several people at once. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You use your head, your gut, your talk, ev- erything you’ve got to make today’s arrangement work. You might have to dance around the issues a few times, but it’s all in good fun. THURSDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 15). Just because you’ve lived your life doesn’t mean you know it. You’ll learn the reasons for many previously mis- understood events. Relationships get healed, and things you wanted will fi- nally be yours. November and June are your lucky months for love. January and March bring money. Capricorn and Tau- rus people adore you. Your lucky num- bers are: 7, 15, 39, 33 and 20.
