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Who pays for wedding?
Dear Annie: Our 22-year-old
son recently asked his girlfriend to
marry him. They have been dating
for two years. Now he wants us to
meet with her parents to talk about
the wedding. The big topic of con-
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What is the proper way to dis-
cuss who pays for what in regards
to the wedding? I am not sure how
things work these days, and I as-
sume the etiquette has changed over
the years. He is our oldest son, and
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in Pittsburgh
Dear Parents: You are right that
things have changed, and generally
for the better. It is no longer the rule
that the bride’s parents pay for near-
ly everything. Adult children with
decent incomes should be encour-
aged to pay for their own weddings,
perhaps with help from both sets of
parents. Some parents give the chil-
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plan from there.
Decide how much you are
willing to spend (and can afford).
Tradition says that the bride pays
for such things as the invitations,
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tion costs, while the groom covers
the rings, the rehearsal dinner, the
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we don’t believe you must stick to
the employee has extensive knowl-
edge of the place and was planning
to start a similar business when the
current owner retires, it is time for
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“Concerned” to step up and offer to
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take over while there is still some-
thing left.
Kathy Mitchell
“Concerned” should discuss it
and
with the owner in the kindest of
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but rather a compassionate one,
that. Some families now split the and take measures to make sure the
costs right down the middle. Others family is on board. It might be pos-
split expenses entirely differently, sible to work out a schedule of pay-
but equitably, e.g., the bride’s fam- ment that allows the owner to retire
ily covers the venue and the food with dignity.
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I worked for a wonderful boss
photographer, liquor and orchestra. who promised to pass the business
The bride’s family may have their down to me when he retired. That
own ideas about the size and lavish- ZDVDOO¿QHXQWLOKHGLHGLQKLVVOHHS
ness of the affair, so we urge you to from a heart attack, and I found that
be as agreeable as possible without there was no plan in place. So the
going into debt. You can start this business was closed and I found
conversation by saying, “We are so myself unemployed, with no health
happy the kids are getting married. insurance or retirement plan, at an
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mind?”
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Dear Annie: I read the let- impossible. “Concerned” should
ter from “Concerned Employee,” WDNHFDUHRIKLVKHURZQIXWXUH²
whose boss is grieving over his wife Learned My Lesson
and is drinking to excess, bringing
Dear Learned: You’ve made
the small business to ruin. I have a an interesting suggestion. We hope
different suggestion.
the family is willing to consider al-
“Concerned” must be practical- lowing “Concerned” to buy out the
ly running the business. Given that owner.
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Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Maybe
you’re watching to see what happens,
and that is not the same, never the
same, as just waiting around. Observa-
tion is the art of confident people.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Each
person has a way of expressing and in-
terpreting love that is unique to his or
her own processing system. Today, you
feel love in the warmth of physical touch.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You have
something fresh to add to the mix and
shouldn’t hesitate for a moment to add
it. Be confident. The world needs your
input. Vitality will sweep over you the
moment you put your two cents in.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you
shrink from doing what’s already been
done, you’ll shrink from everything. So
don’t back off. Seek a spot in what’s
been done, and do it better (or more
you-like), and you’ll be a hit.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). No, this will
not happen all in one day. You have to
piece it out. Plan to do a little chunk of
this thing today, tomorrow, the next day
and the next. Be in it for the long haul.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Often you
do what you’re supposed to do and then
don’t give yourself credit for the win. In
your mind, it’s all in a day’s work. Well,
that’s not everybody’s day. Give yourself
the win!
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Accidental
success is a rare occasion, but this is
one of those. You’ll land in it. Even bet-
ter, you’ll recognize that you’ve landed
in it! These are the good ol’ days.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The guru
suggests that if you were to release your
beliefs about being solid, you could walk
through walls. Bruises prove otherwise.
Today you’ll have one foot in the ether,
one firmly planted on the ground.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21).
No one, not even the actors who have
played James Bond, is actually James
Bond. And yet, with your current sophis-
tication, class and international spy-like
reflexes, you’ll come close.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your
adventurous side will be prevalent.
Whatever negative feelings or disap-
pointments you experience are immedi-
ately routed into daring action.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You
had a natural talent for your work, and
over time, you’ve become quite the ex-
pert. You’ll command a high fee for what
you do, which will help several people
at once.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You
use your head, your gut, your talk, ev-
erything you’ve got to make today’s
arrangement work. You might have to
dance around the issues a few times,
but it’s all in good fun.
THURSDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 15).
Just because you’ve lived your life
doesn’t mean you know it. You’ll learn
the reasons for many previously mis-
understood events. Relationships get
healed, and things you wanted will fi-
nally be yours. November and June are
your lucky months for love. January and
March bring money. Capricorn and Tau-
rus people adore you. Your lucky num-
bers are: 7, 15, 39, 33 and 20.