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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, AUGUST 31, 2015 FEATURES This may be the best you get Dear Annie: I’m a clean-cut, middle-aged gay guy living in a midsized city in Florida. My part- ner of six years lives in Boston. We have a great long-distance relation- ship. He’s a wonderful man, and we love each other. We’d like to marry and live together someday. Here’s the problem: He doesn’t want to move to Florida, and I’m a bit hesitant about moving to Boston. My partner has lived in Boston his entire life and has a ton of friends there. His job, though lousy, has JRRGEHQH¿WV%XWLI,PRYHWKHUHLW would be a hardship unless we lived together, since I’m on disability. And then he’d be stuck paying most of the rent. I also hate big-city traf- ¿F DQG FURZGV $QG ZKLOH , GRQ¶W mind cold weather, I cannot deal with snow. I have told my partner that my town has a booming economy and a lot of places are hiring. How can I convince him to move to Florida? Or should I move to Boston? — Florida Guy Dear Florida: Pressuring some- one to move to a location where they don’t want to be is never a good idea. Although, since win- ters in Boston generally include a tremendous amount of snow, your partner may decide on his own that Annie’s Mailbox Creators Syndicate Inc. Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar he’d like to move to a warmer lo- cale, in which case, your problem is solved. Otherwise, please don’t insist on it. And of course, there is always the possibility that moving in together would have a negative effect. Some people do better in long-distance relationships. Have the two of you discussed all the pros and cons? Don’t be afraid to mention your concerns and talk about them in practical, honest WHUPV'RHVKHXQGHUVWDQGWKH¿QDQ- cial hardship moving would be for you? Would he support you without resenting it? Does he have any in- terest in moving to Florida at a later date? Are you willing to wait? We hope you can work out some type of compromise, but please understand that what you have now could be the best you get. Dear Annie: We have become a society with a beggar’s mentality. While driving through our small town, I approached a red light. There stood people with buckets asking for money to help send their kids’ ecology class to Honduras. 7KLV LV QRW WKH ¿UVW WLPH , KDYH noticed such begging. I’ve seen kids ask for help to send the dance team to regionals, or to help the senior class have a great prom. When my kids were younger and their baseball team required mon- ey, they either sold candy or held car washes to raise funds. They didn’t stand on street corners and beg someone else to enable them to have a good time. Why do parents think it is OK to ask me to pay for their kid’s activities? I don’t know their kids. — Fed Up Dear Fed Up: We agree that there is entirely too much expecta- tion that others will pay for unnec- essary perks that kids ought to be earning for themselves. And it isn’t only school projects. Adults do this, too, often online. But asking and receiving are two different things. Many people don’t mind contrib- uting, especially if they believe the cause is worthy. And if you don’t, keep your wallet closed and your windows rolled up. You are not obligated to participate in the fund- raising. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). For the po- sition you’re in, many are called, but few are chosen. If you make it through, con- sider yourself both lucky and worthy. Then remember, you still have a choice in what you do going forward. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A good so- cial balance isn’t something to take lightly. It doesn’t happen every day. When you’re doing great on your own, consider very carefully whether or not you should really add another person to the mix. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Do you have the heart for it? That’s the question that will arise. The way to check your heart compat- ibility is pretty simple. Ask your heart: Do I really want this, and, if so, how badly? CANCER (June 22-July 22). Meddling and losing are along the same line. If you meddle, you’ll lose. Keep to your own busi- ness. Remain fixed on the prize that is yours and only yours. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your creativi- ty knows no bounds. However, the world has boundaries, and they quickly will be imposed if you’re not careful to separate yourself into an area where the usual rules don’t apply. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It might be difficult to tell whether a person is making your life better or worse. Either way, rest as- sured that your skills are growing for having to interact in a certain way. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). This morning you’ll open your eyes with a fresh perspec- tive on life. Then you’ll figure out what really makes you happy and prioritize your life based on that realization. It’s a truly great day. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Oddly enough, the happy endings don’t always come at the end. Someone will save you when you’re right smack in the middle of a perilous task. You’re no victim, but once in a while it’s nice to be saved. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You need a big challenge. This is what gives your valor a chance to emerge. You’ll see the obstacle almost as soon as you get to work. This needs conquering, and the con- queror is you. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). As you rise to great heights, you wonder whether it will last. You’ve seen this before. Yes, there will be a point at which things start sliding the opposite direction. Worry about it when you get there. For now, enjoy your climb. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re in- clined to play by the rules, but you’ll also play seriously -- ruthlessly -- for keeps. Your competitors don’t have a chance against you. Utilize your team. They really want to help. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You could coast on what you already know, but that’s not your style. Instead, you choose to keep your skills up to date. Those above you will be pleased at the initiative you show. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 1). The stakes are high, and your spirit is brave. The next three weeks show you changing your work style and making more money, too. The love you give comes swinging back to you. October and December are lucky times for your family. They will make you proud. A deal will be finalized in May. Leo and Aries people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 30, 44, 31, 29 and 16.