THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, AUGUST 31, 2015
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Dear Annie: I’m a clean-cut,
middle-aged gay guy living in a
midsized city in Florida. My part-
ner of six years lives in Boston. We
have a great long-distance relation-
ship. He’s a wonderful man, and we
love each other. We’d like to marry
and live together someday.
Here’s the problem: He doesn’t
want to move to Florida, and I’m a
bit hesitant about moving to Boston.
My partner has lived in Boston his
entire life and has a ton of friends
there. His job, though lousy, has
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would be a hardship unless we lived
together, since I’m on disability.
And then he’d be stuck paying most
of the rent. I also hate big-city traf-
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mind cold weather, I cannot deal
with snow.
I have told my partner that my
town has a booming economy and
a lot of places are hiring. How can
I convince him to move to Florida?
Or should I move to Boston? —
Florida Guy
Dear Florida: Pressuring some-
one to move to a location where
they don’t want to be is never a
good idea. Although, since win-
ters in Boston generally include a
tremendous amount of snow, your
partner may decide on his own that
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he’d like to move to a warmer lo-
cale, in which case, your problem
is solved. Otherwise, please don’t
insist on it. And of course, there is
always the possibility that moving
in together would have a negative
effect. Some people do better in
long-distance relationships.
Have the two of you discussed
all the pros and cons? Don’t be
afraid to mention your concerns and
talk about them in practical, honest
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cial hardship moving would be for
you? Would he support you without
resenting it? Does he have any in-
terest in moving to Florida at a later
date? Are you willing to wait? We
hope you can work out some type of
compromise, but please understand
that what you have now could be
the best you get.
Dear Annie: We have become a
society with a beggar’s mentality.
While driving through our small
town, I approached a red light.
There stood people with buckets
asking for money to help send their
kids’ ecology class to Honduras.
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noticed such begging. I’ve seen kids
ask for help to send the dance team
to regionals, or to help the senior
class have a great prom.
When my kids were younger and
their baseball team required mon-
ey, they either sold candy or held
car washes to raise funds. They
didn’t stand on street corners and
beg someone else to enable them to
have a good time. Why do parents
think it is OK to ask me to pay for
their kid’s activities? I don’t know
their kids. — Fed Up
Dear Fed Up: We agree that
there is entirely too much expecta-
tion that others will pay for unnec-
essary perks that kids ought to be
earning for themselves. And it isn’t
only school projects. Adults do this,
too, often online. But asking and
receiving are two different things.
Many people don’t mind contrib-
uting, especially if they believe the
cause is worthy. And if you don’t,
keep your wallet closed and your
windows rolled up. You are not
obligated to participate in the fund-
raising.
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Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). For the po-
sition you’re in, many are called, but few
are chosen. If you make it through, con-
sider yourself both lucky and worthy. Then
remember, you still have a choice in what
you do going forward.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A good so-
cial balance isn’t something to take lightly.
It doesn’t happen every day. When you’re
doing great on your own, consider very
carefully whether or not you should really
add another person to the mix.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Do you have
the heart for it? That’s the question that will
arise. The way to check your heart compat-
ibility is pretty simple. Ask your heart: Do I
really want this, and, if so, how badly?
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Meddling
and losing are along the same line. If you
meddle, you’ll lose. Keep to your own busi-
ness. Remain fixed on the prize that is
yours and only yours.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your creativi-
ty knows no bounds. However, the world
has boundaries, and they quickly will be
imposed if you’re not careful to separate
yourself into an area where the usual rules
don’t apply.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It might be
difficult to tell whether a person is making
your life better or worse. Either way, rest as-
sured that your skills are growing for having
to interact in a certain way.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). This morning
you’ll open your eyes with a fresh perspec-
tive on life. Then you’ll figure out what really
makes you happy and prioritize your life
based on that realization. It’s a truly great
day.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Oddly
enough, the happy endings don’t always
come at the end. Someone will save you
when you’re right smack in the middle of a
perilous task. You’re no victim, but once in
a while it’s nice to be saved.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
need a big challenge. This is what gives
your valor a chance to emerge. You’ll see
the obstacle almost as soon as you get to
work. This needs conquering, and the con-
queror is you.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). As you
rise to great heights, you wonder whether it
will last. You’ve seen this before. Yes, there
will be a point at which things start sliding
the opposite direction. Worry about it when
you get there. For now, enjoy your climb.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re in-
clined to play by the rules, but you’ll also
play seriously -- ruthlessly -- for keeps. Your
competitors don’t have a chance against
you. Utilize your team. They really want to
help.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You could
coast on what you already know, but that’s
not your style. Instead, you choose to keep
your skills up to date. Those above you will
be pleased at the initiative you show.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 1). The
stakes are high, and your spirit is brave.
The next three weeks show you changing
your work style and making more money,
too. The love you give comes swinging
back to you. October and December are
lucky times for your family. They will make
you proud. A deal will be finalized in May.
Leo and Aries people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 30, 44, 31, 29 and 16.