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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 12, 2015 FEATURES 5A Adult children won’t get jobs Tomorrow’s horoscope Dear Annie: I have been married for 22 years. I started working when I was 14 and didn’t stop until I started having medical issues two years ago. The problem is my family. My hus- band doesn’t think it is important that our two kids, ages 20 and 21, have jobs. ,KDYHWULHGUHSHDWHGO\WRKHOSWKHP¿QG employment because they won’t bother to try on their own. But they’ll stay at a job for a month or two, and then they leave. My husband doesn’t think there is a problem. When I bring it up, my son yells at me, and my husband doesn’t care. He says at least our son attends night classes twice a week. Our daugh- ter’s self-esteem is very low, and I am worried about her. I am sick of the arguments about the kids not doing more around the house DQGQRW¿QGLQJZRUN,KDYHPRYHGRXW of the house and in with a friend. Was I wrong to do this? How do I make my husband see that the kids should have jobs? — Expect Better Dear Expect: Well, if you are out of the house, no one will push those kids to ¿QGZRUNDQG\RXUKXVEDQGZLOOEHVXS- porting everyone. Perhaps he will then realize that keeping the children depen- dent and childlike is not in anyone’s best interest and insist that the kids contribute somehow to the household. But it won’t solve everything. We hate to sound like a broken record, ARIES (March 21-April 19). Integrate your talents instead of choosing between them. Anyone who tries to limit your activi- ties isn’t being a friend right now, because you have the ability to do several things at once. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There is no success without failure. No one feels good without the contrast of feeling bad. If you keep your attitude on track with the positive, the contrasts in this day will only make you stronger. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You build your reputation with each action you take. Little by little, day by day, your legacy is coming together. Tonight, someone new to your sit- uation will give you a fresh point of view. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t want to “cry wolf,” and yet, in order to truly understand the strength of your support system, you have to put it to the test. Imple- ment some version of a fire alarm. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Follow an orderly process, and you’ll be lucky. It will require more preparation than you think. In fact, most of the day will be spent in preparation for something that will unfold in less than an hour. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Heed the physical manifestation of hesitancy: a tight- ness in the throat and chest and/or a heavi- ness in the arms. While your ambition tries to push you forward, your intuition may hold you back. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). We all think things that should not be said out loud, but some people haven’t developed the social filter necessary to keep conversation polite. Luckily, your friends have you to keep them new food to take home. If he’s told there is no food to take, he suddenly has no problem eating everything on his plate within 15 minutes. Creators 8QFOH/XFLXVKDVEHFRPHVRGLI¿FXOW Syndicate Inc. that I am reluctant to pick him up and take him places. Any suggestions? — Kathy Mitchell Anonymous and Dear Anonymous: We think Uncle Marcy Sugar Lucius is lonely and uses these outings as an excuse to be the center of attention, but counseling could help both of you and he wants to prolong the experience. deal more respectfully with each other You are a kind soul to pick him up and and more effectively with your kids. Even have him for dinner, but we can see that if your husband won’t go, counseling your patience is wearing thin. could help you work out better ways of Let Lucius know that any food he negotiating so that you have other choices GRHVQ¶W¿QLVKDWWKHWLPH\RXDUHUHDG\WR besides frustration and walking out. leave will be put in a plastic bag for him Dear Annie: My “Uncle Lucius” is to take home. Then do it. You also might 88 and has lived in an assisted-living facil- visit with him in his care facility, asking ity for several years. He’s not crazy about him to show you around or perhaps vis- living there, but recognizes that he can no iting at a time when there is an activity longer live on his own. He also has no in- you can do together that takes the same terest in senior activities or much else. amount of time as you would have spent Here’s the problem: When taking having dinner with him. Please try to be him to a restaurant or bringing him to tolerant. my home, he frequently refuses to leave Dear Annie: “Frustrated Pastor’s at the end of the evening. Uncle Lucius Wife” complained that her husband is not has a normal appetite, but spends most SDLGIRURI¿FLDWLQJ,WVHHPVWKDWFXVWRPV of the time talking instead of eating. vary among denominations and even :KHQ HYHU\RQH LV QHDUO\ ¿QLVKHG DQG among individuals within denominations. he’s prodded to eat, he routinely says Our last pastor would not accept any he is too rushed, even if two hours have SD\PHQWVD\LQJWKDWRI¿FLDWLQJDWVXFK passed, and that he can’t chew his food, occasions was part of the pastoral care he even if the meal is soup. He’ll demand provided. — Mike Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. in check. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You love your family today, and you’ll treat most peo- ple you meet like they are a part of it. Do- mestic projects will be lucky, as will anything to do with feeding your people. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). What’s in your mind cannot be observed by anyone else, and today that’s a good thing, because you’re working on what tru- ly belongs to you. Don’t share it. The world isn’t ready for it yet. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Wishes are not goals, but if you add a timeline, they will be. Tonight features an unexplainable spiritual bond. In the upcoming weeks, you’ll become more and more convinced that you belong together. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your en- thusiasm is catching. Your joy needs no qualifiers. It will open people up and make them feel like unleashing their own natural exuberance. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll get better results when you ease up on yourself. Approve of yourself with that same gener- ous approval you so readily give to others. Tonight will bring the end of a struggle. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 13). The next three months are a makeover for your life. You’ll fix the bothersome parts and cele- brate three distinct wins. In June, a quest will take you to gorgeous locations where you’ll connect with interesting people. July brings a disruption to your plans, and the result you get in August will make it all worthwhile. Capricorn and Scorpio people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 33, 1, 14 and 18.