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Adult children won’t get jobs
Tomorrow’s horoscope
Dear Annie: I have been married for
22 years. I started working when I was
14 and didn’t stop until I started having
medical issues two years ago.
The problem is my family. My hus-
band doesn’t think it is important that
our two kids, ages 20 and 21, have jobs.
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employment because they won’t bother
to try on their own. But they’ll stay at
a job for a month or two, and then they
leave. My husband doesn’t think there is
a problem. When I bring it up, my son
yells at me, and my husband doesn’t
care. He says at least our son attends
night classes twice a week. Our daugh-
ter’s self-esteem is very low, and I am
worried about her.
I am sick of the arguments about the
kids not doing more around the house
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of the house and in with a friend. Was
I wrong to do this? How do I make my
husband see that the kids should have
jobs? — Expect Better
Dear Expect: Well, if you are out of
the house, no one will push those kids to
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porting everyone. Perhaps he will then
realize that keeping the children depen-
dent and childlike is not in anyone’s best
interest and insist that the kids contribute
somehow to the household. But it won’t
solve everything.
We hate to sound like a broken record,
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Integrate
your talents instead of choosing between
them. Anyone who tries to limit your activi-
ties isn’t being a friend right now, because
you have the ability to do several things at
once.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There is no
success without failure. No one feels good
without the contrast of feeling bad. If you
keep your attitude on track with the positive,
the contrasts in this day will only make you
stronger.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You build your
reputation with each action you take. Little
by little, day by day, your legacy is coming
together. Tonight, someone new to your sit-
uation will give you a fresh point of view.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t
want to “cry wolf,” and yet, in order to truly
understand the strength of your support
system, you have to put it to the test. Imple-
ment some version of a fire alarm.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Follow an orderly
process, and you’ll be lucky. It will require
more preparation than you think. In fact,
most of the day will be spent in preparation
for something that will unfold in less than an
hour.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Heed the
physical manifestation of hesitancy: a tight-
ness in the throat and chest and/or a heavi-
ness in the arms. While your ambition tries
to push you forward, your intuition may hold
you back.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). We all think
things that should not be said out loud, but
some people haven’t developed the social
filter necessary to keep conversation polite.
Luckily, your friends have you to keep them
new food to take home. If he’s told there
is no food to take, he suddenly has no
problem eating everything on his plate
within 15 minutes.
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that I am reluctant to pick him up and
take him places. Any suggestions? —
Kathy Mitchell
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Dear Anonymous: We think Uncle
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Lucius is lonely and uses these outings
as an excuse to be the center of attention,
but counseling could help both of you and he wants to prolong the experience.
deal more respectfully with each other You are a kind soul to pick him up and
and more effectively with your kids. Even have him for dinner, but we can see that
if your husband won’t go, counseling your patience is wearing thin.
could help you work out better ways of
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besides frustration and walking out.
leave will be put in a plastic bag for him
Dear Annie: My “Uncle Lucius” is to take home. Then do it. You also might
88 and has lived in an assisted-living facil- visit with him in his care facility, asking
ity for several years. He’s not crazy about him to show you around or perhaps vis-
living there, but recognizes that he can no iting at a time when there is an activity
longer live on his own. He also has no in- you can do together that takes the same
terest in senior activities or much else.
amount of time as you would have spent
Here’s the problem: When taking having dinner with him. Please try to be
him to a restaurant or bringing him to tolerant.
my home, he frequently refuses to leave
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passed, and that he can’t chew his food, occasions was part of the pastoral care he
even if the meal is soup. He’ll demand provided. — Mike
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in check.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You love
your family today, and you’ll treat most peo-
ple you meet like they are a part of it. Do-
mestic projects will be lucky, as will anything
to do with feeding your people.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21).
What’s in your mind cannot be observed
by anyone else, and today that’s a good
thing, because you’re working on what tru-
ly belongs to you. Don’t share it. The world
isn’t ready for it yet.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Wishes
are not goals, but if you add a timeline, they
will be. Tonight features an unexplainable
spiritual bond. In the upcoming weeks, you’ll
become more and more convinced that you
belong together.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Your en-
thusiasm is catching. Your joy needs no
qualifiers. It will open people up and make
them feel like unleashing their own natural
exuberance.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll get
better results when you ease up on yourself.
Approve of yourself with that same gener-
ous approval you so readily give to others.
Tonight will bring the end of a struggle.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 13). The
next three months are a makeover for your
life. You’ll fix the bothersome parts and cele-
brate three distinct wins. In June, a quest will
take you to gorgeous locations where you’ll
connect with interesting people. July brings
a disruption to your plans, and the result
you get in August will make it all worthwhile.
Capricorn and Scorpio people adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 40, 33, 1, 14 and
18.