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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 5, 2015 FEATURES She is walking on eggshells Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 10 years, but I sometimes wonder whether I love him or am just used to having him around. We have no kids, and I’ve started thinking of how my life would be without him. 7KLVDOOEHJDQZKHQKH¿UVWGLVSOD\HG DQDZIXOWHPSHU+HQHYHUJHWVSK\VLFDOO\ violent, but he hurts me tremendously with WKHWKLQJVKHVD\V+HSD\VVRPHRIP\ ELOOVEXWDOZD\VSXWVKLVZDQWVDQGQHHGV before household things that are more LPSRUWDQWOLNH¿[LQJWKHFDURU¿OOLQJP\ SUHVFULSWLRQV,KDYHWRZDONRQHJJVKHOOV most of the time. 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My lifesaver during WKDWWLPHZDVP\FDUHJLYHUVXSSRUWJURXS 6LQFHWKHQ,KDYHIDFLOLWDWHGDFDUHJLYHU JURXSDQGZHPHHWPRQWKO\WRVKDUHKDS- S\DQGSRLJQDQWVWRULHVPHGLFDOSURJUHVV LQIRUPDWLRQDERXWUHVRXUFHVHWF0RVWO\ PHHWLQJVDUHDVDIHSODFH¿OOHGZLWKXQGHU- VWDQGLQJQRQMXGJPHQWDOSHRSOHZKRDUH all on the same journey. — Baton Rouge, La. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). An African proverb says, “He who is carried on anoth- er’s back does not appreciate how far off the town is.” That’s why you only carry those who truly need the lift. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You won- der sometimes whether you are making a choice or the choice is making you. This is the dilemma of the day, and your mindful- ness of it will profoundly affect the future. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Do not pro- ceed under the supposition that it’s sup- posed to be a good time. Is family involved? Weird friends? Difficult co-workers? Expect that it’s going to be a problem that’s just the right size for you to solve brilliantly. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you put the effort into being extremely clean, tidy and organized, you will also reap the benefit of this. You’ll be respected and well thought of. You’ll be chosen for something important. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When life teeters on the edge of boring, surprise chaos will liven things up. Whew! That was close. It will take extra effort to set things straight again, but you’ll be laughing the whole time. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You are fa- vored for the win in whatever games and battles you take on. Before you agree to the fight, make sure the win is worth fighting for. Make sure it’s something that would benefit you in the long run. Think it through. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The good thing about getting more money than you were expecting (a rare and wonderful cosmic gift of the day) is that it not only gives you more options, but it also gives you more hope. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You don’t practice childish ways, because you are past that age. As for your colleagues, you’ll have to set an example and hope that they will follow. The day will bring a minor inter- vention. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Ani- mals puff up when they are threatened. Fur or feathers stand on end; fish take in more air to appear bigger; people do the same thing. When you see this reaction, ask: What is this person afraid of? CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Part- nerships are either a pain or an adventure. There is no in-between today, so don’t ex- pect things to coast along. Tonight, open up your mind and heart, and something unex- pected will happen. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You want to present something different to your peo- ple, but before you do, it’s good to adjust your expectations of their reactions. Some like change; some don’t. Everyone will need time to process the information. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Stick with the funny people. Laughter not only heals; it massages your insides. That’s why the silli- ness and comedy you pursue (even when you are supposed to be working) are worthy endeavors. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 6). This year you adapt to different circumstances. At first you’ll fit in, and then you’ll take charge, and ultimately you’ll thrive. The next seven weeks show you getting a specialized edu- cation. Invest in June. You’ll be promoted in an arena that matters to you in August. Fam- ily will celebrate you in September. Cancer and Sagittarius people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 14, 2, 29, 48 and 50.