THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 5, 2015
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Dear Annie: My husband and I have
been married for 10 years, but I sometimes
wonder whether I love him or am just used
to having him around. We have no kids,
and I’ve started thinking of how my life
would be without him.
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through? — Tired of It
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down to eat, she immediately starts talking
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her sister talks on and on about herself.
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doesn’t realize she is just as bad. Some
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for attention. Still, we are in our 50s, and
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thing you “just have to” tell them. Maybe
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ther is yours. Everyone should be allowed
to share and be heard. — Bored in the USA
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my husband who had dementia for seven
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all on the same journey. — Baton Rouge,
La.
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Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). An African
proverb says, “He who is carried on anoth-
er’s back does not appreciate how far off
the town is.” That’s why you only carry those
who truly need the lift.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You won-
der sometimes whether you are making a
choice or the choice is making you. This is
the dilemma of the day, and your mindful-
ness of it will profoundly affect the future.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Do not pro-
ceed under the supposition that it’s sup-
posed to be a good time. Is family involved?
Weird friends? Difficult co-workers? Expect
that it’s going to be a problem that’s just the
right size for you to solve brilliantly.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you
put the effort into being extremely clean,
tidy and organized, you will also reap the
benefit of this. You’ll be respected and well
thought of. You’ll be chosen for something
important.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When life teeters
on the edge of boring, surprise chaos will
liven things up. Whew! That was close. It will
take extra effort to set things straight again,
but you’ll be laughing the whole time.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You are fa-
vored for the win in whatever games and
battles you take on. Before you agree to the
fight, make sure the win is worth fighting for.
Make sure it’s something that would benefit
you in the long run. Think it through.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The good thing
about getting more money than you were
expecting (a rare and wonderful cosmic gift
of the day) is that it not only gives you more
options, but it also gives you more hope.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You don’t
practice childish ways, because you are
past that age. As for your colleagues, you’ll
have to set an example and hope that they
will follow. The day will bring a minor inter-
vention.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Ani-
mals puff up when they are threatened. Fur
or feathers stand on end; fish take in more
air to appear bigger; people do the same
thing. When you see this reaction, ask: What
is this person afraid of?
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Part-
nerships are either a pain or an adventure.
There is no in-between today, so don’t ex-
pect things to coast along. Tonight, open up
your mind and heart, and something unex-
pected will happen.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You want
to present something different to your peo-
ple, but before you do, it’s good to adjust
your expectations of their reactions. Some
like change; some don’t. Everyone will need
time to process the information.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Stick with
the funny people. Laughter not only heals; it
massages your insides. That’s why the silli-
ness and comedy you pursue (even when
you are supposed to be working) are worthy
endeavors.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 6). This
year you adapt to different circumstances. At
first you’ll fit in, and then you’ll take charge,
and ultimately you’ll thrive. The next seven
weeks show you getting a specialized edu-
cation. Invest in June. You’ll be promoted in
an arena that matters to you in August. Fam-
ily will celebrate you in September. Cancer
and Sagittarius people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 14, 2, 29, 48 and 50.