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KINK Eugene Weekly’s Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles Respond to a Wink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Questions? info@wink-kink.com Jayme or Jennifer 541-484-0519 INDUSTRIOUS, ARTIST, CYNIC. OLDSCHOOLPARTYING Just looking for someone who wants to hook up now and again. Really enjoy my space, not look- ing for a relationship. Message me if you’re interested. Jabberwock, 26, g Looking for couple to party with. Like people who like to to get high while hooking up. I’m a good time guy who’s looking for good time people. Saberkane, 36 FUN LOVING NERD WET AND WILD OKLAHOMA MEETS OREGON Fun and Fucking.... No strings..... loves to play and looking for intense pleasure. Pics upon request! Hereforyou, 42 I dont care about age. I have a foot fetish,Something about every curve and bit of a woman. Chill and hook-up. meaning of Southern Gentleman ;) and a lil bitta cowboy. 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He says that I wasn’t actively doing anything about getting outside partners, so he wanted to show me that I’m attractive and that other people thought so. He got angry when I tried to explain why I was upset. He said that if this is how I’m going to react, he’d take the whole thing down. When I tried again to explain that I was hurt that he didn’t talk to me fi rst and I actually did want to see the responses, he said, “Fuck it,” he was giving up, and he refused to show me the responses. 1. Is it that ludicrous to be upset about naked pics of me being posted on the internet with- out my knowledge? 2. Do I deserve time to think about the naked-pic situation before he gives up? 3. Does he have a right to feel angry with me for being initially upset? What Should I Do? 1. No. 2. Yes, you deserve some time to think about the naked-pic situation. You might also want to carve out a little time to think about the whole engaged-to-a-manipulative-and-petulant- piece-of-shit situation. 3. No, he does not. Your reaction was not only understandable, WSID, it was one he should’ve anticipated. Maybe he thought it would be easier to ask for forgiveness than permis- sion, and maybe he thought it wasn’t a big deal because it wasn’t a face pic, and maybe he hoped positive responses would heal your insecurities and prompt you to retroactively ap- prove of his actions. He was wrong. But instead of apologizing for his thoughtlessness—instead of taking responsibility for his actions—your fi ancé attempted to shift the blame onto you. (You weren’t actively seeking out sex partners so, like, what other choice did he have?) He’s the one who fucked up, and yet you’re the one who’s in trouble. If he can’t apologize, WSID, if he can’t stop trying to blame you for his own stupidity, if he doesn’t stop withholding those responses from you, per your request, you really should rethink your plans to marry this man. 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Created A Monster You two may be experiencing—and you may be misinterpreting—a normal four-years-in decrease in the frequency of sex, CAM, or this could be one of those lulls that even couples in LTRs that don’t see a drop in frequency sometimes experience. That the amount of sex you and your fi ancé are having fell off steeply in the immediate wake of the “talk” may just be a coincidence. Only time will tell, CAM, so… you’ll have to give it time. But you were right to communicate with your fi ancé about your unhappiness. You get a gold star for drawing him out of his shell, sexually speaking, and he may have gotten so ex- cited about you being up for watching trans porn, putting him in your lingerie, and pegging his ass that he lost sight of your needs, wants, and desires. It’s possible that he’s less interested in sex now that it’s not all about transgender porn and gender transgression, CAM, but it’s also possible that he’s embarrassed for being such a thoughtless panty-wearing clod and is having a hard time getting things back in gear. You may need to draw him out yet again. I’m getting married in a few months, and I wouldn’t be so blissfully in love if it weren’t for your advice. Before dating my fi ancé, I was dating another guy. One night, we were watch- ing South Park and a joke was made about golden showers. My boyfriend made a half-joking remark, and I instantly thought of a column of yours in which you said men sometimes bring up their fetishes jokingly to gauge their partner’s reaction. It came out that he loved being peed on. I’m GGG, so I mulled it over and decided that I am not comfortable with that. I was able to explain that regardless of how sanitary it may be (one of his selling points!), I am not down and he deserves to be with someone who is. Couple weeks later, I started talking to my future hus- band, who has the same kinks as me. Thanks for teaching me that being GGG does not mean doing whatever your partner wants but to always be respectful, even if it eeks you out. Soon To Wed there’s nothing I can’t wax NUDE WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage IMSOHORNY I want a smooth big dick to choke me I want my tightass pounded I look realy hot in tight lingerie and I love to wear it panties are required. zero, 36 g HOURS DAILY NOON TO 2:15 AM Savage Love I’m glad you met the love of your life, STW, and here’s hoping your new man doesn’t have a secret kink that’s as bad or worse—or identical to—your previous man’s rather harmless kink. Yes, yes, being into golden showers, or getting off on being pissed on, is pretty kinky, as kinks go. But after a few beers, piss is just so much hot water. I’m not saying you should’ve gone there for your ex, if pissing on him was something you absolutely, positively couldn’t bring yourself to do. All I’m saying is that most people who give piss a chance quickly realize that golden showers aren’t nearly as gross and disgusting—or even golden—as they were led to believe by people who lump piss in with shit when discussing and/or freaking out about other people’s kinks. PRODUCTS That was a great response you gave to the woman who was concerned about her boyfriend stroking his dick and the cat at the same time. I mean, sometimes I’ll start absentmindedly jerking off while watching TV, and it has absolutely nothing to do with what’s on the screen. What if someone walked in and saw me beating off and Geraldo was on the screen? The two things are completely unconnected, and any reasonable person would realize that! 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