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CYNIC.
OLDSCHOOLPARTYING
Just looking for someone who
wants to hook up now and again.
Really enjoy my space, not look-
ing for a relationship. Message
me if you’re interested.
Jabberwock, 26, g
Looking for couple to party with.
Like people who like to to get
high while hooking up. I’m a
good time guy who’s looking for
good time people. Saberkane,
36
FUN LOVING NERD
WET AND WILD
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Fun and Fucking.... No strings.....
loves to play and looking for
intense pleasure. Pics upon
request! Hereforyou, 42
I dont care about age. I have a
foot fetish,Something about
every curve and bit of a woman.
Chill and hook-up. meaning of
Southern Gentleman ;) and a lil
bitta cowboy. J2kool, 21, g
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I am looking for some fun after a
self-inflicted
period
of
abstinence..I’ve always been bi-
curious, and would like to
explore this. But I am also up for
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salickylou, 29, g
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With a bit of luck and some seri-
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SEXPOT
Hello. emino12, 28
HORNY YOUNG READY
im 18 6’o” weigh 240 got hair
down to my shoulders im lookin
for a woman to have some fun
with and teach me the ropes.
so.when i.get.a girlfriend.ill be.
bomb.in.bed. TAT420, 18, g
Hey i’m a 26 year old guy in
Eugene who loves to drink and
do a “little” 420, party naked and
have sex! no one over 40 please.
Shambam_bamina, 26,
g
BIGCOCK4YA
Just hoping for someone sexy.
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GIVING MORE ORGASMS
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over and over. Call me, Starr for
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A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN
I’m a easy going guy just moved
out here.Looking for to spand
time with someone from the
area and show me some of the
things to do. thegutch, 41
WANTING,CRAZY FUN
love to show wife the OTHER
WILD SIDE of marrige.Him 46
slender,6’3 160 lbs .Her48 130 lbs.
would like to meet cpl start
slow,maybe same room sex,who
knows. trickster21, 46, g
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Hi ther we are lookin for a no
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My fi ancé and I have been together for six years. We’re both 27. About a year ago, he
admitted to me that he is bi—which I was surprised about. I told him that I was bi-curious. We
have had talks about meeting with other couples. I am very insecure. I have been with very
few men and no women (beyond kissing). Today, he told me that a few weeks ago he signed us
up on a personals website and posted a picture of me naked from the waist down on the site.
I was shocked and upset. I have NEVER posted nude pics of myself anywhere! I felt this was
a violation of my privacy. He says that I wasn’t actively doing anything about getting outside
partners, so he wanted to show me that I’m attractive and that other people thought so. He got
angry when I tried to explain why I was upset. He said that if this is how I’m going to react, he’d
take the whole thing down. When I tried again to explain that I was hurt that he didn’t talk to
me fi rst and I actually did want to see the responses, he said, “Fuck it,” he was giving up, and
he refused to show me the responses.
1. Is it that ludicrous to be upset about naked pics of me being posted on the internet with-
out my knowledge?
2. Do I deserve time to think about the naked-pic situation before he gives up?
3. Does he have a right to feel angry with me for being initially upset?
What Should I Do?
1. No.
2. Yes, you deserve some time to think about the naked-pic situation. You might also want
to carve out a little time to think about the whole engaged-to-a-manipulative-and-petulant-
piece-of-shit situation.
3. No, he does not. Your reaction was not only understandable, WSID, it was one he
should’ve anticipated. Maybe he thought it would be easier to ask for forgiveness than permis-
sion, and maybe he thought it wasn’t a big deal because it wasn’t a face pic, and maybe he
hoped positive responses would heal your insecurities and prompt you to retroactively ap-
prove of his actions. He was wrong. But instead of apologizing for his thoughtlessness—instead
of taking responsibility for his actions—your fi ancé attempted to shift the blame onto you. (You
weren’t actively seeking out sex partners so, like, what other choice did he have?) He’s the one
who fucked up, and yet you’re the one who’s in trouble. If he can’t apologize, WSID, if he can’t
stop trying to blame you for his own stupidity, if he doesn’t stop withholding those responses
from you, per your request, you really should rethink your plans to marry this man. Bi and
sexually adventurous are great traits in a mate, dishonest and emotionally abusive are not.
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I have been with my fi ancé for four years. We are happy together and very much in love.
When I met him, he was a bit boring, and I brought him out of his shell. But now I’m starting
to feel like I’ve created a monster. He has discovered that he is REALLY into some things. For
example: trans porn, wearing my lingerie, being on the “receiving end” of my strap-on, etc. All
of these things are fi ne—once in a while. But it makes me feel like less of a woman when all he
wants to do is BE THE WOMAN EVERY SINGLE TIME! We have talked about it, and he has cut
back, but I can’t help but wonder… is he less satisfi ed in bed now? I have noticed a drop in how
often we have sex after we had the “talk.” I’m getting bored and worried!
Created A Monster
You two may be experiencing—and you may be misinterpreting—a normal four-years-in
decrease in the frequency of sex, CAM, or this could be one of those lulls that even couples in
LTRs that don’t see a drop in frequency sometimes experience. That the amount of sex you
and your fi ancé are having fell off steeply in the immediate wake of the “talk” may just be a
coincidence.
Only time will tell, CAM, so… you’ll have to give it time.
But you were right to communicate with your fi ancé about your unhappiness. You get a
gold star for drawing him out of his shell, sexually speaking, and he may have gotten so ex-
cited about you being up for watching trans porn, putting him in your lingerie, and pegging his
ass that he lost sight of your needs, wants, and desires. It’s possible that he’s less interested in
sex now that it’s not all about transgender porn and gender transgression, CAM, but it’s also
possible that he’s embarrassed for being such a thoughtless panty-wearing clod and is having
a hard time getting things back in gear. You may need to draw him out yet again.
I’m getting married in a few months, and I wouldn’t be so blissfully in love if it weren’t for
your advice. Before dating my fi ancé, I was dating another guy. One night, we were watch-
ing South Park and a joke was made about golden showers. My boyfriend made a half-joking
remark, and I instantly thought of a column of yours in which you said men sometimes bring up
their fetishes jokingly to gauge their partner’s reaction. It came out that he loved being peed
on. I’m GGG, so I mulled it over and decided that I am not comfortable with that. I was able to
explain that regardless of how sanitary it may be (one of his selling points!), I am not down and
he deserves to be with someone who is. Couple weeks later, I started talking to my future hus-
band, who has the same kinks as me. Thanks for teaching me that being GGG does not mean
doing whatever your partner wants but to always be respectful, even if it eeks you out.
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I’m glad you met the love of your life, STW, and here’s hoping your new man doesn’t have
a secret kink that’s as bad or worse—or identical to—your previous man’s rather harmless kink.
Yes, yes, being into golden showers, or getting off on being pissed on, is pretty kinky, as kinks
go. But after a few beers, piss is just so much hot water. I’m not saying you should’ve gone
there for your ex, if pissing on him was something you absolutely, positively couldn’t bring
yourself to do. All I’m saying is that most people who give piss a chance quickly realize that
golden showers aren’t nearly as gross and disgusting—or even golden—as they were led to
believe by people who lump piss in with shit when discussing and/or freaking out about other
people’s kinks.
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That was a great response you gave to the woman who was concerned about her boyfriend
stroking his dick and the cat at the same time. I mean, sometimes I’ll start absentmindedly
jerking off while watching TV, and it has absolutely nothing to do with what’s on the screen.
What if someone walked in and saw me beating off and Geraldo was on the screen? The two
things are completely unconnected, and any reasonable person would realize that!
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