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KINK Eugene Weekly’s Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles Respond to a Kink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Ads with a ☎ have Voice Mail Messages call 1-520-547-3020 (Charges may apply) STRAIGHT HARD GIRTH Sub, looking to learn more about BDSM and anything that teacher would like to show me. Must be physiologically dominant and alluring too, as I am a feisty little bitch. Bone_Mission, 25, ☎, g , #106498 UNIQUE, UNUSUAL, UNCONVENTIONAL Looking for strange, intense people who need the same kinds of tension relief that I require. No emotional attachments. Intelligence is a must. FunBun, 24, g , #106488 2 SEXY WOMEN SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO 30’s black,bigbreasted&curvy.We really enjoy giving erotic mas- sages.30’s Italian,nice rack who works with me.We work as a team or solo.Tense? Need2 relax or just looking for a happy ending. g , Eclipse2, 31, #106439 Impeccable hygiene is a must. Intelligence preferred. Be sexu- ally open, honest, and mature. Into transvestites, groups, would love to try a gang bang, into new experiences. Sex positive, no shame. I_want_it_all, 31, #105142 DISCREET FUN I WANT PLEASURE i’m an attractive, single mom looking for discreet fun...would enjoy an attractive, dominant, personality as i tend to 2 b more submissive...send me a msg and lets chat! Sammi, 43, g , #105766 I’m bored & tired of this vanilla world. I like 2 get what I want & please others. Live life to the full extent of what you imagine & what you want. DESIRE, 27, g , #101108 LAD UNCHAINED-SEEKS TEMPTRESS Free and sensitive seeker of adventure searches for the hal- lowed healing magicks of the female kind. Looking for good connections for a good time. NSA. Familiar_Parable, 28, g , #106562 NEW EXCITMENT Looking for some hot new expe- riences. 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Miss the womanly touch. pandagirl, 20, g , #106511 Single and ready to mingle! 22, young, energetic, KING IN THE BEDROOM as i am a leo. I love to please and to be pleased. g , Alexp510, 22, #106587 LOOKIN FOR..... CUTE, SEXY, ADVENTUROUS I am a cute fun girl that is look- ing for the same, for hot make out sessions that could turn into wild fun sex. I am very eager to please! girllover, 31, #106451 FREAKY SCORPIO I like whips, chains, and gags. I’m dominant but looking for domi- nation. I’m insatiable, sadistic, yet happy and caring. I’m a pas- sionate lover with a very dirty open mind. Sunshine05, 19, g , #106104 Looking for someone who wants to have fun. Down for almost anything ;). lavish420, 21, g , #106585 YOUNG CURIOUS I am an older guy with a younge guys mind. Seeking guys(19-25) for some fun. Mostly want to hang out and enjoy the company but if it goes further great. YoungeOldGuy, 45, g , #106492 CURIOUS Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks beautiful boy for first time encounter. I want to adore your smooth, lean body. A lot to ask for? Of course. maxd, 41, g , #103934 FIRST TIME Ready for the 1st time. Im a bot- tom. Discreet. im handsome 18-48. timber, 32, #103352 I am just a new boy Stranger in this town Where are all the good times? Who’s gonna show this stranger around? Need a dirty woman, need a dirty girl. Toyboy, 22, g , #106580 YOUNG COUPLE WANTS3RD young couple looking to spice things up in the bedroom for the first time. want an attractive woman plz. sexycou- ple8391, 20, g , #106581 NYMPHO ,SEXY, SWEETLIPS Couple looking for 25-50yr-old woman to join adult fun.We are not into whip and chains,we like hot steamy sex.Husband is a nympho,need help satisfying him.I am bi-curious,but into my man. webbed, 44, g , #106565 I have always been attracted to women. But I have had experiences with other males as well. All fondling. I have at times found the penis erotic, but it does not consume me. I enjoy women and prefer them in every respect. I get pegged, so to speak, as being gay quite a lot. I recognize why: I fl irt with men. I like being nice and making people happy. I think some guys confuse my polite “I love everybody” hippie vibe for my being willing to suck their dicks. I am a pretty boy, so perhaps this causes confusion. My eyes are feminine, I have long lashes, I make eye contact with everyone. Also, I notice that I tend to display “mate poaching behavior,” meaning I tend to fl irt with women who are in relationships, and I have been with quite a few women who are in relationships, or married, and these “committed” women are often attracted to me. I guess I am just a fl irtatious guy. I consider myself a very sensual person. Also: I act more gay around homophobes, to the point where even I start to question myself. Yet I know I love women. I enjoy being with women and I am happy with women. It dawns on me that these accusers — the men who think I’m gay — might be the insecure ones. Many of the homophobes I meet display dominant behavior to each other: squabbling with friends, getting drunk and fucking with each other. From my hippie “all-is-love” perspective, this seems more gay than just being nice, sensitive, and caring. To break it down: Sometimes I feel gay. But usually it is only around insecure homophobes who I don’t consider physically beautiful at all! I have been around a lot of gay people. I worked a promotion for a pride festival and a liquor promotion for a gay bar. I don’t feel gay around gay people! I feel very frustrated, Dan, because I don’t feel confused at all, but I feel like I confuse people. Damn Acronyms Really Evade I should probably reread your letter before I bang out a response, DARE, but that might prompt me to throw my laptop, myself, or both right out the open window I’m sitting next to. So forgive me for dashing this off: Yes, DARE, you confuse people. And you’re doing it on purpose, pretty little hippie, as you damn well know. But allow me to unpack your bullshit for you just in case in you damn well don’t… You pursue women who have boyfriends and fl irt with men who have issues because you’re an egotistical little narcissist who derives sadistic pleasure from causing erotic chaos wherever you go. When you bed women who have boyfriends or husbands, it proves that you’re just as hot as you think you are; when you fl irt with and unnerve straight-identifi ed ho- mophobes, it proves that you’re just as hot as you think you are. But you don’t allow yourself to fl irt with good-looking dudes, DARE, because you’re not secure enough in your sexuality to risk batting your eyelashes at a guy who you might actually want to go to bed with. I’m sorry if all of that sounds harsh, pretty little hippie, and there are worse things you could do than be a player and a prick tease. (And, hey, I’m all for fucking with confl icted closet cases.) But at some point, you’re going to have to admit — at least to yourself — that your “I love everybody” routine is a disguise, and you get off on creating confusion, and you’re a narcissist (perhaps with cause) with a sadistic streak (not that there’s anything wrong with a sadistic streak, properly channeled). You’re the satyr, DARE, not the faun. Own it. LOOKING FOR FUN Hubby and I are simply looking for a lovely lady to have some fun with. We want to find some- one to play with one-on-one and all together. screw- g , ballshome, 25, #106514 NUDE HOURS DAILY DANCER AUDITIONS 5665;6!(4 *(33 465>,+ ;()3,+(5*,: I’m 26, bi, female, and my idea of a successful long-term relationship lands somewhere between monogamish — awesome word! — and completely nonmonogamous. Basically, I want a primary partner but I enjoy me some women, and a threesome sounds like a great birthday present. I’ve tried telling potential partners about my kinks on the fi rst date. At fi rst, they’re all into it — I’m every dude’s dream, right? — but eventually the men all change their minds about wanting that type of relationship. What am I doing wrong? Apparently NOT Every Man’s Dream So basically, ANEMD, you’re 26 years old and you’re still single. Where do I send fl owers? Look, kiddo, you might wanna think of your romantic history this way: Every man you’ve been with so far either hasn’t wanted the type of relationship you’re offering or hasn’t wanted you. That doesn’t mean there aren’t men out there who do want the type of relationship you’re offering and/or you, only that you haven’t met one yet. And that’s perfectly normal for someone your age. Keep calm, carry on, and push that kink conversation back to the third date. SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES! NO COVER WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage Dear readers: I’m on vacation. The questions and answers in this week’s column are three recent installments of the “Savage Love Letter of the Day,” which folks with the SLAPP — the Savage Love app for iPhone or Android — receive daily via the miracle of modern technology. If you have the SLAPP, you’ve already read these questions and second-guessed my answers. Sorry about that. If you don’t have the SLAPP, you’re not getting your full weekly dose of Sav- age Love, and I’m sorry about that, too. Looking for exciting encounters. I am an attractive, younger gentleman full of lust and pas- sion. I would be willing to try most everything. no relation- ship. excitement, 26, g , #106575 YES SIR? Savage Love NO COVER :(:[YLL[:WYPUNMPLSK I’m a 27-year-old straight guy. This girl I work with is everything I want in a partner. We’ve been fl irting at work and on Facebook, and it’s getting to the point where one of us has to make a move. But she’s already got a boyfriend. I’ve been the guy who gets cheated on, and I won’t do that to someone else. Also, I’ve recently been promoted and I’m now her immediate superior. She’s a shit employee: lazy, rude to customers, and last week I had to call her on a really basic mistake. Despite these complications, I want to make a real move on her. But how do I get around these issues? Frustrated In Sydney I’m having a hard time reconciling “everything I want in a partner” with “willing to cheat on her boyfriend.” A previous girlfriend cheated on you and that was a traumatizing experience. Do you really want to be with another woman who’s capable of cheating on her boyfriend? Also: My naturally suspicious nature has me wondering if she didn’t see your promotion coming — the one that made you her immediate supervisor — and the fl irting always was and still is an insurance policy that protects her from being fi red. Right now, you’re not going to fi re her because you want to fuck her, FIS, and once you’ve fucked her, you won’t be able to fi re her because she’ll be able to accuse you of sexual harassment. See how that works? My advice: Go to your boss and tell him that a little innocent coequal-coworker-to-coequal- coworker fl irtation has been queered by your promotion, and it would be a sensitive situation even if the other employee was a good worker. But she’s a shit worker, and if she doesn’t shape up, someone is going to have to fi re her. And that someone can’t be you. Ask your boss to place this girl under someone else, FIS, and after this girl’s new im- mediate supervisor fi res her, you’ll quickly fi nd out if she was ever really interested in being “placed” under you at all. 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