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But she frets that she’s too old for me and will die before me and it isn’t fair to have the feelings we do. I can hang on to this ledge, Dan, and not let myself utterly fall for this woman so that she doesn’t break my heart when she says we must part as friends. I think that is what is coming. But I know she feels conflicted, and I can’t see anything wrong with the two of us enjoying what time we have together. The future is unfixed for everyone; you never know what will happen tomorrow. Why deny something we both want, if it’s what we both want? If I have to just walk away from this with a slew of great memories of a loving introduction to the greatest city on earth, there are certainly worse things. But I wish I could convince her to at least let us have a chance. How can I do that, Dan? What on earth can I say? Lost In Fog Everyday Start with the clichés — “Age is just a number,” “I could get hit by a bus tomorrow,” “Someone’s gotta change your diapers” — and finish with a grace note: You love her, and you want to be with her, and you hope you’ll always be close, whatever she ultimately decides. That said, and forgive me for this, LIFE, it’s possible that although this woman is what you want, you’re not what she wants — for reasons that have nothing to do with age. She may be point- ing to the obvious age discrepancy because it’s a convenient, face-saving out, a way for her to pull the plug while sparing your feelings. So a word of warning: If she wants out and cites age, you may be tempted to press your case — and you should, up to a point — but press your case too far, and she may wind up telling you the inconvenient, face-squandering, feelings-spearing truth. I’m a bi male in a long-distance, long-term, and hypothetically poly relationship, and I’m going to a speed-dating event soon. Our relationship is “hypothetically” poly in that my boyfriend and I have not had a third in a few years. I’ve had a couple dates in that time (with both guys and girls), disclosed, introduced them to my boyfriend, etc., and done everything a good poly boy is supposed to do. I didn’t end up dating any of them, just from lack of personality/sexual compatibility. I’ve never been to a speed-dating event before, though, so I’m not sure about protocol. I think that bringing up bi/poly would make the whole five minutes (or whatever) about that, and I’d really rather talk about mutual interests etc. Sexual orientation is a rather overdone topic to me, and talk- ing about only that wouldn’t let me figure out if I’m even interested in the other person. I’m not em- barrassed by it at all (I’m completely uncloseted); I’d just rather talk about more interesting things. So should I disclose during a speed date that I am (1) poly and/or (2) bisexual, or should I save it for a follow-up date? Speed Disclosure I tried to contact a few speed-dating businesses but couldn’t find one with a contact phone number on its website — and that fact, coupled with the Mountain-Dew-swilling-teenager-on- MySpace quality of the sites themselves, kind of makes commercial speed-dating services look a little tawdry. Anyway, SD, disclosure is called for when a routine, obvious, and logical assumption is incor- rect. Since most people are straight, the onus is on the gay person to come out. Since most gay people aren’t morons, the onus is on members of GOProud to identify themselves before getting disrobed. Other speed daters are going to make the reasonable assumption that you are (1) single and (2) gay or straight, depending on whether we’re talking about a gay or straight speed-dating event. That said, SD, due to prejudices beyond your control — biphobia, polyphobia — you may omit the bi/poly info about yourself on that first five-minute date. But you’re obligated to disclose before a second date is arranged. Not to spare the women and/or men you might wind up dating from the unspeakable horrors of going out with a bi/poly dude, but to avoid wasting time on women and/or men who can’t handle it. I am a 19-year-old straight male who is only attracted to chubby girls, though I myself am rather skinny. It took a while, but I’ve learned to embrace this (though at first it seemed almost as scary as if I were to come out as gay). However, the problem I seem to have now is that the girls whom I find attractive — big girls — don’t think of themselves as attractive, and that is a turnoff for me. Despite what seems like constant effort on my part to raise my exes’ confidence in themselves, they never got any better and the relationships always ended. I’m not exactly bursting with confidence myself, either, but I tried my best to be a loving and supportive boyfriend. Yet time and time again, their images of themselves somehow seemed to actually turn worse, not better. I attribute a lot of their initial insecurity to the media, but I can’t help but believe I somehow screw up and exacerbate it. Troubled Horndog In Need Call the GUITAR DOCTOR ” experienced, honest, expert guitar repair Se et-Ups / All Manner of Repair Set-Ups C Complete Fretwork Complet Electronics Electron Reasonable Rates, Fast Turnaround Reasona Local Ba Bands Testify! CALL TODAY FOR A PROFESSIONAL DIAGNOSIS You’re young and you’ve accepted your attraction to bigger girls, THIN, and that’s great. But the girls you’ve dated — presumably close to your own age — are doubtless still struggling with all the shit that’s been thrown at them about their bodies. To grow confident about something that caused you a lot of pain — to say nothing of being with someone who’s attracted to you in large part because of that something-that-caused-you-pain — can take time. That said, THIN, if all the bigger girls you’ve dated emerged from your relationship feeling worse about themselves and their bodies … you might be doing something wrong. Were you treat- ing your girlfriends like human beings and talking about their bodies in a way that made them feel attractive? Or did you treat them like fetish objects and talk about their bodies in a way that made them feel disgusted with themselves — and with you? RICK KNEALE 541-513-9984 WWW.RKNEALEGUITARS.COM Frances waxing specialist 541-510-5773 I’m a gay college student who’s into bondage and kink. I’m also very involved with the Episcopal Church and want to become a leader in my church. I don’t think that my predilection for bondage and my desire to pursue ordained ministry conflict, especially because I am fairly monogamous. Is there a conflict? Wannabe Ordained Kinkster there’s nothing I can’t wax barebodywaxingstudio.com I don’t see a conflict, WOK, but I am not now, nor have I ever been, the Archbishop of Canter- bury. If you can meet and marry a nice boy who shares your kinks, and you remain successfully monogamous, and you have no desire to go to the Folsom Street Fair or post play pictures of yourself on kinky personal sites, I don’t see how your coreligionists will learn about your sexual interests, much less be scandalized by ’em. That said, WOK, um … I have nothing more to add. Fuck Sarah Palin, go Bears, preorders: tinyurl.com/4f2g524. SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES! NUDE HOURS DAILY DANCER AUDITIONS 5665;6!(4 *(33 NO COVER Savage Love 465>,+ ;()3,+(5*,: NO COVER Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage. mail@savagelove.net :(:[YLL[:WYPUNMPLSK WWW.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM • BLOGS.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM EUGENE WEEKLY JANUARY 27, 2011 35
