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don’t know where to start. look-
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looking for fun ill send pix if u
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#105924
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#105791
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I don’t know what I want and
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Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
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Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 30,
#105142
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want to have a lot of fun. New to
eugene and looking for some
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1 ON 1
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22,
#105822
SEEKING ENHANCED PLEA-
SURE
I want it without any strings
attached. I know how to cook
delicious meals and love to share
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someone to spend time with and
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Seeking female pleasure partner
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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I’m from the other side of the country, but I’m sitting in my lover’s San Francisco apartment
wondering what I’m doing. I flew out here to spend five glorious days with her. We connect sexually
(she’s a Dom stone-butch top, I’m a queer femme sub), we connect intellectually, and we make each
other laugh. I’m head over heels for her and for this city.
But she’s literally twice my age. In no way does this bother me. She’s handsome and wonderful,
and I’m so proud to be with her. But she frets that she’s too old for me and will die before me and it
isn’t fair to have the feelings we do.
I can hang on to this ledge, Dan, and not let myself utterly fall for this woman so that she
doesn’t break my heart when she says we must part as friends. I think that is what is coming. But I
know she feels conflicted, and I can’t see anything wrong with the two of us enjoying what time we
have together. The future is unfixed for everyone; you never know what will happen tomorrow. Why
deny something we both want, if it’s what we both want?
If I have to just walk away from this with a slew of great memories of a loving introduction to
the greatest city on earth, there are certainly worse things. But I wish I could convince her to at
least let us have a chance. How can I do that, Dan? What on earth can I say?
Lost In Fog Everyday
Start with the clichés — “Age is just a number,” “I could get hit by a bus tomorrow,” “Someone’s
gotta change your diapers” — and finish with a grace note: You love her, and you want to be with
her, and you hope you’ll always be close, whatever she ultimately decides.
That said, and forgive me for this, LIFE, it’s possible that although this woman is what you
want, you’re not what she wants — for reasons that have nothing to do with age. She may be point-
ing to the obvious age discrepancy because it’s a convenient, face-saving out, a way for her to pull
the plug while sparing your feelings.
So a word of warning: If she wants out and cites age, you may be tempted to press your case
— and you should, up to a point — but press your case too far, and she may wind up telling you the
inconvenient, face-squandering, feelings-spearing truth.
I’m a bi male in a long-distance, long-term, and hypothetically poly relationship, and I’m going to
a speed-dating event soon.
Our relationship is “hypothetically” poly in that my boyfriend and I have not had a third in a few
years. I’ve had a couple dates in that time (with both guys and girls), disclosed, introduced them to
my boyfriend, etc., and done everything a good poly boy is supposed to do. I didn’t end up dating
any of them, just from lack of personality/sexual compatibility.
I’ve never been to a speed-dating event before, though, so I’m not sure about protocol. I think
that bringing up bi/poly would make the whole five minutes (or whatever) about that, and I’d really
rather talk about mutual interests etc. Sexual orientation is a rather overdone topic to me, and talk-
ing about only that wouldn’t let me figure out if I’m even interested in the other person. I’m not em-
barrassed by it at all (I’m completely uncloseted); I’d just rather talk about more interesting things.
So should I disclose during a speed date that I am (1) poly and/or (2) bisexual, or should I save it
for a follow-up date?
Speed Disclosure
I tried to contact a few speed-dating businesses but couldn’t find one with a contact phone
number on its website — and that fact, coupled with the Mountain-Dew-swilling-teenager-on-
MySpace quality of the sites themselves, kind of makes commercial speed-dating services look a
little tawdry.
Anyway, SD, disclosure is called for when a routine, obvious, and logical assumption is incor-
rect. Since most people are straight, the onus is on the gay person to come out. Since most gay
people aren’t morons, the onus is on members of GOProud to identify themselves before getting
disrobed.
Other speed daters are going to make the reasonable assumption that you are (1) single and
(2) gay or straight, depending on whether we’re talking about a gay or straight speed-dating event.
That said, SD, due to prejudices beyond your control — biphobia, polyphobia — you may omit
the bi/poly info about yourself on that first five-minute date. But you’re obligated to disclose
before a second date is arranged. Not to spare the women and/or men you might wind up dating
from the unspeakable horrors of going out with a bi/poly dude, but to avoid wasting time on
women and/or men who can’t handle it.
I am a 19-year-old straight male who is only attracted to chubby girls, though I myself am rather
skinny. It took a while, but I’ve learned to embrace this (though at first it seemed almost as scary as
if I were to come out as gay). However, the problem I seem to have now is that the girls whom I find
attractive — big girls — don’t think of themselves as attractive, and that is a turnoff for me. Despite
what seems like constant effort on my part to raise my exes’ confidence in themselves, they never
got any better and the relationships always ended. I’m not exactly bursting with confidence myself,
either, but I tried my best to be a loving and supportive boyfriend. Yet time and time again, their
images of themselves somehow seemed to actually turn worse, not better. I attribute a lot of their
initial insecurity to the media, but I can’t help but believe I somehow screw up and exacerbate it.
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You’re young and you’ve accepted your attraction to bigger girls, THIN, and that’s great. But
the girls you’ve dated — presumably close to your own age — are doubtless still struggling with all
the shit that’s been thrown at them about their bodies. To grow confident about something that
caused you a lot of pain — to say nothing of being with someone who’s attracted to you in large
part because of that something-that-caused-you-pain — can take time.
That said, THIN, if all the bigger girls you’ve dated emerged from your relationship feeling
worse about themselves and their bodies … you might be doing something wrong. Were you treat-
ing your girlfriends like human beings and talking about their bodies in a way that made them feel
attractive? Or did you treat them like fetish objects and talk about their bodies in a way that made
them feel disgusted with themselves — and with you?
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I’m a gay college student who’s into bondage and kink. I’m also very involved with the Episcopal
Church and want to become a leader in my church. I don’t think that my predilection for bondage
and my desire to pursue ordained ministry conflict, especially because I am fairly monogamous. Is
there a conflict?
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I don’t see a conflict, WOK, but I am not now, nor have I ever been, the Archbishop of Canter-
bury. If you can meet and marry a nice boy who shares your kinks, and you remain successfully
monogamous, and you have no desire to go to the Folsom Street Fair or post play pictures of
yourself on kinky personal sites, I don’t see how your coreligionists will learn about your sexual
interests, much less be scandalized by ’em.
That said, WOK, um … I have nothing more to add. Fuck Sarah Palin, go Bears, preorders:
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