Image provided by: University of Oregon Libraries; Eugene, OR
About Eugene weekly. (Eugene, Oregon) 1993-current | View Entire Issue (July 30, 2009)
KINK Eugene Weekly’s New Alternative Dating Site • Browse local postings • Post your own profi le • Connect with local singles Respond to a Kink ad. Visit wink-kink.com and enter the ad ID Ads with a have Voice Mail Messages call 1-520-547-3020 (Charges may apply) LOOKN’ TO LOOK. WELL HUNG INTERESTED Just thought we would take a peek and see who is looking too. rusumsexy4us, 37, g , #103774 Looking for a woman not afraid to be herself and interested in getting together from time to time for FUN and ??? m r b o b 55 47 , 44, #103888 for a GENEROUS gentleman to please in every way. Let me be your naughty secret...discreet, eager to please the right gener- ous gentleman-could it be you?? aquabluegirl, 46, #103756 BBW FOR BBC Late 40’s big beautiful woman looking for discreet fun with a black men, one on one or in groups. scandi, 47, g , #103619 SEXO’LICIOUS...AND DELICIOUS! Hi, My guy and I, are looking for a lucious female for plaything. and/or video girl-on-girl pleasure as well.Into Hot sexy, and sassy.O ral,Teasing,roleplay,experiment open. maybe2day, 35, #103666 GIRL IN TRAINING “SPECIAL” FRIEND NEEDED My fuck friend moved out of state. Looking for a man that can be available to keep me sat- isfied to my standards. Bald men encouraged to apply. Smilie, 43, ☎, #103439 TRYING NEW THINGS haven’t tried a lot but am willing to learn. open to most things. just want clean fun that gets a little dirty at times. See where it all leads to!! cheesebrat, 24, g , #103326 just looking to have some dis- creet fun. I’m a nice guy who loves sex and summer fun. look- ing to have some new experi- ences, maybe even learn or teach some things. smiley- nutty, 21, g , #103858 LETS FUCK TONIGHT KINKY BAD DADDY what I haven’t tried, I will. are you knotty, lets chat. farmers daughter, tell me about it. g , BadDaddy, 50, #103755 EROTIC HEADLINE HERE Always attracted to older indi- viduals. I am a pleasant bi-guy looking to expand his circle of friends for NSA fun. No harm in seeing if we click. oboy97403, 52, g , #103641 I am looking for a girl to show me the ropes. I am desperately wanting to have a girl on girl encounter. I have never been,and want to badly. Yummy, 25, #103155 LICK ME PLEASURE SEEKER I’m looking for a woman (some couples ok) who is into hours of oral pleasures. I’m new but am wet and willing... let’s see if we’re a match. naughtymommy, 28, #102330 LETS HAVE FUN!!! im looking for guys dolls or cou- ples that want some spice in theyre life. i like bbws and cock. im looking for sex cause i cant get enough of it. skywalk- er420, 25, #103792 well, im not going to lie, im very attractive and im looking for fun so message me if you are the same way im 19, so message me tonight. ohyea, 19, #103849 Looking for discreet encounters. Massage, or worse... A hand- some and handful man standing with his toes on the edge of his deep dark wild side. cedric, 30, #103844 Experienced adaptive lover look- ing for a good time. I like to please as much as be pleased, dominate or submit, and if it sounds fun I am probably with it. TwelvetoTwelve, 24, #103841 SENIOR LOVER SENSUAL STRANGER Secure, fun, kinky women/cou- ples need look no further for a fantastically intimate encounter with an equally secure, d/d free, open-minded guy. What’s your fantasy? I can help. SensualStranger, 28, g , #101593 I WANT PLEASURE BI-MAN SEEKS FIST I’m bored & tired of this vanilla world. I like 2 get what I want & please others. Live life to the full extent of what you imagine & what you want. DESIRE, 25, g , #101108 Bi man, very oral and anal, seeks biM/F couples, women, men for rimming, fisting, more. bivia- tor, 59, #101544 CURIOUS BI SEEKS SAME Seeking bi woman who is in LTR with a man. Happily married, hubby encourages my need for a girlfriend. Want LTR friendship and lover, femme, looking for “out” sexy woman. Kimberlish, 41, g , #103927 I LOVE BOOBS! Looking for a woman to have fun with, in and out of the sexual arena. I think it’s important to make platonic connections before you can make sexual con- nections... bonnyluvsboo- bies, 35, g , #103867 BODY IS TEMPLE Inexperienced bi-curious, in love with life and its possibilities. Absent husband encourages playmates. Love dancing, good food, wine, and herb, hours of skin on skin. Fit, youthful, lovely, seek same. highpriestess, 39, g , #103860 Bi-curious, married male, clean, fit, seeks beautiful boy, 18-22, for first time encounter. I want to adore your smooth, lean body. A lot to ask for? Of course. maxd, 38, g , #103934 GET IT ON NEEDS EXPERIENCE I am moving back to eugene, and would like to explore anything from a fuck buddy to a relation- ship. I love the outdoors, and am real. hotrod, 47, ☎, #103918 I’m new to it all kink, but I really want to experience. I prefer any- one under 30, the rest doesn’t matter, just be patient. Dabble, 19, g , #103664 NEW TO THIS BUTCH SNAKE EATER Hey there ladies! I am just going to see where this takes me. Oshy, 31, #103894 FUN, COMPROMISING, UNPREDICTABLE Moderately experienced at varrying forms of kinks, from BD/ SM, and Roleplaying. If you’re new and want to learn, I’d like to teach. If you’re experienced I’d like to learn more. Sid66, 25, g , #103891 YOUR AD HERE for as little as $38 per week I LOVE ROLE PLAY.. KINK TOYS ETC.. LOOKIN FOR SOMEONE TO COME OVER AND PLAY. butch- snakeeater, 46, g , #103638 FIRST TIME SEXKITTEN AND TOMCAT Happy couple wanting to explore. Seeking Female for NSA sex and possible friendship. MischiefMonster, 32, g , #103863 COUPLE LOOKING... engaged couple looking to try our first threesome. in our mid- twenties, clean, healthy, and (hopefully to you) attractive/in shape. looking for female to talk,meet, and...see where it goes from there. TeamVenture, 26, ☎, g , #103847 im 19.....just trying to have a good time. cali721, 20, g , #103559 FIRST TIME Ready for the 1st time. Im a bot- tom. Discreet. im handsome 18-48. timber, 30, #103352 $PPQFS call Jayme or Geneva 484-0519 WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage This question comes from a point of real frustration. I’m a 26-year-old straight guy. Due to my being overweight, awkward and generally unable to attract women I’m actually interested in, I have only been sexually intimate with prostitutes and women of low caliber. I have never been able to sustain an erection during intercourse. I’ve climaxed during oral sex or handjobs. I’m not physically accustomed to getting off with anything but my hand. Worst of all, the in- tense fear of impotence has caused me to avoid sexual liaisons. When dating, I feel threatened by the expectation of sex within the fi rst few dates. Any solid advice? Sick Of Beatin’ SEXFINATIC, LOVER, PLEASER SUBMISSIVE SEXTOY LOOKING..... Savage Love % & 4 * ( / 1 ) 0 5 0 ( 3 " 1 ) : FNBJMUPEE!FVHFOFXFFLMZDPN PSDBMM SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES! NUDE DANCER HOURS AUDITIONS DAILY CALL NOON TO 517-7196 2:15 AM Join a gym and lose some weight. You’ll gain some confi dence and improve your health — and your circulation — which could help in the keeping-the-dick-hard department. (I’m not telling you that you have to transform yourself into a muscle god to be happy or fi nd love.) Seeing a doctor and getting your hands on some Viagra couldn’t hurt, either. Vary your mas- turbatory technique. Stop sleeping with women unless you’re attracted to them on some level, and recognize that holding the women who will sleep with you in contempt is an expression of self-hatred and knock it the fuck off. Since sex within the fi rst few dates makes you feel anxious, inform anyone you date that you’re not up for having sex within the fi rst few dates. And the next time you fi nd yourself in bed with someone or sense that things are headed there, SOB, tell her that you’re really only interested in oral and mutual masturbation — at least at fi rst — and that you generally take a long time to come. Then you don’t have to stress out about failing to meet her expectations because she won’t be expecting anything other than what you’re capable of delivering. Finally, there are sex workers out there who will not only get you off in exchange for your money, SOB, but will work with you on improving your skills and building up your confi dence. You may have slept with one already without realizing it because you so resented having to pay for it that you dismissed her as a cheap whore to protect your ego. Dumb mistake. I’m a heterosexual male. I’ve never been in a long-term relationship, I’ve never been in a short-term relationship, I’ve never been in a relationship. Four make-out sessions in my youth and paid sex with cheap street prostitutes is all the physical intimacy I’ve ever known. And some time before the end of this year, I’ll be turning 45. I have no explanation for how I fucked up something this important this badly for this long, but here are my best clues: 1. Deep down, I don’t think I’ve ever really believed women could possibly fi nd me attractive. 2. For me, being rejected and/or humiliated after approaching someone is an almost para- lyzing fear. 3. My professional/career/fi nancial situation is only slightly better than my romantic/sexual situation: I’m always either barely getting by or in some crisis where staying non-homeless is my only priority. I want to understand what the fuck is wrong with me and why I’m staring at a lifetime of totally unfulfi lled romantic and sexual hopes and dreams. The last thing I need right now is some Pollyanna bullshit. I want brutal honesty. A Lifelong Onanist Needs Explanations Some people are alone all their lives because they’re too damaged or too terrifi ed or too terrifying, ALONE, and some people are alone all their lives because they are simply, as the cliché goes, unlucky in love. It sounds like you suffer from social and sexual anxieties — dam- aged and terrifi ed — and could benefi t from seeing a shrink. You say you’re barely getting by, ALONE, but if you’re spending money on cigarettes or booze or pot or all three, well, you might want to prioritize your mental health over those nonessentials. Now here’s the usual line of Pollyanna crap that we advice professionals are supposed to squart out for people like you: There’s someone out there for everyone, kiddo, hang in there! But that’s a lie, ALONE, and you know it and I know it and everyone who’s ever said that knows it. If it were true, then … no one would be alone all his life. Unfortunately, I can’t just tell you to accept that you’re going to be alone all your life because we can’t know for sure that you were one of those people — one of those people destined to be alone all his life — until your life ends. So here’s what you need to do between now and death: Keep a roof over your head, put food on your table, get some help with your emotional problems and take your pleasures where you can. Do things you enjoy — alone, if you must — and you might meet someone along the way. Or not. And fi nally, ALONE, if the only intimacy available to you is paid sex with cheap street prostitutes — or, as they prefer to be called, “conveniently located and economically priced sex workers” — that’s better than nothing. Remember: Sex workers are part of the solution for you, if not an entirely satisfactory solution, so have a little gratitude and treat them with respect. I’m a 60-year-old white male, securely retired from a successful professional career. I own a nice home that’s paid for. I ought to be happy, right? There’s just one catch: I’m still a virgin. Growing up, I suffered the outcast status to which class brains are routinely assigned. So I fell behind socially. Then I went to an elite, all-male university and fell even further behind. The sexual revolution passed me by. So I retreated into my career. I never learned how to date. I considered paying for sex, but I decided that was the equivalent of admitting that I was a failed human being. Now I spend my days consumed with loneliness, resentment of the past and a constant longing for a hint of intimacy. Longevity is a family trait, and I expect to live into my 90s. Is there any plausible way to salvage something from this mess? Stop The Parade, I Want To Get On You’ve got a big advantage over ALONE, STPIWTGO, in that you’re fi nancially secure. That’s something that many women look for in men — women are sex objects, men are success objects, blah blah blah — and you could leverage your professional success to your personal advantage. You wouldn’t be the fi rst man who was paying for sex but, since he was careful to launder the money through a relationship, wouldn’t have to admit to “paying for sex.” So, STPIWTGO, why not sell the house, move to a retirement community where single women outnumber the men, wear nice clothes and drive a nice car? But fi rst: See a doctor. Reading your letter, I wondered if you don’t suffer from an undiag- nosed case of mild-to-moderate autism. There’s no cure, but a diagnosis might make you feel like less of a failure, STPIWTGO, and it could give you a better idea of the obstacles you need to overcome to make a personal and romantic connection with a woman between now and death. And I know you’re opposed to “paying for it” in the traditional sense — no conveniently located and economically priced sex workers for you — but you also might want to consider seeing a shrink who can refer you to a sexual surrogate. Then your insurer will pay for it, STPIWTGO, not you. Download the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage mail@savagelove.net NO COVER MON/WED $15 TABLE DANCES NO COVER 1836 S. A Street • Springfield • 762-1503 WWW.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM • BLOGS.EUGENEWEEKLY.COM EUGENE WEEKLY JULY 30, 2009 39
